new friend... or not

[Lindsey]

I know... yesterday she was like "so guess how many guys I've slept with? It's kind of a lot!" I was going to say 10, but I said 15 because she had already told me a lot of stories... then she was like "Are you serious? Now I feel bad! Actually, 27!" I think my jaw dropped. She's 23 years old. She was in a two year relationship and engaged, so there were 26 outside of that. She's even told me that she's slept with all her guy friends and it's no problem, they all still hang out like normal. I couldn't believe it.

[Chandra Amaya]

yeah I would say she doesn't sound like someone you would enjoy being with for very long. You seem like a wonderful person & can find friends with more morals than this girl & I know this sounds mean but I think your brother should go for STD testing.

[Lindsey]

It means a lot for you to just say that I seem like a wonderful person, I'm actually in tears right now. Last night, the first bar we were at was just down the street from my ex's house where he was having a party with all his (and my old) friends. I still miss him. My friend was trying to flirt with some jerk at a pool table and he rode a bike so she told him she did too, and introduced me and told him about my bike. He said he drove a yamaha so I was like "oh just like my ex" and he said "yeah he's a smart man. That's why he's your ex." I was so angry I actually felt like i was going to cry right there, and especially after the friend just giggled and flirted with him some more. At the second bar after I got ditched, I actually did go into the little room with a phone in it, closed the door, and cried there. I hate crying in public and I'm usually a stronger person than that but it feels like now I just can't hold anything in anymore.

[Chandra Amaya]

I understand what you mean about normally being strong & not being able to hold it in. I am normally one to hide my feelings as well. I try to never cry infront of my kids esp. but there have been a few times over the past 5 yrs that I just couldn't take it. We all have the time in life when we feel like we can't take it anymore & it doesn't make you weaker to cry. It just helps get it out so you can continue pushing on.

[AngieDoogles]

Lindsey, I'm so sorry! She sounds like she is definitely not someone you want to be around. Having a bad friend is really a lot more trouble than it's worth. I hope you are able to find someone worthy of your friendship who can help you through this difficult time. We are here for you anytime you need to vent. *Hugs*

[Lindsey]

My best friend from back home is supposed to be making the 6 hour trip down here to see me either next weekend or the weekend after. When I found out last night I was so excited and I told the girl who was here, and she was like "It better not be in two weeks, you have to come to Regina with me!" She wants me to go to this other city with her, two hours away, to meet a bunch of sportbike guys from the forum we're on, because she thinks one of them is cute. After last night, there's no way I'm going.
She's not going to be an easy person to not talk to either... we haven't even known each other a week and she calls me every day and wants to go out for coffee every night. I'm also not the kind of person who can just get mad. I guess I'll just be making excuses for a long time...

[Chandra Amaya]

awww how sweet of her to come see you. I hope you have a wonderful time. Maybe she will tell the new girl to back off