Plans For Easter?

[judy]

This is why I no longer speak to my stepmother and her children. The drip drip drip...it is very toxic!

I do want to go see my stepmother though. She is 95 or 96, and I try to never have regrets in my life. We did have our good times, and she was very good to my Dad.

[DIANE W]

You are so right, the only trouble is i worry now that, what happens if something happens to them, what would we do about funeral etc. I am also stressing about are we doing the right thing - i know we are deep down its just me.

See this is me all over, still worrying and we have cut all ties, so as not to be stressed

Janet, It is so sad, and i would love to not be going through all this, and if they treated my husband like they do his sister (its as if they are careful what they say to her, as they dont want to offend her - yet they feel they can say whatever to us, and we have to take it), all he wants is to be treated the same, not preferential treatment.

Maybe when all the business with Mum's affairs are sorted out, then you will get a better relationship with your brothers again - fingers crossed for you.

Judy, I know what you mean about your stepmother, who knows maybe you will get chance to visit her, or take her out for lunch maybe, without her daughters present.

Diana, even though you are going through a tough time at the moment, it will get better. I think it must be lovely for you having a big, close knit family..... that must be really really nice.

[DianaB]

Diane, it is nice to have a large family. My Mom's family is big (she had 5 sisters and they all get along) but our family was small.....just me and a brother. I knew that when I had a family I wanted a big one.....it's not as big as I originally planned but big enough. We are very close to my Mom's family.

Then Glen's family is large. Glen has 2 brother and 2 sisters and 3 aunts and 1 uncle and they all live in the area.......plus many, many cousins!!! I don't get along too well with Glen's family but I don't let it bother me. With Glen's Mom gone things seem a little better.

I hope that some day you'll be able to iron things out. I'm sure that your husband is very hurt by their actions. It's too bad that they favor one child so much that the other child is hurt. They are the ones who are missing out on having their son around.

Janet, I hope that soon after your Mom's estate is finished that things will get better. I don't know about Brad but I think that Jerry will come around. Just give it time.

Judy, I think that your Step-Mom would probably enjoy a visit and lunch with you. I can just picture the two of you sitting at a nice restaurant visiting about the past......"Remember when Dad......." It would probably be good for both of you!!

Things will get better for us......I know that. I've never dealt with a divorce except for my parents.....and that one needed to be done way earlier!! It's just so hard to see the hurt.....for all that are involved.