Mom on the warpath

[Emmsmom]

Oh no ! You are not wrong at all! You have gone above and beyond for the kids AND their friends over the years! It is not to much to ask for a little respect now! They are grown with kids and one on the way now so it is now time to grow up! I bet they don't leave their own places like this! I think you did the right thing. Stick to your guns and demand the respect! {{HUGS}}

[AngieDoogles]

Tink, your children should not treat you this way. You have been very good to them and they should return the favor. I hope this situation improves. You are a special lady and you deserve to be treated as such!

[Shada]

I don't even know what to say!!!
How disgusting!!! You are a stronger person then me, I would still be in the bathroom up-chucking!!!

Good luck to you.... just keep saying to yourself, tough love... be strong and be adament that this will not ever happen again!

[Janet]

Tink...you were much nicer than I would have been. I would have boxed it up and dumped it in the middle of their couch, floor and kitchen counter. How long had the food been there to have maggots in it? I would have been so freakin mad they would be afraid to come over and make a mess.

[DianaB]

I don't think that you're wrong for getting angry either, or making them take their stuff back home where it belongs. They are certainly old enough to clean up after themselves!!!!!

[Tink]

Thanks all, I was so grossed out that I hesitated to post this, but I really did need to vent. I have now vacuumed every bit of carpet and fabric and crack and crevice. I bleached my vinyl floors, and counter tops. I have gathered all the kids "stuff" and put it in piles and plan to put it on the back porch. If it's still here by Monday the whole works is going in the dumpster. I've reached my limit.

Greg called, so I told him what's up and he made the mistake of laughing. I don't think he'll do that again any time soon! He said he wasn't laughing at the mess the kids had left me, but that he likes to see my "spunky side". He said he wouldn't have wanted to be a fly on the wall during this 'cause I'd have surely swatted him! He's got that right!

I just don't understand how they think it's ok to act like this. I've never treated anyone like this. I try to keep the house clean and taught them to do the same. WHY they'd think it's now different since they no longer live here is absolutely beyond me. I plan to set some ground rules and boundaries for all of them and if they don't abide by them, I'm going to lock my door when they come.

Enough is enough. If they don't respect me, there's no reason I should tolerate them. It really sucks to have to feel this way about your own kids, but I just can't see any other way to look at it.

[Janet]

Wouldn't it be nice Tink to give them a taste of their own medicine? You and Greg should go over and take some food, then just leave everything for them. Maybe they'd get the hint. I like your spunky side too...LOL.