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Old 09-15-2009, 02:39 PM   #10
Shada
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I am sorry you are disappointed in your mom.

I understand exactly. Your side.. and her's. I am trying myself to quit smoking. It is a horrible disgusting habit. But it is a habit that is so hard to break. I want to quit for myself. I can't quit for anyone else. Nor can your mom. Support her. She knows how you feel. She knows smoking is bad for her. She knows she is taking a high risk with already having a stroke.
She knows you are disappointed in her. She knows you told her you will never see her again unless she quits.

But bottom line is, its not your choice. Its her choice. If a family member told me they would never see again because I smoke, I would be very upset and disappointed in them. I have friends and family who don't smoke. I respect their feelings and don't smoke when I am with them. Thats my choice. Its also my choice if I smoke when I am not around them.

Heart problems run in my family. So should I be smoking? Of course not. I know that. Does it help? No it doesn't.

If you have never smoked then you have no idea how hard it is to stop. I hope someday I will be able to quit completely. My smoking has gone down considerably. In time.. I hope to never smoke again.

I have had friends pass from heart attacks, cancer, that have never smoked.
I have a friend who had a stoke when she was 45 years old, yet she is not a smoker.

Alcohol is also bad for us. Yet many drink. Can cause cancer. Can cause death.
Do you drink? Does your mother approve?

All I am trying to say here, is that please don't cut your mom out of your life. Support her in whatever she decides to do. Let her know you are there for her. That you love her.

All of us have a vice. Smoking, drinking, eating.. we all have something going on in our lifes that we would love to change. But change is hard.
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