Passion, Intimacy, and Commitment

[Mandy]

Definatly changes over the years, it becomes stronger, and like Marylin said its difficult to describe.
By looking at hes/her face, can tell what they are thinking, words are not always needed. Less stress on the relational part because you dont have to "prove" yourself, or make yourself clear and explain things on how you really mean what you say or act upon.
These marriages also still need working on, but in a different way. I guess its like nurturing, and looking after what you have. You go thru so many trials and tribulations, which in a way makes the relationship a lot stronger.

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by Mandy

By looking at hes/her face, can tell what they are thinking, words are not always needed.

Haha, I couldn't even begin to tell you how many times this happens each day with us.

[Tink]

Having been married forever, we long ago tested out the committment angle.
Passion is just a long forgotten memory, intimacy is non existent when he's gone most of the time and the house is filled with adult children when he is home.


I definitely have my own opinions on this, but would love to know what the rest of you feel are the 3 biggest stressors on a marriage. Anyone care to share?

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by Tink

I definitely have my own opinions on this, but would love to know what the rest of you feel are the 3 biggest stressors on a marriage. Anyone care to share?

Well Tink, I haven't been married very long, only three years, and we don't have children so that probably means our stressors are much different than yours, but here they are:

1. Drama that we are caught between because of friends (we know a lot of newlyweds and so many of them are having problems...it's really stressful. We know two couples who are going through divorces right now. Sometimes we have different opinions about the best approach to take)
2. My emotions at times (sometimes I am overemotional and feel neglected or unloved when that is not his intention)
3. Hubby's forgetfulness at times (sometimes he forgets to do the things he says he will do like take out the trash, this contributes to #2)

[Chandra Amaya]

1. Financial situations...no matter how much you try to keep this from affecting your marriage it does.
2. transitions through the stages of a marriage. For instance leaving the "newlywed stage".
3. problems with kids & other people around you