Single?

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by Janet

All the advice in the previous posts are so true!! No woman on this earth should EVER feel that they have to have a man. That is why some woman are never happy. You've got to be happy with yourself, love yourself and know that you are a great person, a great WOMAN on your own. Don't be in a rush to get into another relationship...spread your charm around, have a great time.

I couldn't agree more, Janet. Great post!

[Lindsey]

Thanks so much everyone. I'm feeling my spirits lift. A guy that I work with also got dumped the same week I did and he is doing WAY worse than me. He hardly comes into work, won't talk to anyone, and requested to be transferred back to his hometown since he moved here for his ex. Well, SO DID I! But I'm here and I'm going to make the best of it. I heard some coworkers talking about him before they left for lunch and they were like "Sometimes you just have to get over it! Nobody is worth being that upset over!" That is so true. I feel that I had a little more self-esteem at the end of this relationship than I did for any other so I'm dealing with it better than I have before. Sure I freaked out and I still cry sometimes when I'm lonely, but each day is getting easier.

[Lindsey]

I feel like I'm still going crazy over here. My supervisor has been sick for a couple days and not at work so I've just been sitting in this room by myself and I start thinking and I miss my ex. And I hate my ex. I want him to hurt as much as I do. I hung out with his friends last saturday and when he was brought up it was awkward. Later in the night we were talking about the guy I was seeing when I met him, and the guys were like "oh we all knew about him and didn't like him at all" and I said "well ryden didn't know about him, he said if he would have known i was with someone he never would have tried flirting with me" and they were like "Oh he knew! You're just gullible" and i was like "no he didn't" and they were laughing so hard by then and told me "you are way more gullible than you think, trust us!" I didn't ask, because I want them to just think I'm over it, but I am going CRAZY now. Was he lying to me the whole time? What else did he lie about? Do they all think I'm stupid? I know not to bring him up to them because they're my friends too, but his friends longer. I know he's going out and having the time of his life and hanging out with gorgeous girls, and I'm pretty sure by now my place in his bed has been taken by someone else. It's killing me. I have to stop writing now because I'm sitting at work and my eyes are welling up

[cindy0721]

Don't sweat it Lindsey... seriously.... look at the bright side..... better you found out what a jerk he is now then lets say 5 yrs down the road.... let it go... chuck it as experience.... look... whenever you are feeling down think this,"What doesn't break us only makes us stronger", yes cliche but true... your alive right? You can walk , use your hands to eat and dress yourself? You are still good looking and have a job and a roof over your head right? It could be alot worse.... just smile and breathe in deep..... every cloud has a silver lining..... you should seriously look for that book , "he's just not into you"..... maybe it will open your eyes to other things.. you know

[Lindsey]

The thing is, I have that book, I had it before I met him, and I checked him against EVERY point when we started dating. He was that perfect guy. So I fell in love with him, the first guy I've ever fallen in love with. Then out of nowhere, he just changed. He went on a trip without me, and lost his feelings for me somewhere out in the mountains.
I know it could be a lot worse, and everytime I think that I feel so selfish and weak for making a big deal out of it. Life goes on. Even though I don't feel ready for a relationship I know the one thing that will get me over him fast is another guy. I hate to rebound but I just want to so bad. Unfortunately every guy i've met that i might be interested in just happens to know my ex. He's more well-known than I thought. I can meet a random guy on the street and they know each other.

[cindy0721]

lol... how about going on a mini trip..somewhere else ? Or maybe visiting your hometown?

[Lindsey]

I don't go back to my hometown too often because I just end up sitting in my parents house, watching tv by myself. There's only 500 people in the town, and my friends are long gone and never go back there either. As for a mini-trip, I don't have a whole lot of friends here to go anywhere with, plus my funds are running pretty low!