Mother-in-laws??

Amber_lv · 09-08-2006, 03:25 PM

Ok ladies i have a serious topic here! I hate my mother in law she is a totally beast i have tried for six years to make her like me and it just isn't going to happen she used to call me at all hours of the night crying to me about how her husband cheated on her and she went into very graphic details i would sit and listen and try to comfort her and then i come to find out all the time she had been badmouthing me to my husband and all her family behind my back! She told her family that i trapped my husband and all i wanted him for was his money! I was like what money? he has money ?where? But she has always gone out of her way to make me feel uncomfortable around her yet she says she doesn't have a problem with me? I am so frustrated we used to let our 3 yr old son go stay the weekend with them but she got remarried to an alcoholic and she would let him take my son out riding horses while he was sh*t faced and let my 3 yr old ride alone then when i confronted them they made me be the bad guy so after that when he was out there they told him your mom is not the boss when you are here and they would do it anyway and tell him not to tell me. He always came home and was so upset he would cry and then he would tell me because he didn't want to lie to me. So he no longer goes out there. The sad thing is she never calls on their b-days or any holiday ever i had a new baby in May of 2005 and he is 16 months old she has only seen him and my 6 yr old 2 times since he was born how sad is that? She makes it out to be my fault yet she can't knock on my door to tell them happy birthday she will leave an outfit on the door in the morning so she doesn't have to see anyone and then she calls my husbands cell phone and crys to him about it. I am so fed up i don't even care anymore and his sister is the same way. So i was wondering how are all your relationships with you mother-in laws?

Amber_lv · 09-08-2006, 03:53 PM

Oh i also forgot to mention that at my wedding she wouldn't even talk to me i tried to say hi to her and she walked away from me!!!! So rude!!

Janet · 09-08-2006, 04:04 PM

Sorry about your situation. That would be horrible to live like that. I was lucky, very lucky. My in-laws were very good. My MIL (hubby's step-mom, bio mom died in train wreck when he was 10) always told me she would never meddle and she didn't. We would have to invite them or else all we got were phone calls. They didn't want to intrude. My FIL passed in June of '05 and now my MIL is in a nursing home. We see her often and now I have the holiday dinners for their side at our home. Her time left here is limited and I will miss her terribly.

09-08-2006, 05:28 PM

You MIL sounds like she likes to play the victim. Sorry you have to deal with that. I feel bad for your kiddos, that sucks she hasn't even taken the time to visit them, no matter what her and your relationship is. That is just plain rude!

My FIL and Step MIL, BIL and 2 SIL's are great! They have the occasionally family drama, but nothing worth complaining about...

Notice I didn't mention my MIL... My DH doesn't talk to her. She has made a lot of mistakes, and choices that make it so my DH is a much happier person with out her in his life. He felt he had to stop contact with her to keep his self esteem, health, happiness, and overall life better. She hasn't tried to contact him since he made that decision, so I think either she really just doesn't care, or she just wants the pity from others that "her son doesn't talk to her".

I have SO many friends that tell me it is actually a blessing to not have a MIL butting into my marriage.

Amber_lv · 09-08-2006, 05:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Meg

You MIL sounds like she likes to play the victim. Sorry you have to deal with that. I feel bad for your kiddos, that sucks she hasn't even taken the time to visit them, no matter what her and your relationship is. That is just plain rude!

My FIL and Step MIL, BIL and 2 SIL's are great! They have the occasionally family drama, but nothing worth complaining about...

Notice I didn't mention my MIL... My DH doesn't talk to her. She has made a lot of mistakes, and choices that make it so my DH is a much happier person with out her in his life. He felt he had to stop contact with her to keep his self esteem, health, happiness, and overall life better. She hasn't tried to contact him since he made that decision, so I think either she really just doesn't care, or she just wants the pity from others that "her son doesn't talk to her".

I have SO many friends that tell me it is actually a blessing to not have a MIL butting into my marriage.

It is a blessing i wish i could have a relationship with my mil but it's just not worth the stress on me and my children i mean you can only be fake for so long ya know.

