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Old 09-22-2006, 07:18 AM   #1
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Body Image Flaws And Your Hubby.

Does your hubby ever point out some of your body flaws? Like maybe a poochy tummy, small breasts cuz he'd like to see them bigger, etc??

My husband's pretty good but once in awhile he taps my belly and says "oh it's sooo cute". I just give him that "look" and he stops.

My girlfriend told me that her hubby said "If you lose 30 lbs, I'll take you to the beach." I thought how rude!!! I told her if she gained 30 lbs Id take her to the river, LOL.

She's so beautiful and if she lost 30 lbs she'd be less than 100 lbs and sick looking. I just don't understand some men obsessed w/ their womens body image.
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Old 09-22-2006, 08:25 AM   #2
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Only thing my husband jokes about is my boobs, he reckons i stood last inline lol... he calls them he's mini boobies.
He's never ever rude, and is always giving me compliments.
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Old 09-22-2006, 09:13 AM   #3
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My hubby has NEVER made any negative comments about my appearance. I guess he values his life. Seriously, there's not ONE among us who is perfect, and that includes those men who want a trophy to wear on their arm. I can't imagine wanting to open THAT can of worms!

My best friend is a tiny lady who has always had to watch her weight because every pound shows. Her first hubby was a total pain about it. I wanted to smack him many times due to the stupid comments he'd make to/about her. They ended up divorced because she learned he'd been having a long term affair with a woman who was at least TWICE her weight! 20+ years later he is still with the larger lady and he has yet to marry her because he said he can't be married to someone her size. To me, this says nothing about the ladies, but volumes about what a total jerk HE is!
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Old 09-22-2006, 10:11 AM   #4
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Mine doesn't comment about my body image either. Sometimes I complain about it, but he always tells me that I'm beautiful. I would stand to lose 8-10 lbs and I'm sure hubby wouldn't object, but he'd NEVER tell me that I NEED to lose weight. I also have a big ole' booty. My hubby says he likes my booty, but I would stand to shed a few pounds from that big ole' thing. He is also a "boob man," if you know what I mean...he likes women with big boobs. Now, I would like a boob job for my personal satisfaction, and I'm sure hubby would enjoy some bigger boobs, but he would NEVER come out and say that I NEED a boob job. Whenever I mention the subject of boob job, he always says I don't need one. But I'm sure he would like them if I got them!
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Old 09-22-2006, 10:14 AM   #5
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My husband never says anything about my body image. He knows I would slap him! LOL! But sometimes I really do wish he would give me his honest opinion when I ask him how I look bc he always just says, you look great now hurry up!
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Old 09-22-2006, 10:16 AM   #6
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My husband never says anything about my body image. He knows I would slap him! LOL! But sometimes I really do wish he would give me his honest opinion when I ask him how I look bc he always just says, you look great now hurry up!
OMG! This is EXACTLY what my hubby does, too!!!!!!! I could be wearing a bathrobe and hubby would say I look great and to just hurry up so we can leave.
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Old 09-22-2006, 10:18 AM   #7
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Right after we were married I was laid of from my job and I put on a bunch of weight and my hubby told a friend of his he thought of divorce because I gained so much. Well I wish he would have sought divorce, but anyway.. I did lose and got back to my original weight and from there on kept gaining.

I want to lose now because I want to for me..not for him. He's really skinny and looks awful. I should give him pay back, but I'm not like that and wouldn't hurt anyone feelings on purpose...
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Old 09-22-2006, 10:59 AM   #8
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If I ask hubby how an outfit looks on me, he will be perfectly honest. He's told me when something doesn't look right or isn't flattering. He makes sure to comment on the clothes and NOT my body when he does it though.
He aboslutely hated the leggings with the big shirts ... those actually got him to comment without my asking him. But he didn't like that look on ANYONE, so it wasn't like he was attacking me personally.
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Old 09-22-2006, 11:11 AM   #9
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Ladies we are all beautiful in our own way..... If Christie Brinkley's husband can cheat on her.. OMG! Who is more beautiful than her... It comes to show that no man is 100 percent and I think you have to be happy with yourself regardless of what shape you are in.. My husband never complains about me , but I never complain to him about putting on a few pds. Hell .. He is not perfect so who is he to critize me.. Just my thoughts...
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Ladies we are all beautiful in our own way..... If Christie Brinkley's husband can cheat on her.. OMG! Who is more beautiful than her... It comes to show that no man is 100 percent and I think you have to be happy with yourself regardless of what shape you are in.. My husband never complains about me , but I never complain to him about putting on a few pds. Hell .. He is not perfect so who is he to critize me.. Just my thoughts...

I agree 100%.
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Old 09-22-2006, 11:27 AM   #11
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My husband has never and would never say anything negative about how I look. He is pretty sensitive to my feelings and he knows that when I cry, either I've been watching a sad movie or I'm pretty pissed.
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Old 09-22-2006, 11:50 AM   #12
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My hubby has never said anything negative about me. Even now since I have put on about 30 lbs since we got married...grrrrr.....But we are both excerising together now and cooking healthier and all that good stuff. There are times when I look in the mirror and I can't the way I look, and he can tell I am upset about it. But he always comes over and kisses me and say I am beautiful no matter what!! And that he loves me!!!! He has alway been soo supportive of me and loves me thru thick and thin! LOL!
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Old 09-22-2006, 11:53 AM   #13
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My hubby has never said anything negative about me. Even now since I have put on about 30 lbs since we got married...grrrrr.....But we are both excerising together now and cooking healthier and all that good stuff. There are times when I look in the mirror and I can't the way I look, and he can tell I am upset about it. But he always comes over and kisses me and say I am beautiful no matter what!! And that he loves me!!!! He has alway been soo supportive of me and loves me thru thick and thin! LOL!
Love the use of the pun! My hubby loves me thru thick and thin, too. My hubby and I have definately gained weight since we got married a year ago. You know how they call it the "Freshman Fifteen"? Well I believed I gained the "Newlywed Nine"!!!!! But we have started working out together and eating more healthy. Hopefully I can unload some of this "junk in the trunk" before too long.
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Old 09-23-2006, 11:48 AM   #14
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When I first saw this thread, I thought it was about our husbands flaws...and I was so excited...LMAO!!, so since it isn't I'm gonna start one:
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Old 09-23-2006, 11:55 AM   #15
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When I first saw this thread, I thought it was about our husbands flaws...and I was so excited...LMAO!!, so since it isn't I'm gonna start one:

OMG!! LMAO!!!
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