The second meeting

[Lindsey]

Originally Posted by Blueyes

Lindsey..there is a world of difference between a religious/church going person, and a spiritual person. It's so disturbing to me when a person makes such an issue out of being "religious", but doesn't have the first clue how to treat people the way Jesus taught.

I agree completely.
She makes a huge fuss out of her kids not going to church anymore, especially Scott. The way he tells it, he still has his beliefs, he still has faith, he just doesn't feel he needs to go to church every week to feel it. The main thing is that he is a GOOD PERSON. He treats people well and has a good conscience. His mom may go to church every week but she is lacking basic manners and respect for other people. It doesn't make her any better a person than he is, or than I am, or than anyone else is!

[celstu1]

When you marry someone, you marry their family too.... think about that! Good Luck!

[Lindsey]

I have not had the pleasure of seeing his mom again since the last meeting, although they were in the city on Thursday night. Scott left to meet them to pick up some things while I had a friend at my house (spending the night as she was passing through town) Scott's mom called earlier that day to arrange when they'd be in and I heard Scott say "I don't need to go there for anything" and his mom said "Well I guess not unless you want to visit with us for a little while" and Scott said "No I don't really need to" ... Then he told me when he met them at his house his mom kept asking where he was in such a hurry to go, and he just said "Back to Lindsey's, she has company and we're visiting" And his mom wasn't pleased but she didn't say anything more.
Anyways, we just spent Easter weekend with my family and friends back home while his parents went to BC. On our way back to the city late last night he said to me "I love visiting your family. I feel way more comfortable there than I even do at my own parents' house" I told him I'm glad he said that because I feel more comfortable there too.

[DianaB]

It sounds like Scott is working on severing the apron ties to his Mom. It will take a while but eventually his Mom will accept it.

I have a SIL that would much rather be here than his own parents house too. It makes me glad that he enjoys being here and sad to think of what he grew up in. It wasn't the best home life. Scott's learning the difference between the two and it will help him to decide what he wants his own home to be like.

[Blueyes]

Originally Posted by DianaB

It sounds like Scott is working on severing the apron ties to his Mom. It will take a while but eventually his Mom will accept it.

I have a SIL that would much rather be here than his own parents house too. It makes me glad that he enjoys being here and sad to think of what he grew up in. It wasn't the best home life. Scott's learning the difference between the two and it will help him to decide what he wants his own home to be like.

I completely agree with Diana. My best friend has a SIL just like this, too.