How forgiving are you?

Originally Posted by Amber_lv

I personally have never had this happen but if my husband was to ever cheat on me it would be over my biggest fear would be for him to bring home an STD like aids and then what would my poor children do if we both died from his stupidity? To me that is unforgivable it makes me sick when women forgive these low life good for nothing pieces of sh@t it just gives them permission to keep doing it. I don't want to offend anyone by saying that but it's the truth to the woman who said she told her husband not to tell her if he did it again what would you do if he brought you home something deadly and you didn't even know till it was to late for you? I'm not in your situation and i don't want to offend you but you kinda gave him a license to cheat on you like what you don't know won't hurt you but it possibly could. Like the woman who are beat and abused they say he was sorry he didn't mean to and he'll never do it again but they always do and look how many end up dead from it. I'm sorry it's just a touchy subject for me my aunt was beaten by her husband for years and he raped her when he wanted sex she was in denial for years until he threw he out for a stripper ,he met at the bar. My sister also had a very controlling boyfriend and he hit her to and i threatened that POS within an inch of his life if he ever touched her again. We finally conviced her to leave him and she is married to a wonderful man now but she is scarred from her experience. I have had several friends that have been cheated on and i had one friend who was pregnant as her husband was cheating on her for the umpteenth time and he gave her an STD as well. We as women need to stand up for ourselves and show that we will not tolerate any of this behavior!!!! Sorry i will get off my soap box now i really hope i haven't offended anyone.

Don't worry you haven't offended me..i do agree with alot of the things you said. and as for cheating on me iraq i know he didn't because for some reason i am blessed (or am i) with the ability to catch people in a lie just from looking in their eyes or at least my family and close friends. i just knew in my heart of hearts that if he cheated on me and told me it would kill me emotionally so i thought at the time that was the only way to spare myself from reliving that pain again. plus in the military the test you for so much stuff overseas before you get there while you are there and before you are even allowed to come back in the states, then when you are home they test you again. he knows that i will kill him and the bitch he was with if he ever did it again...plus my mom and mil said to his face they would both shoot him between the eyes if they found out he was cheating on the mother of his babies so i think he is scared s***less as it is. he still apologizes for cheating on me so long ago but like i tell him saying i'm sorry doesn't take away the pain in my heart. and as for the sorry sob's that beat their women...it will all come back and bite them in the ass.... ever heard of karma? i have a friend who just went through a traumatic experience with her husband and she said that's enough i'm filing for divorce....she said she could deal with him treating her bad but when it came to the safety of her children she wanted him out so she called the cops-there was a shootout but they got him and she has a restraining order and is already filing for divorce.