Lowlife pond scum

[Tink]

Katie found out this weekend that her BF... and babies dad... has 2 other girlfriends.
So she called us in tears, packed up her stuff and is moving out. She has all her clothes back here, but we need to find a pick up to haul her furniture and such.

I would like to geld him so he doesn't do this to anyone else. Both the girls he's messing around with are younger than Katie and SHE's only 19! I'd get banned if I wrote what I'm really thinking of him right now; but I think you can all figure it out pretty close.

She's staying here again until she decides where she wants to go.

[AngieDoogles]

Oh Tink, I am so sorry to hear this. My heart is just breaking for poor Katie. What a JERK that guy is! I'll be praying for you and Katie and the little baby.

[Marilyn]

How horrible!! What a jerk!!! Katie must be soooo upset. Thank goodness she has you to help her through all of this!!

[rivermom]

Oh Tink - I'm sorry for how hurt your daughter must be right now. This must be so very hard for her. It has got to be so comforting to her that she can lean on you right now.

Hoping that in a few days she will realize that maybe it's best she found out this type of behavior from her bf now before she was too far down that road with him.

[DianaB]

Oh, how awful I'm sure that your daughter is very upset. Just when you thought that everything was looking up for her and now this. I'll keep your daughter in my prayers.

[Janet]

Oh Tink what a dreadful thing to have happen. With him having TWO girlfriends...didn't she suspect anything at all? I hope he gets gangrene in his shorts for what he's done to Katie!! Thank God she has a wonderful mother to help get her through this.


Tink, she may want to tell her Dr. that the a$$hole has two girlfriends in case he needs to check her for anything before the baby comes.

[Tink]

Janet, she's suspected for about 2 weeks, and didn't want to believe it or make accusations she had no proof of. On Friday she actually talked with one of the girls; who was very open about it. The girl knew Katie and he were living together, have a baby on the way, and couldn't have cared less. She said she "didn't want him... it was just physical"... as if that's supposed to make it acceptable?

It reminds me SO much of my first marriage... with a jerk who started cheating right away and up till I divorced him. I'm probably having as bad a reaction to this as Katie is 'cause it's just brought all that back with a vengeance and I'd love to get downright physical with the guy myself; but not in a way he'd enjoy! I've made sure he got a message from me that if he EVER shows his face at my door I will remove it from his head and send what's left right back behind bars.

Mama bear is pissed.

[Janet]

Good for you Tink. It is so hard to take when someone messes with our babies!! They just better be ready for what coming....that's all I can say. Sure wish we knew Lorena Bobbit's (isn't that her name?) phone number....LOL

[Tink]

Janet, I would love to hire Lorena Bobbit right now... or Dr Phil.

Katie has gone BACK to Josh and claims she trusts him not to do it again and that they're planning a wonderful long term life together. Her and I had a long talk tonight and I totally told her how I feel about it and how scared I am for her... and she informed me it's her decision to make and she's HAPPY with him.
If that's happy I'm blind.

Then later tonight Doug (who just moved out of here 6 weeks ago) called me. He said he'd talked with Katie last night and she told him a secret that I'm not supposed to know. Josh had told her if she leaves him he will make sure no other man gets near her... That he will "see to it".

So now I suspect she's afraid to leave and afraid that if Greg and I know we will try to force her to get out. Doug had offered her to move in with him for a while to get away and decide what she wants to do, and she said Josh would never allow it. I haven't told anyone else this... really don't even know where to start... if she won't admit it to me, it's hard to know how to approach it. I have to be careful not to alienate her or she's gonna feel like she has NO where to turn.

I am truly scared for her right now. She's in too deep and needs to get out. But that can't happen if she's running scared.

I plan to contact my other dd as she and Katie are pretty close and see if she can try to talk to her. She lives in Minnesota and Josh isn't allowed out of Wisconsin... so if she could get Katie to stay with her for a bit (Which she has offered her several times) if he so much as showed up there he could be arrested for violating parole. Also, my oldest has worked in psych hospitals as a nurse so knows a lot of self defense techniques that can pin and restrain a man much larger and more powerful than herself.
At least she'd be safer there.

Please say a prayer for her... she's gonna need all the help she can get.

[DianaB]

Oh, Tink, that's scary! I hate that Katie doesn't feel that she can confide how scared she is to you. I sure hope that your other daughter can talk to her. She sure needs someone right now to help her. Keep us posted and I'll be saying prayers for her.

[Janet]

I'm so sorry Katie is going through this and sorry, for now that you can only watch. I know I would take that young man aside and tell him in no uncertain terms the way it is and the way it will be (my husband wouldn't have the guts).

I will keep you ALL in my prayers. I hope Katie will listen to her sister. If you can just get her away from him for a little while so that maybe she can see things a bit clearer it will help. Sometimes it makes it worse.

Prayers are headed your way Tink, as always.

[AngieDoogles]

Oh my goodness, what a scary situation! I am so sorry Tink. I will keep Katie and your family in my prayers. I know it's already your plan, but please PLEASE do whatever it takes to get her out of there. He does not sound safe or stable.

[Tink]

Thanks everyone.
Katie started having cramps this afternoon so went to ER. Thank God her and the baby are fine. She has a bladder infection so was given meds, and is on her way home. Josh took off work to take her in, but his car is a real piece of junk with BAD brakes, so I offered them mine. The hospital is about an hr away in a fairly large city, so it would have been unsafe to drive his car there.

Katie came in for the keys and he waited outside. Once they got done with the Dr, she called me to give me the news, and tell me they're now on their way back here.
I know it's so hard for her that I'm not allowing Josh to come in... but so far they're listening to my advice that he stay away.

I was So worried that all this stress was going to cause her problems in her pregnancy. This was a real scare.

[Forgivenmom5]

Tink my prayers are with you and Katie. It is so hard to watch your child in a situation you know is bad and can't do anything. I know people can change but my experience is that someone this controlling just gets worse. I hope Katie gets out of there and is very careful.

[Marilyn]

Tink, I hope and pray that this all works out safely and very soon!!!!!! Thoughts of concern and prayers are with you all.