Life Back Briefly

2tiredmom · 10-01-2007, 04:00 PM

Hi Everyone,

Just wanted to let you know. I'm trying to get back in touch with you all again.
My life was not my own for a few months with my dad living here with us after his
shoulder replacement surgery. He is now at home and grumpy. He lives 2 1/2 hours from me and I could vent but that's another thread. I took him home a couple of weeks ago and I cleaned his house top to bottom. My dad and I were never very close. Needless to say while he was here we bonded.
He was so dead set about going home when he first came up here. He kept asking can i go home can i go home. Then when the time came he said
when ever your ready for me to go home. Well the doctor cut him loose so I took him home. That was a rough 2 1/2 hour drive home. I cried almost the whole way home. He cried when i left and said I should have stayed up there with you.
But now I try and talk to him every day. My brother lives 3 minutes away from him.
So now I can try and get my life back in order and spend more time with my
family that i have left up here. which is just my husband and my 16 year old daughter. I know that may sound selfish and that I may be cold hearted.
My dad won't be around forever but at least I have gotten to spend quality time with him and gotten to know him better. Now he knows how hard we work and what all we do. I'm so thankflul I still have him in my life. Now maybe I can get more time with my 9 month old Grandson....Thanks for reading.

Tink · 10-01-2007, 04:14 PM

Welcome back!
I'm glad you're getting your life back to normal finally. It's gret you got to bond with your Dad, and were kind enough to take care of him when he needed you. It's good to have had that time, but I can understand why it's good to get back to a more normal life again as well.

Mandy · 10-02-2007, 12:53 AM

I can definatly understand your happy to have your life back, but i'm glad you had the time/chance to bond with your dad. He realizes what a great daughter he has, and how Blessed he is to have you in hes life!

AngieDoogles · 10-02-2007, 05:08 AM

What you're feeling makes perfect sense. You enjoyed the time and bonding you shared with your father, but at the same time, you need a normal life and are happy to get back to that. Just be thankful for the time you had together and try to see him as often as you can. There's absolutely nothing to feel guilty about! You are not at all selfish or cold-hearted!

Hope things continue to improve!

DianaB · 10-02-2007, 08:02 AM

It's tough when your parents need help but you still have a family that needs you. You've been a good daughter to be there when your Dad needed you and your family has been great to allow you to be there for him. Now it's time for your family to come first again, but you can still help out your Dad when he needs you. What a treasure to get to know your father better and spend that special time with him. You'll always remember that time with him.

2tiredmom · 10-02-2007, 04:09 PM

Thanks girls, I'm so glad to be back on here. I didn't know I missed you all that much. But I was wrong. It's nice to have someone to type to and get many
different opionions and ideas. Your all a great group of women.

judy · 10-06-2007, 07:22 PM

Sometimes life can be so good! I hope your Dad remains to feel well.

Enjoy your hew close relationship and your sweet little baby.

Forgivenmom5 · 10-06-2007, 07:35 PM

I completely understand how you feel. I always take my mom to do everything she needs to on Saturday. Since I am sick I feel guilty that I can't do what she needs to but I have to work on getting well myself. I also hate that Angie has been spending so much time with me and interrupting her life. You have been a good daughter and taken care of him, but you also have your life and things you have to take care of.

AngieDoogles · 10-08-2007, 12:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Forgivenmom5

I completely understand how you feel. I always take my mom to do everything she needs to on Saturday. Since I am sick I feel guilty that I can't do what she needs to but I have to work on getting well myself. I also hate that Angie has been spending so much time with me and interrupting her life. You have been a good daughter and taken care of him, but you also have your life and things you have to take care of.

Mom, don't ever feel bad about us spending so much time with you! We really enjoy being able to see you more often. If anything, that's the silver lining to this whole situation. I love you so much! *hugs*

Cecil, I hope things are still going well for you and your family. Keep us updated if you can.

Gina · 10-08-2007, 07:04 PM

Cecil.. You are a wonderful daughter and don't you forget that. You took your dad in and took care of him and bonded along the way. Your brother lives close by so don't feel guilty if he needs him he will call him I am sure. You have to get back to your family now and enjoy that beautiful grandchild.... Enjoy..

judy · 10-09-2007, 07:38 AM

Dear Cecil,

I think you're looking at it as if the glass is half empty. If you could see it as the glass being half full, it might be easier for you.

You and your Dad are close now, he's not alone - you brother lives nearby. He has recovered enough to be home (a real blessing). You get to spend time with your husband, daughter and new grandson, and you can call Dad everyday.

Here's something someone just sent me:

I AM THANKFUL:

FOR THE WIFE
WHO SAYS IT'S HOT DOGS TONIGHT,
BECAUSE SHE IS HOME WITH ME,
AND NOT OUT WITH SOMEONE ELSE.

