So tired, can't sleep

[gja1000]

I'm sorry Lindsay. I get really panicky when I can't sleep and I know I have a big or long day ahead. It's just miserable. I think it is rude to be disrespectful of others. It is difficult enough living with others - but when they aren't respectful of you, that must make it even worse. I remember having roommates, it is not easy living with someone else, temporarily. Have you tried talking to her - I'm sure you have.

I hope things get better!

[Lindsey]

Thanks Gayle. It really is hard living with other people, especially in this case when we've been friends since we were about 8 years old. It really hasn't made our friendship stronger, that's for sure.
I haven't talked to her about this stuff, because it hasn't really been that bad. She had a boyfriend about a year ago and it happened quite a bit then, but they broke up after about a month, and since then she's never brought random guys HERE but she has went home with them. I know when she was in college she was... well I don't want to use names... she had a LOT of male friends. Like high double digits. And she always insists she has changed since then, but I think all that's changed is that she doesn't talk about it with everyone anymore. For goodness sakes, last night this guy got up literally a second after they were done, put on his clothes, and walked out of her room. Does that not make her feel like dirt??? I couldn't IMAGINE doing that over and over and over.
I wish I didn't have to deal with it. I lived by myself for a year and it was the best. In this city I can't afford it.

[Janet]

Lindsey, even if she doesn't have someone over often, I would still let her know that if and when she does again, that you would appreciate her controlling the noise...that you don't want to hear it. Ask how she would feel if you did it and kept her awake? If talking to her doesn't work...then knock loudly on the wall, that ought to make the snake shrivel up...LOL

[Lindsey]

Originally Posted by Janet

Lindsey, even if she doesn't have someone over often, I would still let her know that if and when she does again, that you would appreciate her controlling the noise...that you don't want to hear it. Ask how she would feel if you did it and kept her awake? If talking to her doesn't work...then knock loudly on the wall, that ought to make the snake shrivel up...LOL

LOL!!!!!!!! That was great, you got a smile out of me
I just don't know how to even bring it up to her. If she mentions a guy she met, or a guy she brought home, or whatever, I can just say "Yeah I heard it" but if she doesn't bring anything up at all, I don't think I can. I did make sure my facebook status mentioned how I haven't slept since 2 am... this girl LIVES on facebook so I'm sure she'll see that. I'm just trying to be subtle because I don't want to barge in and be angry about it... I don't want to ruin the friendship further and make it impossible to live together...

[Janet]

The next time you see her, just come right out and tell her. Just say...."I almost forgot, I wanted to mention something to you. The other night with you had a guest, I don't want to embarass you, but I could hear what was going on and it kept me awake. If you could, I'd really appreciate you trying to keep it a little more quiet, I would really appreciate it".

I think that sounds nice and respectful without coming down like a madwoman. I on the other hand would have walked in their room and thrown some ice water on them, tell them I need my sleep and watched it shrivel up like a prune...lolo

[Gina]

Lindsey Janet is right... I am a good hearted person but if I get mad or someone is disrespecting me I just tell it like it is.. Sorry, you need your sleep and yes it is hard to live with someone else and I never had the pleasure of moving out before I got married. So I am can only imagine..

Being you are close friends with her since childhood, you can speak your mind. Tell her that she is being very inconsiderate to you , explaining that you don't care whom she sleeps with it, that it is a problem when it interfers with your sleep. If she doesn't stop do as Janet suggested or just knock on the dam door and tell them to stop.. embarrass them!! If not you may have to find another place and let her know that.. Sorry not sleeping is very nerve racking, no pun intended lol. I feel for you. Just let her know how you feel nicely of course...lol

Lindsey I am sure she will oblige once you tell her.. Good luck!

[Janet]

Hey Lindsey...you could record it and then every night turn it up loud or hook some big speakers to the recorder and play it all night long....LOL. Yeah, I know....I'm a stinker!