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[katepoet]

Best thing I know is to let yourself feel what you need to feel. You can do some of the nutritional things to make it easier - amino acids can help a lot with the blues - but if you stop fighting it, it will be easier to live with.

For those three years, you are more likely to have an accident, break a bone, get the flu or a cold - it drives your immune system down. That's a big part of why you should take good care of yourself. Try to give yourself time each day to feel nurtured and at peace. Try prayer, meditation, music or art as a way to find peace.

[judy]

What a terribly sad thing to happen, and to find the little angel while you were caring for him must have been so traumatic. My heart goes out to you.

It is a long time though, and maybe a low dose of an antidepressant can help you get through it. I don't think it takes 3 years to get over the terrible grief you're talking about. You have to be sure that if you do take antidepressants, take nothing that would keep you from feeling your feelings, because, as
the others said, you must feel it to heal. I do think you need to speak to a very good doctor though, because that kind of trauma is sometimes too hard to get over yourself.

You can call Silent Unity and they will listen and pray with you everyday if you need to, at no cost. Their phone number is 1-816-969-2000.

My heart is with you.

[Gina]

You do have a heavy heart and it is very understandable. All I can say is that you have been given excellent advice. Please speak to someone, whether its this forum or a clergy, a close friend. I will keep you in my prayers for something that tragic to happen in your home is deviasting. In time God will heal you, maybe with the upcoming birth of your grandchild will be a blessing in many ways.

Tink I am sorry to hear about your losses to. Life sometimes is not easy.

[RLC12345678]

My thoughts and prayers are with you during this very difficult time. I don't have many words of encouragement or advice for you since I, myself, have never experienced anything like this. All I could say is seek some counseling. There are counselors who are talk-therapists and don't even prescribe medication as part of their therapy. Also, many counselors will work with those who cannot afford to pay full price. I would suggest just looking around and making some phone calls to different counselors around your town. Also, look into reading some books on overcoming the death of a loved one or grief counseling. Best of luck. You will be in my prayers as well as your daughter during her pregnancy!