Marriage Counseling?

10-10-2006, 09:50 PM

How many of yall went to a marriage counselor before you married your hubby? I think its a great idea and have even heard of some churches not marrying couples unless they went to one. Did it help?? Do you wish you would have gone to one if you didnt? DO SHARE!

Janet · 10-11-2006, 06:01 AM

I wish we would have had it offered, but we didn't. We really didn't discuss money and things really important and we should have!!!!!

RLC12345678 · 10-11-2006, 06:52 AM

Yes! My hubby and I went to pre-marital counseling before we were married. Our church would not marry us unless we did. I am SO glad that we did it! It was actually fun for both of us! We actually looked forward to going. At the very first session, we each took a separate personality test that asked us questions about how we grew up, how we would handle certain situations, etc. etc. The test was sent off and our preacher received a report back and our counseling sessions were based on that report. There were certain areas that we were VERY campatible in, and other areas that we were not so compatible in and those areas were the ones that our counseling sessions were based on. We talked about money, careers, children, conflict resolution, our expectations, our fears, everything! It was a very rewarding experience. I wouldn't mind going back and doing something like that again after we've been married for several years.

Oh yeah, after all of our conseling sessions were over, our preacher looked at my hubby and me and told us that we were "suspiciously well-suited for each other and if anyone can make a marriage work, it would be us." I thought that was a great compliment.

Taurus Babe · 10-11-2006, 07:54 AM

Awww! That's great! I think it's a great thing to go through before you marry. I
m not married but I think I'll do it before I get married.

Necee419 · 10-11-2006, 08:01 AM

My husband and I plan to marry through the church next year and we are required to attend what are called "pre-cana" classes. We are Catholic and it is mandatory for us to attend these before we can validate our civil marriage through the church. I have heard from other couples that they are rather fun and very informative. Even though we are already married, I still think we will benefit from them. Our church also offers couples retreats and I hear they are very positive experiences for couples. We are scheduled to attend these classes in November and I will be sure to post on here to let you all know how they went.

RLC12345678 · 10-11-2006, 08:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Necee419

My husband and I plan to marry through the church next year and we are required to attend what are called "pre-cana" classes. We are Catholic and it is mandatory for us to attend these before we can validate our civil marriage through the church. I have heard from other couples that they are rather fun and very informative. Even though we are already married, I still think we will benefit from them. Our church also offers couples retreats and I hear they are very positive experiences for couples. We are scheduled to attend these classes in November and I will be sure to post on here to let you all know how they went.

We have friends that are Catholic and went on the couples retreat and said it was definately a positive experience.

10-11-2006, 08:55 AM

We went to marriage counseling also. It was great. There were areas that we hadn't discussed before (surprisingly) and it was really interesting to talk about it, and iron out our differences. We also had to take separate little "character" tests or something, and then talk about them. It was great. I would recommend it to everyone; it forced us to talk about children, finances, future goals, etc. I think our church would've married us without the counseling, but regardless, I'm glad we did it

rivermom · 10-11-2006, 02:43 PM

With all my marriages none of us went to pre-marriage counseling. I think the first two marriages we should have though, LOL.

But then again...I'm glad those didn't work out cuz then I wouldn't have the love of my life now.

I am all for counseling as long as you don't get physco info from your counsler. I've gone to some (after marriage) and WOW, THEY were the one's who needed help.

I recall one of my ex's going into counseling cuz well let's just say "he needed Viagra!". The counsler told him to have an affair as it would "jazz things up a bit".

Now c'mon people, and we paid this moron for this type of info? Good Lord, help that man!!

Janet · 10-11-2006, 02:55 PM

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Originally Posted by rivermom

With all my marriages none of us went to pre-marriage counseling. I think the first two marriages we should have though, LOL.

But then again...I'm glad those didn't work out cuz then I wouldn't have the love of my life now.

I am all for counseling as long as you don't get physco info from your counsler. I've gone to some (after marriage) and WOW, THEY were the one's who needed help.

I recall one of my ex's going into counseling cuz well let's just say "he needed Viagra!". The counsler told him to have an affair as it would "jazz things up a bit".

Now c'mon people, and we paid this moron for this type of info? Good Lord, help that man!!

He should have been reported to the medical board...what kind of creepos are out there giving advice!!!

rivermom · 10-11-2006, 03:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Janet

He should have been reported to the medical board...what kind of creepos are out there giving advice!!!

No kidding! It turned out he just didn't like sex. Now how the hell can one not like sex? It just baffles me really. It's amazing we ever had two kids together really.

Janet · 10-11-2006, 03:03 PM

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Originally Posted by rivermom

No kidding! It turned out he just didn't like sex. Now how the hell can one not like sex? It just baffles me really. It's amazing we ever had two kids together really.

Well now....that's a whole other story....I personally hate it myself...just another damn mess to clean up!!!

rivermom · 10-11-2006, 03:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Janet

Well now....that's a whole other story....I personally hate it myself...just another damn mess to clean up!!!

Ok...time to begin a new thread!!!

