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im sorry i hate venting and telling you guys all my problems.. but i have no one else to tell..

so my mom has accepted the fact that im on meds for post partum blues.. but still pushes the issue about me losing weight..

i just turned 21 on the 22nd and it was.. bleh..

im not sure if my disability will be extended if they will accept it.. if they don't im basically screwed because i won't be able to pay for my car, car insurance, student loan.. and other crap.. and i hate having to ask my boyfriend for his hard earned money, cause its not enough for both of our bills.. its enough for our daughter..

i can't go back to work yet, because im still in a lot of pain sometimes.. and the job i was going to go back to, i really don't want to, because my boss was a complete bitch when I was pregnant.. so i don't want to know how she'll treat me when im not..

and October is around the corner and bills are needed to be payed.. so i dont know what to do.. Tianna is only 2 1/2 months, and thats too early for me to go back to work.. i haven't really even bonded with her as much as i'd like.. because of her stay in the NICU and stuff..

life is just so unfair.. i've been trying to look for a job at a doctors office or something that's not so hectic as the nursing homes i've worked at.. they tend to work me like a dog because i'm young and think i can do everything while the others get to sit back and relax and let me or rather force me to do everything...

im scared to lose my car or go into bankcruptcy so young.. im just sooo stressed out... just worrying about our financial situation.. really bums me out..

i dont know what else to do.. my friend that was supposed to help me look for a job, ended up never doing it.. and when i ask her or call her, she's too busy or just ignores my calls.. but of course when she needs something she's always there to ask me with no shame.. ughhh i hate this..

what am i to do?

[2tiredmom]

So sorry to hear about all your going though. It has to get better. God is always there when you need him. When one door closes another one will open.
Go for the jobs at the doctor offices. You have experience with people patients.
That should help. Do up a resume. Hand them out to as many offices and clinics that you can. I don't know how big of town your from. But it sounds like your
thinking in the right direction. Good Luck. I'm pulling for you.

[Gina]

Yes I am sorry to hear about all that you are going through and at such a young age. Do you live at home with your parents? If so can't they be a little supportive and help you until you get back on your feet. You have many responsibilites and now with the baby born and you going through post partum doesn't make it any easier. Why is your mother on your back with the weight issue, you will lose that weight as you go along, you just had a baby not to long ago.She should understand that.

I agree with Cecil, while you are collecting disability write up a resume and start job searching with private drs. or maybe you can work in a hospital instead of a nursing home, just a suggestion. God will prevail and hopefully your parents will help you out, I don't know their financial situation but you are their daughter and you have given them a beautiful granddaughter.. Good Luck....Gina

Originally Posted by Gina

Yes I am sorry to hear about all that you are going through and at such a young age. Do you live at home with your parents? If so can't they be a little supportive and help you until you get back on your feet. You have many responsibilites and now with the baby born and you going through post partum doesn't make it any easier. Why is your mother on your back with the weight issue, you will lose that weight as you go along, you just had a baby not to long ago.She should understand that.

I agree with Cecil, while you are collecting disability write up a resume and start job searching with private drs. or maybe you can work in a hospital instead of a nursing home, just a suggestion. God will prevail and hopefully your parents will help you out, I don't know their financial situation but you are their daughter and you have given them a beautiful granddaughter.. Good Luck....Gina

I do live with my parents.. but my dad also lost his job and my mom is the only one working.. and she's paying for ALL of the bills.. including my dumb older brother's bills.. can you believe that? i can't..

i applied at a few hospitals, so i don't know how long that'll take for them to call me back.. i've done my resume and i think its pretty good.. i don't know what else to do..

i hate asking my parents for money, especially when they are having a hard time themselves..

i know there are others out there, that are in far worse situations than me.. but why mee and why now! lol.. i wish things would work out soon.. like real soon..

[magnolia]

I'm so sorry you're going through all this - the stress of having a new baby is enough but add on everything else you're going through - my heart goes out to you. Things will work out for you, you have to have faith and belive in that. God never gives us more than we can handle - although there are times we would like to argue that fact - but He doesn't!