FOR THE HUSBAND
WHO IS ON THE SOFA
BEING A COUCH POTATO,
BECAUSE HE IS HOME WITH ME
AND NOT OUT AT THE BARS.

FOR THE TEENAGER
WHO IS COMPLAINING ABOUT DOING DISHES
BECAUSE IT MEANS SHE IS AT HOME,
NOT ON THE STREETS.

FOR THE TAXES I PAY
BECAUSE IT MEANS
I AM EMPLOYED .

FOR THE MESS TO CLEAN AFTER A PARTY
BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE
BEEN SURROUNDED BY FRIENDS.

FOR THE CLOTHES THAT FIT A LITTLE TOO SNUG
BECAUSE IT MEANS
I HAVE ENOUGH TO EAT.

FOR MY SHADOW THAT WATCHES ME WORK
BECAUSE IT MEANS
I AM OUT IN THE SUNSHINE

FOR A LAWN THAT NEEDS MOWING,
WINDOWS THAT NEED CLEANING,
AND GUTTERS THAT NEED FIXING
BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE A HOME

FOR ALL THE COMPLAINING
I HEAR ABOUT THE GOVERNMENT
BECAUSE IT MEANS
WE HAVE FREEDOM OF SPEECH. .

FOR THE PARKING SPOT
I FIND AT THE FAR END OF THE PARKING LOT
BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM CAPABLE OF WALKING
AND I HAVE BEEN BLESSED WITH TRANSPORTATION.

FOR MY HUGE HEATING BILL
BECAUSE IT MEANS
I AM WARM.

FOR THE LADY BEHIND ME IN CHURCH
WHO SINGS OFF KEY BECAUSE IT MEANS
I CAN HEAR.

FOR THE PILE OF LAUNDRY AND IRONING
BECAUSE IT MEANS
I HAVE CLOTHES TO WEAR.

FOR WEARINESS AND ACHING MUSCLES
AT THE END OF THE DAY
BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE BEEN
CAPABLE OF WORKING HARD.

FOR THE ALARM THAT GOES OFF
IN THE EARLY MORNING HOURS
BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM ALIVE.

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10-01-2007, 04:00 PM	#1
2tiredmom Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 1,367	Life Back Briefly Hi Everyone, Just wanted to let you know. I'm trying to get back in touch with you all again. My life was not my own for a few months with my dad living here with us after his shoulder replacement surgery. He is now at home and grumpy. He lives 2 1/2 hours from me and I could vent but that's another thread. I took him home a couple of weeks ago and I cleaned his house top to bottom. My dad and I were never very close. Needless to say while he was here we bonded. He was so dead set about going home when he first came up here. He kept asking can i go home can i go home. Then when the time came he said when ever your ready for me to go home. Well the doctor cut him loose so I took him home. That was a rough 2 1/2 hour drive home. I cried almost the whole way home. He cried when i left and said I should have stayed up there with you. But now I try and talk to him every day. My brother lives 3 minutes away from him. So now I can try and get my life back in order and spend more time with my family that i have left up here. which is just my husband and my 16 year old daughter. I know that may sound selfish and that I may be cold hearted. My dad won't be around forever but at least I have gotten to spend quality time with him and gotten to know him better. Now he knows how hard we work and what all we do. I'm so thankflul I still have him in my life. Now maybe I can get more time with my 9 month old Grandson....Thanks for reading. __________________ The real measure of a woman's wealth is what she has invested in eternity. Linda aka 2tiredmom

10-01-2007, 04:14 PM	#2
Tink Donating 4WT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Rural Wisconsin Posts: 3,707	Welcome back! I'm glad you're getting your life back to normal finally. It's gret you got to bond with your Dad, and were kind enough to take care of him when he needed you. It's good to have had that time, but I can understand why it's good to get back to a more normal life again as well. __________________ 'A simple way to take measure of a country is to look at how many want in.. And how many want out.' England 's Prime Minister Tony Blair'

10-02-2007, 12:53 AM	#3
Mandy Donating 4WT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Who cares! Posts: 4,587	I can definatly understand your happy to have your life back, but i'm glad you had the time/chance to bond with your dad. He realizes what a great daughter he has, and how Blessed he is to have you in hes life! __________________ Many people will walk in and out your life, but only true friends leave footprints!