Kimberley · 09-08-2006, 05:56 PM

What a psycho witch!!! Girl, your MIL and my best friend's MIL must be sisters! I swear that Pam looks like the Fairy Godmother in Shrek 2. So hateful and ugly! Hold your head up high. Don't let her get to you. Quit trying to be friends with her. She doesn't want to be friends. You took her son away from her and she'll never forgive you for that. It's her loss...not yours!

09-08-2006, 03:25 PM	#1
Amber_lv Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Salt Lake Posts: 983	Mother-in-laws?? Ok ladies i have a serious topic here! I hate my mother in law she is a totally beast i have tried for six years to make her like me and it just isn't going to happen she used to call me at all hours of the night crying to me about how her husband cheated on her and she went into very graphic details i would sit and listen and try to comfort her and then i come to find out all the time she had been badmouthing me to my husband and all her family behind my back! She told her family that i trapped my husband and all i wanted him for was his money! I was like what money? he has money ?where? But she has always gone out of her way to make me feel uncomfortable around her yet she says she doesn't have a problem with me? I am so frustrated we used to let our 3 yr old son go stay the weekend with them but she got remarried to an alcoholic and she would let him take my son out riding horses while he was sh*t faced and let my 3 yr old ride alone then when i confronted them they made me be the bad guy so after that when he was out there they told him your mom is not the boss when you are here and they would do it anyway and tell him not to tell me. He always came home and was so upset he would cry and then he would tell me because he didn't want to lie to me. So he no longer goes out there. The sad thing is she never calls on their b-days or any holiday ever i had a new baby in May of 2005 and he is 16 months old she has only seen him and my 6 yr old 2 times since he was born how sad is that? She makes it out to be my fault yet she can't knock on my door to tell them happy birthday she will leave an outfit on the door in the morning so she doesn't have to see anyone and then she calls my husbands cell phone and crys to him about it. I am so fed up i don't even care anymore and his sister is the same way. So i was wondering how are all your relationships with you mother-in laws? __________________ Peeka-Boo-Daisy-Designs for all your doggy clothing needs Peeka's Myspace Daisy's Myspace

09-08-2006, 03:53 PM	#2
Amber_lv Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Salt Lake Posts: 983	Oh i also forgot to mention that at my wedding she wouldn't even talk to me i tried to say hi to her and she walked away from me!!!! So rude!! __________________ Peeka-Boo-Daisy-Designs for all your doggy clothing needs Peeka's Myspace Daisy's Myspace

09-08-2006, 04:04 PM	#3
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,624	Sorry about your situation. That would be horrible to live like that. I was lucky, very lucky. My in-laws were very good. My MIL (hubby's step-mom, bio mom died in train wreck when he was 10) always told me she would never meddle and she didn't. We would have to invite them or else all we got were phone calls. They didn't want to intrude. My FIL passed in June of '05 and now my MIL is in a nursing home. We see her often and now I have the holiday dinners for their side at our home. Her time left here is limited and I will miss her terribly.

09-08-2006, 05:28 PM	#4
Meg Guest Posts: n/a	You MIL sounds like she likes to play the victim. Sorry you have to deal with that. I feel bad for your kiddos, that sucks she hasn't even taken the time to visit them, no matter what her and your relationship is. That is just plain rude! My FIL and Step MIL, BIL and 2 SIL's are great! They have the occasionally family drama, but nothing worth complaining about... Notice I didn't mention my MIL... My DH doesn't talk to her. She has made a lot of mistakes, and choices that make it so my DH is a much happier person with out her in his life. He felt he had to stop contact with her to keep his self esteem, health, happiness, and overall life better. She hasn't tried to contact him since he made that decision, so I think either she really just doesn't care, or she just wants the pity from others that "her son doesn't talk to her". I have SO many friends that tell me it is actually a blessing to not have a MIL butting into my marriage.

09-08-2006, 05:56 PM	#6
Kimberley Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: The Lone Star State Posts: 671	What a psycho witch!!! Girl, your MIL and my best friend's MIL must be sisters! I swear that Pam looks like the Fairy Godmother in Shrek 2. So hateful and ugly! Hold your head up high. Don't let her get to you. Quit trying to be friends with her. She doesn't want to be friends. You took her son away from her and she'll never forgive you for that. It's her loss...not yours!

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