I'm being punished

[Ponyup]

I'm going to have to join Lindsey with a rant about my job. At least her's worked out for the better. I'm really upset. Our engineering group got dinged recently for setting up a part without asking the proper questions, so since then I have been bending over backwords to make sure it never happens again, going above & beyond for the past week or two. I have been working 10-11 hour days. Well come to find out today my co-worker who didn't step up at all & barely puts in 8 hours is getting promoted & taking half of my work. I guess I should be relieved because now i won't have to work has much, but i'm upset because i know he won't do as good of a job as i do & i feel like i did something wrong. Like i'm being punished. Plus I had no idea this was happening until a meeting with my whole department today. I feel very blindsided & like i did something wrong. I'm going to talk to my boss tonight about it, but i'm very upset. i just kept telling myself if I keep working really hard they'll see how good i am & how lazy he is & now he's getting promoted. I guess i just don't know how to cut it in the real world. I thought hard work would get you through, but i guess it's more important to talk a big game then to actual do good work.

[Janet]

I sure wish I knew what to say to help you feel better. Maybe talking with your boss will help. Let him know how you feel. I hope things work out for you.

[Daisynkodimom]

I feel Your Pain.. I hope you get it all worked out!

I just put my two weeks in this week.. I'll have to sta my own Rant on That .. It has been a wannadoover week for me ..

[Marilyn]

So sad this has happened to you. Those of us who have been in the workforce for a few years have probably experienced the same thing at one time or another. It's very frustrating. I hope your boss can shed some light,or at least listen to your side of the story.

I hate to say it, and not knowing the entire situation, I think there may be a bit to sexual descrimination going on here. When I entered the professional workforce in 1979, we were still trying to fit into traditionally male jobs. I was one of the very few female engineers working for a major petrochemical comany at the time. We thought we were forging new frontiers until we met women twice our age who had some real stories to tell.

It may be 2008, but the descrimination, though significantly reduced, is still going on. I see it often and it is sooooo frustrating.

Let us know what your boss says. This sounds so unfair.

[Ponyup]

First my boss is actually female. I talked to her friday & I'll be in limbo for a bit, but then they are going to move me into some areas where I've shown interest, so it might be good. Also from talking to others in the company I've found out that my co-worker who got promoted that it's only in title & that he is on very thin ice. He old boss requested to have him back because he thought he could improve his work & make him a valuable employee. His old boss really likes him & they go to the same church so he's willing to do anything to save his job. I've figured out that this really bothered me because I was very much in control of my little area & now I will those some of that. I'm going to talk to my boss again today because I have a plan on how to retain some of my control.

[Janet]

I'm all for having a plan. Good luck!!!

[Tink]

Good luck on your talk with the boss.

I have to agree with Marilyn that there is still far too much gender difference being handed out in the professional arena. And sad to say, but women can be JUST as bad about it as men. We like to think all women are like this nice group we have here... when in fact many are just as greedy, back stabbing and power hungry as any man and can be even worse towards other women because they like to be queen bee getting all the notice for themselves.

What feels very personal often isn't really because of YOU at all... but not-so-nice ideas in someone who has a little power.

[Ponyup]

Originally Posted by Tink

Good luck on your talk with the boss.

I have to agree with Marilyn that there is still far too much gender difference being handed out in the professional arena. And sad to say, but women can be JUST as bad about it as men. We like to think all women are like this nice group we have here... when in fact many are just as greedy, back stabbing and power hungry as any man and can be even worse towards other women because they like to be queen bee getting all the notice for themselves.

What feels very personal often isn't really because of YOU at all... but not-so-nice ideas in someone who has a little power.

Actually my boss is awesome. Her & I are very similar & tend to get along very well. She did apologize for not talking to me first about the changes & she's already told me she has a big project for me to start work. So maybe this will be good. I've been bored with my current job & looking to learn new things. It was just I had a really good system going on now it's going to get screwed up. My actual boss had nothing to do with the decision it was actually her boss that decided it.

[Tink]

Well I'm glad you like your boss! That should make talking with her a whole lot easier and more effective. I really hope this turns out to be a positive step in the right direction for you!

[Marilyn]

Sounds like it is all working out and not due to anyone treating you badly other than them not telling you in advance. Which, honestly, is difficult to do sometimes without looking like they are showing partiality. Sometimes you have to keep people in the dark that you would like to be able to tell, but cannot.

Hope you enjoy your new assignments and continue to advance in your career.

(Sometimes women are the worst, though. I have to agree with Tink. They can be even more discriminitory at times.)

[judy]

It sounds like it's working out for the best. Good for you. Keep yourself open and see it as an opportunity.

Although I was a teacher for about 1/2 of my working life, and had a union to prevent a lot of this stuff, I tried to never get involved in any politics. I went to work, did my best and went home. I have to say, keeping my low key attitude kept my stress level way down. I didn't carer who got what position, who was doing their job, who wasn't, who was the Principal's favorite, etc.

A lot of politics go on within a school - the less I got involved, the better. In fact, my co-workers would laugh because I never even knew what the undercurrents going on were about. They knew - Judy could care less!

And here I sit, retired and none of it matters one bit.

[Lindsey]

I'm so glad you talked to your boss! It turns out nothing at all has changed in my situation, but I feel better knowing that my boss knows my opinion on everything, and I feel more comfortable now being able to go to him about things like that. I think if you have open lines of communication it's easier on everyone.