What to do...

[Lindsey]

Last night Kyle spent the night at my house again. He was sitting on my bed and Layla was right beside him trying to play with him, her little tail was just wagging away! He ignored her. I guess it's better than trying to make her not like him. Then he was like "Will you be happy if I pet it?" She has all of a sudden turned into an "it" to him. I said yes, so he petted her for awhile. When he stopped petting her she came back for more, but he was getting a little frustrated at her so I gently picked her up and petted her for a bit, and then put her on the floor so we could have some cuddle time. She slept right beside my bed all night, and the couple of times she jumped up on the bed, I just picked her up and put her back on the floor. I think he appreciated it, and she didn't seem to make a big deal of it either. When he's not there I'll let her sleep with me, and maybe she'll start to learn when she can and can't sleep on the bed.
Kyle also told me that he would love to get a house with a big fenced yard and have a big dog, and he was like "If we end up together and I have a big dog and you have a little dog, I don't want them to just have completely different rules when they're inside." And I guess I understand that, but that would be forever away from now! I also think that when I buy my own house I would love to get Layla a little brother or sister that she could spend time with and not be so lonely all day! I think it's mostly the guilt of me being at work all day and leaving her there that makes me want to give her so much attention when I'm home with her.

[judy]

Dear Lindsey,

I hope I'm wrong, but I'm beginning to see a red flag here.

You're a beautiful, intelligent young woman. Don't sell yourself short.

Judy

[Lindsey]

Originally Posted by judy

Dear Lindsey,

I hope I'm wrong, but I'm beginning to see a red flag here.

You're a beautiful, intelligent young woman. Don't sell yourself short.

Judy

Yeah. I think I already know. I feel like I just want to deny it and hope for the best for a little while longer

[judy]

Absolutely keep trying until you're sure! You never know what will really happen.

I'm behind you

[Lindsey]

One more big blow-up last night. She sat on my lap for a couple minutes and he snatched her up and put her out of my room and slammed the door. I asked what was going on because she wasn't doing anything, and he said "She was making me mad. She was sitting there staring at me" So I guess it really is just anything now... we fought for hours and he kept saying "Is there even a point? Is this going to work out" and I told him "I'm not forcing you to stay here, or to stay with me. If you can't handle this, you can leave, and you don't have to be with me." and he turned it around and said "Is that what you really want? You want to just break up with me over a dog?" eventually we just both got tired of fighting and crying and he cracked a smile and told me he's sorry and i'm beautiful. This morning he left my house all happy, but I can't stop thinking about it. I just sent him this email:

Hi. Well I really don't know what to say here. I'm not trying to be grumpy and I'm not mad. I've just been thinking about last night. I wouldn't have gotten into this relationship at all if I thought it wouldn't work. I don't put a friendship at risk unless I really really like someone. I didn't see this coming, all the fighting. It just came up out of nowhere. Why did you get involved if you knew this all before? You and Ryden had talks about my dog, you've told me that. You knew the situation before you got into it. You even said it just kept building up over the whole time, so why didn't you just stop when it started bothering you? Is she really the whole problem here?
If you're already thinking that this isn't going to work and it's not worth working on, then let me know. I do really like you and I want to be with you, but sometimes I don't want to deal with all the frustration I feel from fighting over and over about the same thing. I don't think we've gone a week since we've been dating that you haven't asked me if I'm dumping you yet. I just don't feel like you have much faith in us.
I'm not going to break up with you. You can let your little wall down, and just accept me and accept being with me. And if not, then you can take the next step. I don't want to keep rollercoastering like we have been.
I guess that's about all...
-Lindsey

[Gina]

Lindsey, I am by far no expert, but I am a mature older woman. I think he is grasping at straws here. My husband is no animal lover but my daughter brought Gucci home 3 yrs ago. He has fallen in love with her, he doesnt kiss her but he shows his love in other ways.

I do believe your dog is not the issue here, he is using her as. He seems to be picking at fights with you for no apparent reason. Like Judy has mention earlier your a beautiful young intelligent girl. Do you really need this drama in your life? I personally think that you should move on. Don't settle, not at your age. Have the men chasing you. You deserve better than that. I have a 20 yr.old daughter and this is what I would be telling my daughter if it were her... Good luck sweetie.

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by Gina

He seems to be picking at fights with you for no apparent reason.

I agree Gina. Lindsey, you need to do what is best for you. You don't want to end up in a long term relationship where there are fights like this all the time. You deserve better. Good luck girl!