As for the job issue, check the classifieds in your Sunday paper. Most companies only post job openings on Sunday as that's the biggest circulation day for the papers. Also, are there any temp agencies in your area? A lot of times, a person ends up with a permanent job simply by going through a temp agency for a probationary period - usually 90 days or so. And do what Cecil said, make several copies of your resume and mail them out to local clinics. I don't know what your area of specialty is at the nursing home but physician's office could be looking for a front desk receptionist, a file clerk, PRN nursing position (again, I don't know your specialty, whether nursing, lab tech, file clerk, etc.) - the point is, don't give up searching. Don't rely on your friend as it's obvious she's not going to be much help - do it yourself! Where in California are you? The hospital I work for just opened a facility out there - not sure exactly where but somewhere in the LA area. Not sure if there are openings there but I'd be more than happy to check. It's a great company to work for

Keep your chin up!
Suzi

Originally Posted by magnolia

I'm so sorry you're going through all this - the stress of having a new baby is enough but add on everything else you're going through - my heart goes out to you. Things will work out for you, you have to have faith and belive in that. God never gives us more than we can handle - although there are times we would like to argue that fact - but He doesn't!

As for the job issue, check the classifieds in your Sunday paper. Most companies only post job openings on Sunday as that's the biggest circulation day for the papers. Also, are there any temp agencies in your area? A lot of times, a person ends up with a permanent job simply by going through a temp agency for a probationary period - usually 90 days or so. And do what Cecil said, make several copies of your resume and mail them out to local clinics. I don't know what your area of specialty is at the nursing home but physician's office could be looking for a front desk receptionist, a file clerk, PRN nursing position (again, I don't know your specialty, whether nursing, lab tech, file clerk, etc.) - the point is, don't give up searching. Don't rely on your friend as it's obvious she's not going to be much help - do it yourself! Where in California are you? The hospital I work for just opened a facility out there - not sure exactly where but somewhere in the LA area. Not sure if there are openings there but I'd be more than happy to check. It's a great company to work for

Keep your chin up!
Suzi

I Live in North Hollywood .. about 20 minutes from Los Angeles.. but with morning traffic lol yikes!

my brother says i shouldn't even bother trying to be a front desk receptionist because im an LVN and should be working as an LVN.. but seriously the only place that i know i'll have a job is a nursing home where i worked.. but i hate the boss and she treated me like crap when i was pregnant.. so i can't imagine what she'd treat me like when im not but still not able to carry patients..

im thinking of posting my resume on monster.com or something.. does that even work?

[Necee419]

I am sorry to hear you are in a tight situation. I agree that if your parents are available to assist you, you should ask for some help. I know you probably want to be independent but I am a 30 year old married woman and I would still run to my mom if I needed help. There is no shame in that. Going back to work so soon after your daughter is hard. Is there anyway you can find a job that allows you to work from home? Many offices allow workers to do teleconferencing and other things while working from home. Or maybe you can babysit 1 or 2 kids? Good luck to you and I hope everything works itself out for you.

[magnolia]

Originally Posted by Khristine

I Live in North Hollywood .. about 20 minutes from Los Angeles.. but with morning traffic lol yikes!

my brother says i shouldn't even bother trying to be a front desk receptionist because im an LVN and should be working as an LVN.. but seriously the only place that i know i'll have a job is a nursing home where i worked.. but i hate the boss and she treated me like crap when i was pregnant.. so i can't imagine what she'd treat me like when im not but still not able to carry patients..

im thinking of posting my resume on monster.com or something.. does that even work?

Okay, that gives me more info on what you do. When you go on career builders or monster (I know the company I work for uses career builders but not sure if they cross post on monster), look for a company called Promise Specialty Hospital or Promise Hospital. We are a Long Term Acute Care hospital (LTAC). We have hospitals in MS (where I work), 3 in Louisiana, 2 in Texas, 1 in Utah, 1 in Phoenix, and one out your way - we are opening another in Louisiana and one in Florida before end of year. I don't know a contact person out there but I will be glad to check tomorrow when I get to work - the only person I know out there is the girl who's the regional director for coding and medical records (which is what I do). Say the word and I'll get more info for you and post it tomorrow

[magnolia]

Khristine!

As promised, here is a link to our hospitals in California - there are 2 in the East LA area and one in San Diego. It has address info, phone info, and I think website info specific for the hospital. It may be something worth looking into and I'll be happy to make some inquiries on job opportunities if you want me to! Either let me know here or send me a pm.

Hope you have a better day today

http://promisehealthcare.com/Regiona...ate=California

[Janet]

You have got so many here pulling for you and offering advice. Be sure you check with your Dr. again and make sure the medicine you are taking is working. Then do take the advice from the above posts. Wonderful advice and help!

Maybe you could find something part-time (in your field or not) work until you're ready to go full time. Best of luck to you and wishing you all the best!

[cindy0721]

how about doing contract work? WOrking at the night clinics? Apply at the schools for a nurse? There are temp agencies for lvns...

[rivermom]

I hope things start to get better for you. Financial issues are tough that's for sure! Take that extra time you have now and hold and love on this sweet precious daughter of yours. In the end, she's all that matters anyway.