Not Good News -- Surgery

[rivermom]

Originally Posted by Janet

Sheryl, I do understand it too, but all he had to say was I need time to think, or I don't want to discuss it now...not "get off my back."

Now that I can see he's drinking more than I thought and obviously while driving, I am totally losing respect. I will be telling him that our son is to drive...never him...ever!!!

He doesn't go to bars or that sort of thing. He just drinks 6 beers on his way home. My sister-in-law tried to tell me, but when I asked him he said no. LIAR!!!

I've thought today about calling the police, just like you suggested, so he doesn't hurt anyone while driving, but if I do that, how is he suppose to get to work? I know that doesn't sound logical, but I really haven't seen him drunk when he comes home. I don't want anyone getting hurt or killed, but if I was to call the police and he loses his license...then it's going to be up to me to support us, he wouldn't be able to drive to work. I don't know what to do.

I'm probably babbleing, but I'm so angry...mad...just all kinds of emotions right now. I really shouldn't even be talking about it here. I'm sure I'll end up saying something so stupid and regret it. It's just too hard to type and think rationally as angry as I still am. I feel I can't even talk with him, because I can't believe him now. I hate liars!!

I just better stop typing and just read for awhile. I need to get over this anger before he comes home or there will be one heck of a blowup and I'll be the one to start it.

Janet - maybe it will help if you go take a walk outside to clear your thoughts. It probably wont do any good to start a fight, that's just fueling the fire sorta say...

I need to add that him not coming home drunk does not mean he's not capable of hurting himself or others driving while drinking. A person can be rated "above the legal limit" and not be drunk.

A person's life out weighs by non-measurable standards any financial situations. I can't really say much more about that sentance.

If you don't want to talk about it here - ask for guidence in a prayer or mediatation to handle this situation in the best possible way for all involved. I understand completely and respect you not wanting to share your entire home situation w/ everyone here. I bet the farm that none of us here do that!

Don't worry about having regrets by what you have said so far. We are all human, NONE of us are perfect, (without sin if that's what I should refer to it as), nor have any right to judge you. Yes, we will come up with our own thoughts on any subject brought up in this forum, but ONLY you know entirely 100% the entire picture being drawn out and none of have walked in each other's shoes.