10-02-2007, 05:08 AM	#4
AngieDoogles Donating 4WT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 6,509	What you're feeling makes perfect sense. You enjoyed the time and bonding you shared with your father, but at the same time, you need a normal life and are happy to get back to that. Just be thankful for the time you had together and try to see him as often as you can. There's absolutely nothing to feel guilty about! You are not at all selfish or cold-hearted! Hope things continue to improve! __________________ "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." ~MT

10-02-2007, 08:02 AM	#5
DianaB Moderator Donating 4WT 13K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Kansas Posts: 16,069	It's tough when your parents need help but you still have a family that needs you. You've been a good daughter to be there when your Dad needed you and your family has been great to allow you to be there for him. Now it's time for your family to come first again, but you can still help out your Dad when he needs you. What a treasure to get to know your father better and spend that special time with him. You'll always remember that time with him. __________________ ´¨) ¸.•´¸.•´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Diana Baker ✞ You and I are friends....... Always remember that if you fall I will pick you up...... After I stop laughing!!!

10-02-2007, 04:09 PM	#6
2tiredmom Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 1,367	Thanks girls, I'm so glad to be back on here. I didn't know I missed you all that much. But I was wrong. It's nice to have someone to type to and get many different opionions and ideas. Your all a great group of women. __________________ The real measure of a woman's wealth is what she has invested in eternity. Linda aka 2tiredmom

10-06-2007, 07:22 PM	#7
judy Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Denver, NY Posts: 8,097	Sometimes life can be so good! I hope your Dad remains to feel well. Enjoy your hew close relationship and your sweet little baby. __________________ *Judy*

10-06-2007, 07:35 PM	#8
Forgivenmom5 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 1,409	I completely understand how you feel. I always take my mom to do everything she needs to on Saturday. Since I am sick I feel guilty that I can't do what she needs to but I have to work on getting well myself. I also hate that Angie has been spending so much time with me and interrupting her life. You have been a good daughter and taken care of him, but you also have your life and things you have to take care of. __________________ ~Debbie~

10-08-2007, 07:04 PM	#10
Gina Donating 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 6,025	Cecil.. You are a wonderful daughter and don't you forget that. You took your dad in and took care of him and bonded along the way. Your brother lives close by so don't feel guilty if he needs him he will call him I am sure. You have to get back to your family now and enjoy that beautiful grandchild.... Enjoy..

10-09-2007, 07:38 AM	#11
judy Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Denver, NY Posts: 8,097	Dear Cecil, I think you're looking at it as if the glass is half empty. If you could see it as the glass being half full, it might be easier for you. You and your Dad are close now, he's not alone - you brother lives nearby. He has recovered enough to be home (a real blessing). You get to spend time with your husband, daughter and new grandson, and you can call Dad everyday. Here's something someone just sent me: I AM THANKFUL: FOR THE WIFE WHO SAYS IT'S HOT DOGS TONIGHT, BECAUSE SHE IS HOME WITH ME, AND NOT OUT WITH SOMEONE ELSE. FOR THE HUSBAND WHO IS ON THE SOFA BEING A COUCH POTATO, BECAUSE HE IS HOME WITH ME AND NOT OUT AT THE BARS. FOR THE TEENAGER WHO IS COMPLAINING ABOUT DOING DISHES BECAUSE IT MEANS SHE IS AT HOME, NOT ON THE STREETS. FOR THE TAXES I PAY BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM EMPLOYED . FOR THE MESS TO CLEAN AFTER A PARTY BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE BEEN SURROUNDED BY FRIENDS. FOR THE CLOTHES THAT FIT A LITTLE TOO SNUG BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE ENOUGH TO EAT. FOR MY SHADOW THAT WATCHES ME WORK BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM OUT IN THE SUNSHINE FOR A LAWN THAT NEEDS MOWING, WINDOWS THAT NEED CLEANING, AND GUTTERS THAT NEED FIXING BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE A HOME FOR ALL THE COMPLAINING I HEAR ABOUT THE GOVERNMENT BECAUSE IT MEANS WE HAVE FREEDOM OF SPEECH. . FOR THE PARKING SPOT I FIND AT THE FAR END OF THE PARKING LOT BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM CAPABLE OF WALKING AND I HAVE BEEN BLESSED WITH TRANSPORTATION. FOR MY HUGE HEATING BILL BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM WARM. FOR THE LADY BEHIND ME IN CHURCH WHO SINGS OFF KEY BECAUSE IT MEANS I CAN HEAR. FOR THE PILE OF LAUNDRY AND IRONING BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE CLOTHES TO WEAR. FOR WEARINESS AND ACHING MUSCLES AT THE END OF THE DAY BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE BEEN CAPABLE OF WORKING HARD. FOR THE ALARM THAT GOES OFF IN THE EARLY MORNING HOURS BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM ALIVE. ************************************ See what's new at http://www.aol.com -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Email and AIM finally together. You've gotta check out free AOL Mail! -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Fussy? Opinionated? Impossible to please? Perfect. Join Yahoo!'s user panel and lay it on us. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Boo! Scare away worms, viruses and so much more! Try Windows Live OneCare! Try now! __________________ Judy**

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