New daughter in law woes

[judy]

That is a sad situation for your granddaughter. Since you get her for the summer, do you think you could have her for school holidays, like Christmas vacation and Easter vacation? Maybe you could go there. Even if you don't stay in their house, maybe you could find a reasonable place to stay and visit with her.

My daughter went through a similar situation with her father. Although she did live with me, when she went to visit her father (summers) in LA, she was treated like a second class citizen. They both hurt her so many times! If her stepmother's son got a Sony Walkman, she would get one too, but hers would be from Walmart and certainly not a Sony! This kind of thing happened all of the time. Then, there was the time her father came home from rehab. They called my daughter, who was about 15 or 16, to fly out so that "the whole family"
c//ould be together when he came home. I could not talk her out of it, and didn't feel that I could forbid her from going. This was her father, and she had to go through everything she did with him to get to the point where she could judge him for herself. That's the kind of person she has always been.

She finally stopped talking her father a few years ago.

Can you share your concerns with your son? If this woman does not have custodfy of of her child, what did she do to only have visitation rights?

It is a very rough place for you to be in, but with your love, your granddaughter will always have you to turn to.