Body Image Flaws And Your Hubby.

i think this is my hubby's one flaw. he is pretty ruthlessly truthful about what he thinks of my body and how i look and is constantly concerned that i may have eaten too much and gained weight. it's really annoying when he tells me i look like i've gained weight especially along the stomach, and i just roll my eyes and respond..."uh... having period... retaining water! feeling bloated!" and then follow up with the comment that i'm going to go finish a box of crackers.

i mean, i want his honest opinion, but the delivery can use a bit of tack and reality. i'm in my early 30's now, not in my teens like when we first met. metabolism slows down as i age and that's just being realistic. a size 3 top won't button over c cup boobs without it looking trailerpark trashy. i work fulltime and don't always have the time to go to the gym 6x a week like i used to. ugh... sorry... just ranting...

[Ponyup]

Originally Posted by hunbun

i think this is my hubby's one flaw. he is pretty ruthlessly truthful about what he thinks of my body and how i look and is constantly concerned that i may have eaten too much and gained weight. it's really annoying when he tells me i look like i've gained weight especially along the stomach, and i just roll my eyes and respond..."uh... having period... retaining water! feeling bloated!" and then follow up with the comment that i'm going to go finish a box of crackers.

i mean, i want his honest opinion, but the delivery can use a bit of tack and reality. i'm in my early 30's now, not in my teens like when we first met. metabolism slows down as i age and that's just being realistic. a size 3 top won't button over c cup boobs without it looking trailerpark trashy. i work fulltime and don't always have the time to go to the gym 6x a week like i used to. ugh... sorry... just ranting...

Unless he has the perfect body he needs to keep these thoughts to himself.

My hubby won't say anything bad or good for that matter. If I'm unhappy with my body he supports me to change it, but he would never critize or tell me to loss weight. He's put on a couple of pounds himself. No one has the perfect body.

[rivermom]

My hubby compliments me every single day...So, on those days when he smiles and pats my poochy tummy I shall forgive him, LOL.

I know when we met (almost 9 years ago) i had a body that was really great. But, I've since gotten older, happier, and focused on other lifes details. So, my poochy belly isn't that much of a priority these days. (Thank goodness for that too!!)

well, hubby's working on getting his early 20's body back. he's targeting 130lbs at 5'6" with a 28 inch waist. he's at 136lbs right now and a 29 inch waist. So he's pretty close. he's soooooo look obessessed right now, it's kinda crazy. he's had to get a new wardrobe in the last 6 months and toss out all his 32 waist clothes and get 29's. so he thinks he's doing well and he can't understand why i can experience the same results.

but i think men's metabolism is different from women's metabolism. and people's shape changes too as they age. as women age, our hips become wider, and we gain weight in the torso area more easily because the body is anticipating childbearing. i've read that men's testostrone start to slowly drop off once they hit their late 30's, hence they will start to gain weight, etc. so we'll see....

[Emmsmom]

I went though 36 hours of labor AND a c-section to get this gorgeous body!!! He knows better that to ever say a bad thing about me!!! LOL

[Sherry Lynn]

My hubby is always quick with kind compliment. What endears me the most is how he always comments on when I am smiling and looking contented. It gives HIM the most contented expression to see me happy! And visa-versa!

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Janet... I just have to comment on 'your portion' of this thread.... I think it's all about compromise and that it's very much a generational thing as to what someone will 'put up' with.

I can see what my Grandmother found tolerable (married until death do us part)... then my mother (50+ years married)... then myself .... and now my newlywed nieces... it's such a wide spectrum! Expectations have changed so much in the favor of women. There is still a long way to go (after all, we only make 75 cents to their dollar!) but I think that women today have more options and expect more!

Also, after being married and really knowing someone for many years it isn't just about compromise, but knowing how to work around things to make them work in your favor. And as women we are very adept at manipulation.

So you don't tell him something to avoid an argument.... or you stash a little cash... or make him believe something is his idea... whatever it takes to get things done the way you want them done. Most women figure it out, and if they're smart they'll accept it and even make a game out of it! We are SO not the weaker sex!!!!!

We're wired differently, and thankfully women usually get it! As long as we have each other to work with and to vent to we can move mountains!

(All that said... you still deserve to meet the 'Big O' one day!!!) ***evil grin here!***