New daughter in law woes

Thanks for your kind words, I only wish I could bring her home with me more often, we live 600 miles apart! thats why I am so concerned.....I have tried my hardest to make my son aware of the problems I see, so I pray he is keeping an extra eye out, I also took my grandaughter aside before she left, and tired to convey that grandma could be there in a NY min, if she needs me, and that if anything upsets her, or she is told not to tell anyone something, that thats the first thing she needs to tell me...In front of son and new wife I made it very clear that my grandaughter is to be able to call me at anytime, and have privacy if she is needing it while we talk, since this is a whole new life for her too.
I am planning a trip up to !SURPRISE! them...very soon, so I can see how things are progressing...
I had really dreamed of my son finding a nice women that would think our lil gal was the most special thing in the world, and be the mommy she so deserves. She is such a sweet lil girl, without a mean bone in her body and the most wonderful spirit. I will not allow her to be treated any less, than she deserves to be.
I want you all to know, I do not meddle, and have never had a problem with any daughter or son in law...EVER...they are grown children and they make there own decisions, and I am here if they need me, but something like this I cannot sit back and not say a word, on my grandaughters behalf, if need be.