Need advice please!!

[DianaB]

I read this yesterday, Mandy, and then didn't have time to post but I've thought about what I was going to say.

I think that her parents have been so busy taking care of themselves that they've never taken the time to have a relationship with their daughter. There are a lot of kids who don't know how to talk to an adult because adults don't ever pay any attention to them. I see it in kids all the time. It's not that they're shy, it's that adults are very intimidating to them. Try to start some conversations that she can join in to. Ask about a program at school or somthing that she's involved in. You'll probably have to lead with the questions and most of the conversation at first but hopefully as she gets to know you she'll open up.

If you're sure that this really isn't the girl for your son then you need to have a serious conversation with your son and calmly point out why this girl wouldn't work out for him and his future. Be careful because it's really hard to talk against a girlfriend. Also, pray about it. I've spent a lot of time in prayer when one of my kids has dated the wrong person.

I know how you feel about the relationship. We've had some similiar issues with Jaci and her boyfriend. I don't mind the boyfriend but I want her to also enjoy her high school years and her friends.

Good luck and keep us posted!!