Janet · 10-11-2006, 03:07 PM

LMAO......

Willow · 10-11-2006, 04:10 PM

Now I know the story behind the sex thread!!

We went to one counseling session...it was required by the minister who married us. He told us he thought we were very compatible and he was happy to marry us. We tried to pay him for his service and he refused the payment!

Mandy · 10-12-2006, 12:57 AM

Yes, we went to pre-marital counselling. The church would not marry us if we didnt attend ... now after being together for 20 years, it's kinda strange sitting there answering questions and filling in questionairs about each other, but it gave us a good laugh though LOL

Even our minister (female) laughed, she said, she has to make us do it and she had to make a few "home visits" she was cool, and had a great sense of humor!

10-10-2006, 09:50 PM	#1
Gutu28 Guest Posts: n/a	Marriage Counseling? How many of yall went to a marriage counselor before you married your hubby? I think its a great idea and have even heard of some churches not marrying couples unless they went to one. Did it help?? Do you wish you would have gone to one if you didnt? DO SHARE!

10-11-2006, 06:01 AM	#2
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,624	I wish we would have had it offered, but we didn't. We really didn't discuss money and things really important and we should have!!!!! __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

10-11-2006, 06:52 AM	#3
RLC12345678 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,614	Yes! My hubby and I went to pre-marital counseling before we were married. Our church would not marry us unless we did. I am SO glad that we did it! It was actually fun for both of us! We actually looked forward to going. At the very first session, we each took a separate personality test that asked us questions about how we grew up, how we would handle certain situations, etc. etc. The test was sent off and our preacher received a report back and our counseling sessions were based on that report. There were certain areas that we were VERY campatible in, and other areas that we were not so compatible in and those areas were the ones that our counseling sessions were based on. We talked about money, careers, children, conflict resolution, our expectations, our fears, everything! It was a very rewarding experience. I wouldn't mind going back and doing something like that again after we've been married for several years. Oh yeah, after all of our conseling sessions were over, our preacher looked at my hubby and me and told us that we were "suspiciously well-suited for each other and if anyone can make a marriage work, it would be us." I thought that was a great compliment. __________________ Rebecca "To whom much is given, much is expected." ~Luke 12:48

10-11-2006, 07:54 AM	#4
Taurus Babe Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 668	Awww! That's great! I think it's a great thing to go through before you marry. I m not married but I think I'll do it before I get married. __________________ Taurus Babe aka Thorsmomma

10-11-2006, 02:43 PM	#8
rivermom Donating 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Tontitown, Arkansas Posts: 2,475	With all my marriages none of us went to pre-marriage counseling. I think the first two marriages we should have though, LOL. But then again...I'm glad those didn't work out cuz then I wouldn't have the love of my life now. I am all for counseling as long as you don't get physco info from your counsler. I've gone to some (after marriage) and WOW, THEY were the one's who needed help. I recall one of my ex's going into counseling cuz well let's just say "he needed Viagra!". The counsler told him to have an affair as it would "jazz things up a bit". Now c'mon people, and we paid this moron for this type of info? Good Lord, help that man!! __________________ ~_/> , /\/\ ,,, Sheryl When I grow up I want to be a horse whisperer!

10-11-2006, 08:01 AM	#5
Necee419 Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Bronx, NY Posts: 283	My husband and I plan to marry through the church next year and we are required to attend what are called "pre-cana" classes. We are Catholic and it is mandatory for us to attend these before we can validate our civil marriage through the church. I have heard from other couples that they are rather fun and very informative. Even though we are already married, I still think we will benefit from them. Our church also offers couples retreats and I hear they are very positive experiences for couples. We are scheduled to attend these classes in November and I will be sure to post on here to let you all know how they went.

10-11-2006, 08:55 AM	#7
May5 Guest Posts: n/a	We went to marriage counseling also. It was great. There were areas that we hadn't discussed before (surprisingly) and it was really interesting to talk about it, and iron out our differences. We also had to take separate little "character" tests or something, and then talk about them. It was great. I would recommend it to everyone; it forced us to talk about children, finances, future goals, etc. I think our church would've married us without the counseling, but regardless, I'm glad we did it

10-11-2006, 03:07 PM	#13
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,624	LMAO...... __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

10-11-2006, 04:10 PM	#14
Willow Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 258	Now I know the story behind the sex thread!! We went to one counseling session...it was required by the minister who married us. He told us he thought we were very compatible and he was happy to marry us. We tried to pay him for his service and he refused the payment!

10-12-2006, 12:57 AM	#15
Mandy Donating 4WT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Who cares! Posts: 4,587	Yes, we went to pre-marital counselling. The church would not marry us if we didnt attend ... now after being together for 20 years, it's kinda strange sitting there answering questions and filling in questionairs about each other, but it gave us a good laugh though LOL Even our minister (female) laughed, she said, she has to make us do it and she had to make a few "home visits" she was cool, and had a great sense of humor! __________________ Many people will walk in and out your life, but only true friends leave footprints!

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