Another Mom Update

[Gina]

Lynne, What you spoke about I to went through with my parents. I am going on 51 and I had been taking care of my parents for most of my child rearing years. They have past away within the last 10 years. We are called the sandiwich generation. We are busy raising our own children and taking care of our eldery parents.

You mention our children taking care of us, this is another generation. I do hope they attribute to our needs providing that we are mentally ok. As far as they contributing finacially to us. That may not be possible for them with the cost of living so high like you mentioned and them getting by. This is why it is very important to start thinking about your old age and retirement to provide for ourselves. I listen to fianancial advsors and they always tell you that when you have children going to college do not take loans out for them as equity on your home. Have them take out seperate student loans, for they are young and can pay off the loans. You paying your home equity for student loans is foolish for you are putting a burden on your children for your elderly years. When there is no money for your retirement.


Janet sorry for stealing this thread... Just wanted to answer Lynne on those questions... I hope mom is feeling better.....

[Mandy]

I agree with everyone else, you are a wonderful daughter, mother, and person. Dont forget deep breaths, and time for yourself.

[judy]

Dear Janet,

You are so loving and caring. The other side of that coin is the worrying. I wish I could make it go away, but all I can do is to tell you that I am always here for you and support you in all that you do and in all of your feelings.

I'm sending you a big hug. I hope it helps.

Love ya,

Judy

[Janet]

Thanks all. I'm feeling better about it all. It really helps to be able to write out my feelings and Lynne...you have been so wonderful. I honestly don't think I could handle it if I didn't hear your voice urging me on and letting me know all will be okay.

I think I let it get to me a little more now because the holidays are near and with all the hustle and bustle it gets a little crazy. Plus...I really miss my in-laws even though I thought they were a little...well it doesn't matter. ..I miss them....

Mom sounds really 'up' today so that is helping too. I know I shouldn't worry so much about Ricky, but he's my baby...don't let him know I told you that..LOL. I just wish time would slow down just a little bit...I still have so much I want him to know.

Thanks again...I really need to calm down a bit before I start writing...It all seems just a bit better with a clearer mind.