It's going to be an awkward night

[Lindsey]

Well, tonight I'm going to a steak night to raise money for Kyle's hockey team. I was really excited about it until I found out my ex has decided to go, along with his new girlfriend. I don't know if I SHOULD care, but I do. I don't want to see him. It's not that I'm not over him because I definitely am. I don't like to say that I hate anybody, but I have a lot of angry feelings for him.
I didn't know how he treated me until after we were over and done with. Then I found out about all the things he was telling his friends about me WHILE we were together. Stuff he swore he wouldn't tell anyone, somehow all his friends knew about! Things tend to slip out of Kyle sometimes. A couple weeks ago we had a big fight and almost broke up in the parking lot of a restaurant where we met for lunch. He said that Ryden just told him that I'm not over him yet! I haven't talked to him in 6 months! Anyways, Kyle got over that I guess, but I had to come back to work with red eyes from crying. It just feels like Ryden being around in general just creates drama, and I feel that all of our mutual friends have completely untrue ideas of me now.
I'm feeling sick about tonight. If I talk to Kyle about it, he just thinks I'm not over Ryden. I just don't want him in my life. I don't know if I'm going to be able to grin and bear it tonight, or if I'm going to say something to him, or what. I want to be the bigger person and just let it go. Kyle can't stand his new girlfriend or the new group of friends they hang out with so luckily we probably won't have to sit with them.

[Lindsey]

Ugh I just reread that and it seems kinda whiny and childish sorry guys.
I guess, I just really can't stand him and I don't want to see him and I don't know how I should deal with it. Any suggestions? Should I just ignore and pretend he's not there? Should I be super friendly and say hi to them? I don't know what to do!

[Tink]

Lindsey, you don't sound childish at all.

If he was such a rat, the best revenge is to live well without him. Let people make their own decision on who to believe... I dare bet his friends know him for the lout he is. I doubt ANY would want him to date their little sister! And that speaks volumes.

I don't know why you should be obligated to even say hello to him. I think knowing what you know about him, if you think about it, you might even end up feeling a bit sorry for his new girl. He's most likely not any better to her than he was to you.

If you really want to get him sweating, be nice to her and ignore him completely. I'm sure he's just hoping you're still crying in your pillow over him. Thank God you got out when you did! He's not worth worrying over.

HUGS

[Lindsey]

Well, for starters his new girlfriend HATES me. She always did, even when we were dating. We would all hang out together and she wouldn't even say hello to me. In fact, Kyle said she hasn't ever said a word to him either. She will only talk to HER friends. I really don't feel like being nice to her at all, and I'm happy for them being together, I think they probably deserve each other.
My older brother actually loved that I was dating him. He was the only boyfriend my brother got along with and liked hanging out with. He still tries to be friends with him, talks to him when he sees him out, etc. I HATE it. But I can't control it. And his new girlfriend... when I first met her I thought her brother was her boyfriend. They're very very close, do everything together, basically hold hands through life. Ryden and her brother are really really good friends and I guess everyone is happy. Maybe he was just like that to ME. Maybe he really didn't like me that much and just wanted to use me for awhile.

[Mandy]

Lindsey, you dont sound weird or childish at all!! The best meds for that guy would be silent treatment, and for you to ignore him completly! If he comes to you for a chat, or whatever, give him the "do i know u?" look.
Good luck, you CAN do it!!

[Lindsey]

Thanks for the support! We have to be there an hour early because Kyle has to help set up... maybe I can get a drink or two in me before he shows up and it might be a little easier! My roommate is coming along for support, so I can always just talk to her, even if Kyle is talking to Ryden. Hopefully it won't be as bad as I've been anticipating!