ex's!!!!!!!

[Janet]

That was pretty cruel for him to do such a thing. I'm sorry your son had to hear such a blantant lie and from his father. Maybe you can see if he will forfeit his parental right if not...haul his butt to court for all he owes you.

[judy]

Dear Traci,

I had similar issues with Jessie's father. I could fill a book up with stories about that loser. He has told Jessie the most awful things over the years. She finally wrote to him when she was 11, after Joel and I began living together and told him that he wasn't her father anymore.

She has gone back and forth with him over the years. She starts to feel guilty, calls him so that if he dies, she'll have no regrets, he ALWAYS screws up and then she stops talking to him. He never came to see her when she was in the hospital for 3 months and then diagnosed with MS. She hasn't spoken to him since.

I keep out of it at this point. When she was younger, I only sent her to L.A. with his Mom. She went for about 6 weeks once a year. I always told her that there are some people who you're better off walking away from, and that he's one of them.

He's an alcoholic now so I would imagine he's getting payback. Never forget that you never have to get revenge. God takes care of these things for you. I've seen it happen over and over again.

Your children are young. Maybe very short, supervised visits once in a while.
He won't come around for long. He doesn't sound like the type who wants to really be a father. He probably got a bug up his ass and is taking it out on you.

I'm sorry you're going through this. I know how upsetting it can be when you're trying to protect your children from their own father.

[Marilyn]

Oh, Traci, that is horrible!!! I've never been through anything like that, but I agree with Judy on her insight into your Ex. The children are better off without him, if that is how he is going to act. What he is showing them is not love, not a good parental example. It doesn't sound like he has anything good to teach them. I'd keep them away as much as possible.

[Marilyn]

Oh, Traci, that is horrible!!! I've never been through anything like that, but I agree with Judy on her insight into your Ex. The children are better off without him, if that is how he is going to act. What he is showing them is not love, not a good parental example. It doesn't sound like he has anything good to teach them. I'd keep them away as much as possible.

[Mandy]

Thats freaking cruel of him!
Shows you what kind of person he is, says more about him, and where he "came" from.
The kids are definatly better off without him in their life.
Give your little boy big hugs from us!

[Gina]

Traci I agree with all the above posts, he doen't derserve to see them and if you permit vistations someone should be with him. He is poisoning their minds.. The children don't need him in their lives he is confusing them. I wish you luck for this is a hard situation...

[AngieDoogles]

Traci, I think he's proved over and over again that he doesn't deserve to be in their lives. He has caused them nothing but pain. You know this. Those kids are better off without him!

[DianaB]

Traci, if there's any way to prevent this man from seeing your kids then I would do it, otherwise I would definitely have supervised visitation. You don't need him making accusations and having your kids upset at you when you've done nothing wrong. He is just trying to cause trouble for you and the kids. How cruel that he would tell your son that he is adopted when he's not! Make sure that you document everything that he says and does and the date in case you have to go to court over anything. You'll find that just a simple thing like writing down things can help so much if you ever need legal help.