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Toodles, many many woman are like you, so never feel that you are the only one. Glad you came on here to chat about it.
You are a good wife, and mommy! I know after a while a marriage/relationschip can become stale, it needs nurturing like friendships do. It might be nice to get away, dont be too serious in the relationschip all the time, go have fun together, even if its just doing silly things together to make you both laugh. Go out on dates with your hubby, tell him you will meet him in a restaurant or bar or anywhere you fancy going. Keep it exciting, and find each other again. We tend to lose each other specially because kids demand a lot of our time, which is normal, but at times we have to set them aside for a little while to take care of yourselves.
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Thank you all for your encouragement. I agree, we really need to have more fun together. We both work for ourselves but our companies are intertwined so we just need to get away from it all and have some fun.
thanks again!!!!!!!! I feel a little better today. I will talk to him today about coming up with some ideas.
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Tell ya what, why dont you book a hot air balloon trip for the two of you. Do something exciting and unexpected for him, you will see that he will do something next time, by doing that, you make it a habit to surprise each other.
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I know one piece of advice I should have followed and that is: Don't let those feelings fester. Be sure you keep the lines of communication open and when he starts being a pain...don't wait and hold it in....use it as an example of what you've been trying to explain to him.
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![]() you are all right, I will just need to talk to him. and I will. just have to make sure the timing is ok...otherwise it will be a nightmare
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Take a few deep breaths, and talk to him Toodles, remind yourself that if you stay calm, you will solve the most.
Good luck, we are here for you!
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This is my experience, the 1st 18 months i was married it seemed like me & my husband were just off. It was like we couldn't agree on anything & everything was not the way I thought it should be. And then one day everything was fine. I don't know what happened. Maybe I finally let go of my preconceived notions of what marriage should be or maybe I gave up on trying to control everything & just went with the flow or maybe I just got used to him. But whatever it was things were awesome after.
We still hit rough patches. I had one two years ago where I was sure I wasn't in love with him anymore, I couldn't stand to look at him. He didn't do anything wrong it was just how I was feeling. I'd been having this feeling for a month & a half when I finally decided to tell him. I went to a friends house to stall & when I came home prepared to tell him I wanted out; everything was fine. I can't explain it, but I looked at him & knew I loved him & that everything would be okay. These type of feeling happen & you can't explain what's happened to make you feel this way, but you just do. These feeling do pass. You are not alone. If you can't pinpoint exactly whats bothering you then it's probably just fear & anxiety. Try & concentrate on all the wonderful things he does to show he cares. It will make you realize how lucky you are. Also doing nice things for him may make you feel better too. |
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