Feeling like a Loser

[goofywife]

I agree with what everyone said. I will add that everyone has different strengths and talents. There is a book called discover your strengths. I would recommend that you read it and take the personality test, to help you discover what would be the best position for you.

We give a test very similar to it to every applicant. This helps us with finding the person for each job (it takes a different type of person to do data entry than to do sales). Getting the wrong job can make you miserable as well as anyone arround you.

The same goes for going into management. Being the manager of a sales (or customer service) team is different than being the manager of a data entry, marketing or accounting. However; being a manager of any department means you have to have some management skills. You have to know how to motivate people, communicate, and lead.

Personally, I think its time for you to go to work for someone else in order to grow and gain new skills with out this thing at the family business hanging over you.

Once you have spent a few years working for someone else and hone your management skills with them (instead of at your family business where they will be watching you like a hawk), go back to work at the family business.

I do not believe you will be able to grow and become who you can be in that environment.

Good Luck!!!

[Ponyup]

Thanks you guys. I guess my big problem is I never had a dream. I never wanted to do anything besides being a mother, but things have changed in that area. I need to figure out what type of job would fit me. I have a book called finding your own north star that's supposed to help. I also might try the discover your strengths book. I do like to read. I plan to read the North star book over the vacation time I have coming up. Once I figure out the direction I want to go then I can set up a goal & work towards that goal. I know I am strong & capable. I just have trouble getting motivated some times.

My husband told me not to worry about it that my mom doesn't know what she's talking about. Goodness it would be so easy to be a man sometimes.

And I am relatively young I guess. I'm 27 now. Maybe I need to go back to school & get my teaching degree. That's what I started out in. I wanted to be a math teacher, but the math requirements got too demanding so I gave up in search of an easier major. I am capable just lazy. The more I think about the more I think I'd make a good teacher. I've always been a late bloomer so it just may take me a while to figure out what I really want to do.

Thank you all for the encouragement & advice. I'll let you know what I figure out.

[judy]

I can't think of anything else to add to what everyone else said!

Yes, I can - don't ever take anyone else's assessment of you too seriously; everybody has their own agenda. Your mom may need to defend your dad, who knows. It's your life and if you want to be lazy, or spend it skydiving, or become ambitious and move up, take control and do whatever you want.

I think the therapy idea is really a good one. Your self esteem needs a good kick in the butt, and that's too hard to begin by yourself.