bad weekend

[Marilyn]

Lindsey, I've been unsure how to address this issue, but feel compelled to say something here. You are not Kyle's wife, so you have no obligation to have sex with him anyway. In fact, it's rather absurd that he should even expect it from you. We complicate situations when we become intimate when we should not. Your relationship would be much different if you had waited until you were married. Life is not like in the movies and TV, it's much much more complex and we need to keep some things special.

[Taurus Babe]

Oh guys can be so complicating! Lindsay, I hope things get better. I'm not one to whip out a quote, but I'd like to share this with you. I am not judging you or your relationship, I just think these are great quotes that apply to everyone.

"If someone is not treating you with love and respect, it is a gift if they walk away from you. If that person doesn't walk away, you will surely endure many years of suffering with him or her."

"You will find that you don't need to trust others as much as you need to trust yourself to make the right choices."

**From the book: "A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom: The Four Agreements" By: Don Miguel Ruiz**

Ps, Make sure to let me know if you make any trips to Vancouver!

[Lindsey]

Originally Posted by Taurus Babe

Oh guys can be so complicating! Lindsay, I hope things get better. I'm not one to whip out a quote, but I'd like to share this with you. I am not judging you or your relationship, I just think these are great quotes that apply to everyone.

"If someone is not treating you with love and respect, it is a gift if they walk away from you. If that person doesn't walk away, you will surely endure many years of suffering with him or her."

"You will find that you don't need to trust others as much as you need to trust yourself to make the right choices."

**From the book: "A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom: The Four Agreements" By: Don Miguel Ruiz**

Ps, Make sure to let me know if you make any trips to Vancouver!

Thanks. I'm totally being tough and standing up to him right now. I'm actually pretty proud of myself!
And I would absolutely LOVE to go to Vancouver! It's my number 2 Canadian place I want to visit, after Montreal! But it doesn't look like it'll be happening this year since I'm already taking 2 holidays. I'd say the same to you, to let me know if you make any trips to Saskatoon, although there's absolutely nothing here that's better than Vancouver lol. We're the "Paris of the Prairies" but that's not saying much

[judy]

"I know that some people may judge me for my life choices, but I have no regrets."

Lindsey, as long as you have no regrets, I don't think you have to worry about what anyone else thinks.

"If someone is not treating you with love and respect, it is a gift if they walk away from you. If that person doesn't walk away, you will surely endure many years of suffering with him or her."

I love this quote, Taurus Babe. My first husband left me, and I really
am grateful. I had to leave my second husband, it took years, and it was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do!

Lindsey, you've been with Kyle for a while now. You've both worked through a lot together, but if he's still not treating you as much love and respect as you need, please read this quote over and over again.

I'm 61 now and have so few regrets. I know people who have many, and that is so sad.

And...please straighten out your medical issues. Acting as a Mom,
I'd say get yourself to a qualified doctor and discuss your depression. You're not crazy, just depressed. Then, get yourself to a qualified gynocologist and, blushing or not, discuss your problems with the pill you're on.

[Lindsey]

Originally Posted by Marilyn

Lindsey, I've been unsure how to address this issue, but feel compelled to say something here. You are not Kyle's wife, so you have no obligation to have sex with him anyway. In fact, it's rather absurd that he should even expect it from you. We complicate situations when we become intimate when we should not. Your relationship would be much different if you had waited until you were married. Life is not like in the movies and TV, it's much much more complex and we need to keep some things special.

I know that some people may judge me for my life choices, but I have no regrets. I'm not particularly religious so I know some people who are don't agree with my choice to have sex before marriage. To be honest, the first guy I had sex with I wanted to marry. We waited 2 years before we did it and a year later we broke up, and I'm SO GLAD we did! At the time it hurt but I think it made me strong, and I realized that what was keeping us together wasn't that we were in love or that we even liked each other that much anymore, it was just that I had thought I could only have sex with one person in my whole life. I'm not promiscuous by any means, but when I'm in a monogomous relationship with someone I really care about I don't feel badly at all for doing what I do.
I know there's a large generation gap and a large religious and cultural gap between me and a lot of the women here, and I totally respect where all of you are coming from, so don't get the wrong idea