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Old 05-24-2008, 07:38 PM   #1
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So sad this has happened. Sounds like since she suggested you just talk to Sean, that somehow he did not like the idea of the slight change of plans for whatever reason and is either using it as an out because he really didn't want to go, or is just being childish. Sounds like she's a bit tired of dealing with it and that is why she suggested you talk with him. We never know what is going on in someone elses house. I'd probably call and make sure that they are really calling it all off, and then let it drop. Sounds like there's more going on here. It may not be about you at all, and may be a control issue between them. Probably best to just be there for her should she need you and try to plan another outing of a different type at a later date.

Hope all goes well this weekend!!
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Old 05-25-2008, 03:28 AM   #2
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I think some people have a hard time to adjusting to a change of plans. He might of had it all figured out in his head and even had his mouth watering at the idea of grilling at the park..who knows. I don't know if you're over reacting or not, I know I would be disappointed too. Just don't let this come between you and your BFF. Maybe it's time you two had a talk, but please make sure you keep your hormones in check.
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Old 05-25-2008, 11:11 AM   #3
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It sounds like she has a new relationship and boundaries and control issues still haven't been set between them. Or, maybe they have, and it's Sean's way or the highway.

But, never let love go. Your bff may have to change her ways a bit for this boyfriend, but it would be so sad to lose the friendship.

One of you is going to have to take the high road. She's not, so guess who that leaves!

You can sit down and calmly talk it over with her at another time. Like Janet said,
don't let your hormones get in the way right now.
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Old 05-26-2008, 07:54 AM   #4
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So sad this has happened. Sounds like since she suggested you just talk to Sean, that somehow he did not like the idea of the slight change of plans for whatever reason and is either using it as an out because he really didn't want to go, or is just being childish. Sounds like she's a bit tired of dealing with it and that is why she suggested you talk with him. We never know what is going on in someone elses house. I'd probably call and make sure that they are really calling it all off, and then let it drop. Sounds like there's more going on here. It may not be about you at all, and may be a control issue between them. Probably best to just be there for her should she need you and try to plan another outing of a different type at a later date.

Hope all goes well this weekend!!
I agree with Marilyn. I also think that you need to go ahead and go to the park with the other friends, and maybe invite another couple, and have your fun and picnic. Go ahead and have a good time and don't let "this rain on your parade". Your best friend is probably caught in the middle between you and her boyfriend so don't be too angry with her.

I hope that you have a great Memorial Day!!!
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Old 05-27-2008, 05:21 AM   #5
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You are not being too sensitive. I would have been crushed. You have spend all this time trying to arrange a nice day & make everyone happy & then they bale on you. I had a friend that we would make plans & at the last minute her boyfriend would want her to spend time with him & she'd make some excuse & bale on me. I still like her & like to talk to her, but I don't make plans with her anymore I just can't handle it. But if your friend is in a new relationship things may ease up as they get more comfortable with each other. I hope you had a good weekend in spite of everything.
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Old 05-27-2008, 09:13 AM   #6
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I'm sorry you're having a hard time with your friend and her husband. I hope everything worked out alright and you had a good day anyway. You'll have to let us know how it went.
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