Getting tired...really tired...

[red98vett]

I know this isn't an easy solution - but MOVE AWAY FROM THEM if you can. Sometimes being too close only makes things worse. I've always gotten along with everyone in my family and can't imagine what you're going thru - that really sucks - especially about him touching you. My ex FIL was a BIG hugger and I used to laugh cause I knew WHY he was always hugging me but he was never rude to me.

Is there a way you all can move or have less contact ??

[DianaB]

I think that, like khardy (Kim), I would just stay away from all of the family gatherings and let your husband deal with his family get-togethers. Or you could go to the gathering and just plan, as soon as the first word came out of your FIL's mouth, to go home. You don't have to put up with it!

My in-laws get upset with me (mostly aunt-in-laws, go figure) and I either plan a smart remark to say back to her or I plan on leaving. My husband didn't use to stand up for me when his family attacked me and it really hurt that he could never pick sides and when he did it was usually against me. I could tell you some awful stories about how I was treated.

[Gina]

Kimberly , all the ladies gave you good advice, all I can add is my own personal experience I had with my FIL. Like your husband, my FIL always had something to say in the past and my husband never stood up for me, and that would annoy me to no end. But this came to an end, when he bothered me it was ok, but don't touch my children. I open my mouth when it comes to them.I don't live near him any longer I moved to another state and when we see each other its much better. I am no longer that little meek person, if he says something I answer back nicely of course but I get my point. I refuse to let him get to me, and my husband doesn't say anything to be honest, he doesn't have a backbone when it comes to his dad. Kimberly just stay away and go when neccessary and when he says something degrading, put him in his place. Sometimes you have to step up to the plate to get respect... Good luck!

[Brooke]

I would just put the jerk in his place. If he thinks he can talk to you like that he will...and your kids are going to grow up hearing it!!!! Think of a few really hurtful things that are true to use as come backs in advance, and when he insults you... let it rip!!! He mght think twice if you have anything you can say that hurts!!!!
I know this is not a christian attitude, but it is something that does work fairly well when you have the guts to use it!!!!
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