Have you ever cheated on your husband?

[RLC12345678]

Just curious to know if you have ever cheated on your husband or significant other? If so, what happened? Did you divorce? Did you stay together and work it out?

This is a PRIVATE poll. So, no one will know who voted for what in case your cheating is a "dirty little secret."

[Janet]

I had to pick other AGAIN!!!! Without going into alot of detail at this moment, yes, I've cheated, but so did he (each one time). Wasn't the smartest thing we ever did, but it happened. That is not why our marriage isn't the greatest..at least I don't think so. I never think about his cheating so it's not something I hold against him. Like I said in an earlier post, he just hasn't grown like I have, he is not very good at conversation, he has no ambition. If it wasn't for me pushing to get things done...he would just tinker in the garage all the time. Like I said....wish I could start over!

[DianaB]

I've never cheated on my husband.

My Dad cheated on my Mom and I told my husband I would NEVER have a husband like that. I would never put someone through what my Mom went through with my Dad.

I have a good marriage. I would never want to lose the relationship that I have.

Never cheated and never would. I also would never stay with him if he cheated. ( I am to good for that)

[Ponyup]

I had to vote other because I guess it's what you define as cheating. I kissed another guy before we got married, not make-out just a kiss. I personally don't think a kiss is cheating, but kisses can mean more & lead to other things so I try to stear clear of doing it now. I was drunk & my hubby & I were long distance & he hates to kiss anyway. I'm a kisser, I love to kiss & just kiss like when you were in jr. high/high school & would kiss for days (my high school boyfriend was the best kisser). Anyway, it was a one time thing & it hasn't happened since. I never told him & I never will. I never saw the guy again either.

I guess that's the one thing I really don't like about my relationship is that he's not a kisser. But the reason I liked him was because he seemed to be into me for reasons other than physical, like all the other boys, & I liked that. I guess you can't have it both ways, but sometimes I wish you could. Like I wanna say it's great that you love me for my mind, but now I want you to love me for my body. But he's my best buddy & I wouldn't trade him for anything.

I picked other. My husband cheated on me twice since we have been married and once before we were married. I always said I would never cheat, but lately I have been contemplating it. I worry, I will not be able to live with myself afterwards.

[khardy57]

Originally Posted by Izzy'smom

I picked other. My husband cheated on me twice since we have been married and once before we were married. I always said I would never cheat, but lately I have been contemplating it. I worry, I will not be able to live with myself afterwards.

My first husband cheated on me from the beginning. He told me this about it:

The first time was the hardest. That's when I had to deal with my conscience. It got easier every time after that.

A word of advice, when I caught him, the other woman DID NOT come out on top! You will be putting yourself in an extremely dangerous situation. Believe me, I tried to shoot my ex, but I was so pissed that I was trembling and missed. If I had been able to keep my cool, he'd be dead and I'd be in jail. If you're not happy, get out of the marriage - then do whatever you want.

[Tink]

My first hubby cheated on me for much of our 7 yr marriage. I absolutely hated him for it. He would go out with another woman and come home and tell me where he'd been, who he'd been with, what they'd done and how I compared to her in bed. It was emotionally devastating to me, as you might imagine.

I have not, and WOULD not ever do anything like that to anyone. I couldn't live with myself after. I would have no self respect left if I did.

[Gina]

Originally Posted by Tink

My first hubby cheated on me for much of our 7 yr marriage. I absolutely hated him for it. He would go out with another woman and come home and tell me where he'd been, who he'd been with, what they'd done and how I compared to her in bed. It was emotionally devastating to me, as you might imagine.

I have not, and WOULD not ever do anything like that to anyone. I couldn't live with myself after. I would have no self respect left if I did.

I must say he was scum to do it and then tell you. The gall and you lasted seven years with him.. I see why you hated him..

[katcarasella]

I just found this, a spider was looking at it.

I never cheated on Pete!

[HALEY]

No i would never cheat on my husband, but we are talking about getting a divorce this summer when the joint bills that we have together are paid off in June, and Mike gets his company truck, i don't like fighting in front of my child, and the sex life is gone, and i'm sick to death of my in-laws, just sick of the drama in my life. My son deserves better than that in life. I think Mom and dad separting will be the best for my son right now..
I believe when i took my vow's for a marriage it would be for life, but things happen for a reason i guess, i had some chances were i could have cheating on him, but i didn't i can wait till the marriage is final, then again i really don't want another man in my life right now, i want to focus on my son and my job right now.
i had enough drama in my life the last 10 years.

[janc]

I was tempted once while married to my first husband who was not affectionate at all. Turns out he was gay and liked teenaged boys! I divorced him pronto. My second husband cheated on his first wife but has not on me. He knew when we got married that I would divorce him instantly if he did. Fortunately he really loves me (I am a handful) and we've had a great life together. He was almost killed in a plane crash 8 years ago and has been impotent since. He actually told me to go get a lover. I told him he was crazy. I did miss sex the first couple of years but I got over it. I'm happy he lived. I probably told you way more than you wanted to hear! Sorry about that.

[Chandra Amaya]

I have been cheated on before and would never put someone else through that pain. I am lucky enough to have found a great man now whom I know would NEVER do that. Going through it in past relationships makes me respect the one I have now that much more.

[Chandra Amaya]

Originally Posted by Tink

My first hubby cheated on me for much of our 7 yr marriage. I absolutely hated him for it. He would go out with another woman and come home and tell me where he'd been, who he'd been with, what they'd done and how I compared to her in bed. It was emotionally devastating to me, as you might imagine.

I have not, and WOULD not ever do anything like that to anyone. I couldn't live with myself after. I would have no self respect left if I did.

I have had very close to the same situation. Although we were only together five years. I know how hard it can be and how it can crush your spirit. I'm glad things have gotten better for both of us *hugs*

[pearl]

have never cheated in a relationship or the one marriage. a little tempatation here and there, but somehow there has been a mental "stop" and i can't do it. even in a bad marriage.