It is so on....

[Willow]

So I don't know WHY but my husband has a burr up his ass for some reason and this morning he told me my dogs have to go EXCUSE ME???????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I told him my dogs STAY and he can go. He said he is sick and tired of waking up in the morning and seeing their accidents. I already told him I will buy a crate and start crating them at night. He is also tired of them jumping in the bed at night and he told me either they go or he goes. My reply? "Don't let the door hit ya."

Then he said when I bring Maddie home she will not be allowed in the house...Um...yeah right! I told him since I am the one who paid for the place then it is what I say goes. He even tossed Gizmo outside this morning, and I do mean tossed! I ran out there and brought her back in and he tried to catch her to put her back out but I blocked his way and refused to allow him to. He said she is his dog and he is going to give her away. I said fine, she is mine now.

So he is sitting on the couch pouting now. There has to be more to this than the dogs getting on his nerves, but he has me so pissed right now that I told him as soon as I find a place me and the dogs and the kids will be moving and his reply was "Good."

[Janet]

Originally Posted by Willow

So I don't know WHY but my husband has a burr up his ass for some reason and this morning he told me my dogs have to go EXCUSE ME???????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I told him my dogs STAY and he can go. He said he is sick and tired of waking up in the morning and seeing their accidents. I already told him I will buy a crate and start crating them at night. He is also tired of them jumping in the bed at night and he told me either they go or he goes. My reply? "Don't let the door hit ya."

Then he said when I bring Maddie home she will not be allowed in the house...Um...yeah right! I told him since I am the one who paid for the place then it is what I say goes. He even tossed Gizmo outside this morning, and I do mean tossed! I ran out there and brought her back in and he tried to catch her to put her back out but I blocked his way and refused to allow him to. He said she is his dog and he is going to give her away. I said fine, she is mine now.

So he is sitting on the couch pouting now. There has to be more to this than the dogs getting on his nerves, but he has me so pissed right now that I told him as soon as I find a place me and the dogs and the kids will be moving and his reply was "Good."

So sorry you're going through a rough time, but I would do the same thing. Not that I'm condoning it, I just love my babies more....Maybe once he cools down or the burr up his a$$ is unlodged, you both can get to the root of the problem.

Also, you said in your post that you paid for the place....if anyone leaves...he should.

[BabyNicole]

Damn girl! I'm sorry you are going through this! Does he normally get in these pissy moods? If not, you're right something else must be bothering him. Maybe jealous of the dog with a new one on the way?

I live with my cousin in a brand new house (built in 2005) that we bought together. Baby pees and poops all over. Yes, he gets annoyed, as do I, but neither of I want to give her away! And Baby is technically mine, not his.

Why don't you cool off for a bit, and then ask him what's up his arse?

Good luck! And please tell us how everything goes.

PS. Being a little more nosey...how long have you been married, and do you normally have a great relationship?

[Taurus Babe]

Gosh, he's being such a jerk!! Maybe once you both cool down a bit you can sit down and ask him if there's anything you can talk about? I hope he gets over this little tantrum!!
I recently taught Thor to stay off the bed after he'd been allowed on the bed his whole life. It took two days for him to not even try to get up. Lemme know if you want some tips!! Good luck!

[khardy57]

Sounds like something else is bothering him. Maybe some cool down time will help.

[magnolia]

I agree - something else has got to be bothering him and he's taking it out on you and the furbabies. I would try to talk to him to find out what is the real, true reason for his actions and why he's so upset. Sending you lots of hugs and prayers!

[Janet]

So Willow.....how are things going??? Has he settled down yet? Hopefully you two were able to talk it all out and things have improved.

[Willow]

Hi guys. Sorry for not being here much. Yes we are better and to answer questions we have been married 8 years, together 10, and we normally have a great relationship and the dogs have never really bothered him before. In fact, until this incident, Gizmo could do no wrong and he would fly off the handle at anyone who even threatened to harm her.

We have actually had a rough week. His great uncle passed last Friday and the calling hours were on Monday and the funeral was on Tuesday. This was more than an uncle to him, they were good friends and hunting buddies. His Aunt didn't call until the next day and them my father in law refused to tell us where the services were being held and what time. Ernie was upset and he was taking it out on us. We had a sitter all lined up and I had time off work so we could go. Ernie (hubby) is pretty upset still. He just found out that another Aunt passed several months ago and no one told him. His dad slipped up and "let the cat out of the bag". My husband is going through a tough time emotionally right now. He feels like he is being purposely kept from his family and he isn't dealing well. I told him it was ok to be upset, but that it is not ok to take it out on me and the kids or the furkids. He did apologise shortly after that happened and even made me coffee and went with me to look at a house we are interested in, but I could tell he was still upset over his uncle and his aunt and upset at his dad for not telling him and for not giving us arrangement details and the Uncles wife won't talk to us at all. In fact, she is threatening to sell everything off and not let any of the family have anything from Uncle Buddy.

So right now it is mostly Ernie needs time to heal and to get over the hurt he is feeling right now. His family always seems to hurt him. First his brother, then his sister, and now his dad. We will get through it, it is just going to be an emotional roller coaster for a bit. But atleast now he is talking to me and not just lashing out in anger. He even took Gizmo to bed with him that night and was kissing her and telling her he is sorry and that she was his little girl.

Oh, and the kids and I aren't going anywhere. We have worked too hard and invested too much in this place, our marraige, and our family to just toss it away over one little disagreement. I gotta learn to not say things in anger.

[Willow]

Oh and I forgot to say, thanks for listening!

[red98vett]

I'm sorry - but I could never respect a man who takes out his problems on animals - your husband needs to redirect his anger and find out WHY he's acting like that - but I know one thing - if mine EVER threw one of my girls even a few inches - he better know KUNG FU cause he'd be dealing with Mama BEAR.

[Marilyn]

You're husband might have to do what mine did. He doesn't associate with his family any more at all. They just have different priorities than he does, and they do very selfish things, so we don't communicate with them at all. I communicate with my family some, but our parents and most of our aunts and uncles have all passed away, so we just kinda reset the family. We are starting a new family tree, us and our daughters. Our family are our friends and church family. It's really very liberating.