Hubby May Have A Job

[Mandy]

I just saw this now, oh Janet.... so sorry this is all going on, it's not good for either of you.
It's a tough time of the year to find a job, well it is here, so i'm guessing it must be the same in the US?
Well girl, i certainly hope he gets sorted out soon!!
I know what you mean by, not setting a good example for your son, and i agree with you.
Now that he is at home, give him tons of chores to do around the house so he stays active, sitting at home is not good for hes self esteem, so while hes working around the house he might get ideas of what he needs to do.

[HALEY]

oh no Janet, sooo sorry,,, i thought this one was it, that he would be working.. bummer,, your hubby is still in my prayers, hang on Janet, maybe this job wasn't meant to be, something will come up, maybe a better paying job.... keep your head up girl something will come up...

[donna1990]

Janet, I am so sorry. This is a bad time of year to get a job.
Still praying for you guys.

[Janet]

We had a discussion last night. I told him I hope he didn't think I was going to be hard on him, but there were some things he needed to know. One was that this one job may not have been in God's plan. There will be something, but he can't sit and look at jobs on the computer. He needs to get out there and show people that he is a go-getter and wants a job. I also told him he can no longer mope (sp) around the house. That if he feels he needs to have a pity party for himself to do it elsewhere. Not that we don't want to support him, but that he was not setting a good example for Ricky....that when things get bad....you whine and feel sorry for yourself. That is not what I want Ricky to learn. I told Rick that I want Ricky to learn that you pick yourself up....put a smile on your face...even if for a little while and go do what needs to be done. A person has to make things happen...it just doesn't always fall in your lap.

I also told him that even though I'm ready for him to have a job.....I'm also feeling stressed because there are so many things (and I showed him a list I had written down) that need done and I'm afraid that he won't have time before he starts working again.

I suggested instead of sitting at the computer every morning...all morning....that he limit himself to an hour or maybe two, to check computer listings, but then he either needed to get busy on the list or get out and job hunt in person. No more of this sitting around thinking of how bad he wants a job....to get out and make it happen.

I hope I wasn't too hard....but he was bringing Ricky and I both down and we just can't have a household of depressed people with no hope. I won't let that happen.

[judy]

You are so good Janet. I think you really helped him with this talk, and he really can't set a bad example for Ricky. It does sound like you said everything very lovingly.

My prayers are with you all for the right job to come along.

[Janet]

Thank you Judy. Today Rick has had such much improved attitude...it's great. This morning he went to Lafayette to return some applications and right now he's at our rental house making a small repair.

[2tiredmom]

Janet,

I'm so sorry things aren't to great at your house. Hope Rick finds something soon
for all of your sakes. I remember when Gary went though this and it does wear
everyone down. Hope it all works out. Your in my prayers as always.

[Gina]

Janet,

I just read through the threads am I am sorry that the outcome was not in his favor. It is hard at this time of year, and you are right he must try to pick up his spirits and get out there. I will keep your family in my prayers.

Now is a great time for him to take care of the honey do list . Good luck with that I can't get my husband to take down kitchen border and paint, it is always an argument .He will say something stupid like you wanted this 8 years ago and I did it. Well yeah, now I don't so tear it down, stop giving me an arguement. He is frustrating me in so many ways... Sorry to vent this is not my thread....lol

Keep the faith!

[gja1000]

Did you see this on Yorkie Talk. The link to apply for census taking. http://www.census.gov/2010censusjobs/howtoapply.php The job starts in December and goes to 2010.

[Janet]

No, but I'll show it to him. Ya never know...

[Nina]

I'm sorry your husband didn't get the job, but maybe that just means there is something better out there for him.

I think the talk you had with him was good, and I don't think you were too harsh. You're absolutely right. You probably gave him just the right amount of push he needed to think more positive and get things done. That way, he's not sitting around getting more depressed everyday, which would only make him less likely to find a job. The more positive he presents himself to prospective employers, the better for him.

It's just such a tough time to be looking for a job right now, so I will keep you both in my prayers.