What a jerk!!!!!!!

[Cribal]

Originally Posted by Ponyup

I'd give it time. The one year anniversary thing would of really pissed me off because it was a broken promise he made plans & then cancelled, bad move. However, his bowling & hunting are probably habits he's had forever & are hard to change. The first year of marriage is really tough & the 2nd isn't a whole lot better. I would just continue to be honest with him about how you feel. Make sure you don't place blame. It will take him a while to learn to take your feeling into account when he makes plans. There is an adjustment period. It's not that he doesn't love you or what to spend time with you it's just that he's used to a certain routine & things like that take time to change.

Yea I don't think it's that he doesn't love me or anything but I just don't like living like this. I don't feel like I come first in anything in his life. His hunting or fishing or golfing or bowling or football or all of that s*** always comes b4 my feelings. By no means have I said that he couldn't do any of these things, all I ask is that he limit it a little so that we have time together but no matter how much I ask he just doesn't seem to care..... It would be different if he were like this when we were dating or engaged but he was ALL about me and doing things with me b4 we got married. I kinda feel like he knows he has me so he doesn't have to work at anything or spend any time with me anymore. I don't know if it pisses me off more or it it hurts my feelings more.

[Cribal]

Originally Posted by rivermom

Boye! You got home quick.

I only live about 15 min. from work and the movie store is on the way home. I just came straight inside payed with the pups for a min. and got on the computer. Normally I don't even get on the computer when I'm home. I normally only chat when I'm at work.

[Janet]

Just don't play games......with each other.

Let him know how you honestly feel and then just know in your heart of hearts

MEN ARE PIGS!!

[Ponyup]

Trust me men are really thick & it takes a while for things to sink in. why don't you tell him what you just told us that you feel like he's taking you for granted & that you aren't a priority. I would also start making a standing date. Like every tues night just the 2 of you have a dinner together (no t.v. or go out). Also why don't you try & find some things to do on those nights that he's out like do you enjoy any sports, or join a book club, or take a yoga class, if you are not sitting at home fuming & doing something you enjoy instead you both will be happier. Also why don't you go with him to bowling on wed. I understand if you don't want to stay the whole time, but go & watch. If he ignores you then let him know that that hurt your feelings. I know you wanna stand your ground, but he'll just buck heads with you. Men can be very thick he'll think you are trying to control or change him they don't understand that you feel lonely & unwanted. Also I would be more mad about the hunting, but I've never gotten the need to sit in a tree for 12 hours. My husband does it too, I have a lovely stuffed turkey I've hidden in my basement, it's totally creepy. Keep your chin up. Don't get upset just keep telling him calmly that you would like him to spend more time with you & keep promises he makes & when he breaks promises he really makes you feel like you aren't important to him. He'll get it eventually, but it will take time. My husband & I were married 18 months before I finally started liking him again. Now things are better, but it still takes forever to get through to him. Plus in a couple years you may want him to get out of the house & leave you alone.