May lose job!!!

[Janet]

Thanks everyone I really appreciate your support, more than you know.

She did send me the email and the things she said were lies and half truths concerning her son. I replied to the email in red so that the Assist. Princ. could know the truth. The AP said that the mother called her around 2 this afternoon and was very irate, but said by the end of the phone call she had her calmed down. The mother wants her sons off my bus, and to tell you the truth, so do I. So it looks like this is going to happen. I will know for sure tomorrow, I think.

I wish I could show you all the email with my responses, but it is just way too long. I wish I had a blog or whatever they are called so you all could read it.

The AP did say, she supported me and that the Transportation Director had nothing but good things to say about me and the way I handle the students on my bus. So, it does look that my job, at this time, is not in jeopardy. The AP did say that the mother didn't mention informing the Superintendant and even if she did, the AP knows he would support me too. That made me feel so much better.

I really love my job, the hours, the students and it would be a great hardship if I was to lose it. So as of this moment, everything is calm... I will tell you my eyes ache so bad right now from crying so much today and my nerves are just shot. I will probably head to bed early tonight, but for now, I want to be where my friends are. I love you gals!!!!

[Necee419]

I am so glad everything turned out ok for you. I knew your superiors were not going to believe that trashy woman. In the end, something good came out of it, you won't have to deal with those boys anymore. Have yourself a nice relaxing bath and try to get some rest.

[Necee419]

BTW, I was looking forward to a road trip to Indiana. I guess I'll have to call the protest off...

[Janet]

Originally Posted by Necee419

BTW, I was looking forward to a road trip to Indiana. I guess I'll have to call the protest off...

NO, NO, NO, don't call it off, I would want you all to come anyway... what a great time we could have!!!!! A great big old fashioned slumber party!!!

[magnolia]

Janet,

What a wonderful ending to an otherwise EXTREMELY stressful day for you! See, we all told you it would work out in the end You are just too kind of a person, doing what you know in your heart to be the right thing for the protection of those put into your care on that bus. The schools across our lands need to have more caring, concerned drivers such as you! Parents put their kids on the bus each day and are literally putting the lives and welfare of their children into the bus driver's hands - you do the bus driving community proud Your track record with the school system has spoke for itself - you did not need to defent yourself in this situation as you have already done that throughout your career! So try to put this behind you as best you can and don't let it bother you anymore than it already has.

As for that road trip - I, too, was looking forward to heading north and standing in front of you to kick some butt! We've only known each other a very short time but in that time, I've come to know a little of what's in your heart and the type of person you are - and proudly call you friend! And NO ONE messes with my friends!! So hang in there, your friends here at 4WT have definitely got your back!

[Gina]

Janet.. I just read this post and I am happy to hear that it has a good ending . : In the long haul you did nothing wrong , just doing your job, and that woman had no right to call you and argue, If she was a friend she would have asked you for your side and then as a good parent she would have disciplied her son approriately. You had ever right to call her a B****h she was calling you at your home, and harassing you and your husband. I hate to say this but she sounds like one of these parents whom their children do no wrong, get over it our kids are not angels and being a parent I always hope they don't do anything to hurt anyone's feelings but things happen and you have to correct them when wrong.

Oh well I was looking for the trip down to Indiana..lol glad to hear that all is well...
Gina

[Janet]

Originally Posted by magnolia

Janet,

What a wonderful ending to an otherwise EXTREMELY stressful day for you! See, we all told you it would work out in the end You are just too kind of a person, doing what you know in your heart to be the right thing for the protection of those put into your care on that bus. The schools across our lands need to have more caring, concerned drivers such as you! Parents put their kids on the bus each day and are literally putting the lives and welfare of their children into the bus driver's hands - you do the bus driving community proud Your track record with the school system has spoke for itself - you did not need to defent yourself in this situation as you have already done that throughout your career! So try to put this behind you as best you can and don't let it bother you anymore than it already has.

As for that road trip - I, too, was looking forward to heading north and standing in front of you to kick some butt! We've only known each other a very short time but in that time, I've come to know a little of what's in your heart and the type of person you are - and proudly call you friend! And NO ONE messes with my friends!! So hang in there, your friends here at 4WT have definitely got your back!

Oh my goodness, your post touched my heart so much I ended up with tears...I am anxiously awaiting to see if they move him to another bus, then I will know for sure, it's completely over with the woman and her son. But, hey, I'm mov'in on and so glad I have all of you to call my friends.. God Bless You!!!

[rivermom]

I can't believe I just now saw this thread. Oh Janet, I am sorry you had to go through all this. But, it looks like it's all turning out. It's hard when people judge or question our character. However you obviously have many on your side.

[Janet]

You bet, if it hadn't been for everyone here I think I would have lost my mind. I cried and shook so bad over this. It really got to me and I was so afraid of losing my job. But the Assist. Princ. and Trans. Dir. are backing me up and it looks like everything is going to be just fine. Not only did her son lie to her, but she told lies and half-truths to the Asst. Princ. I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the tree... I really appreciated all the support.

[Marilyn]

Well, I just read this thread, so glad this is all working out & that you have such a wonderful support group!! Hang in there, things will work out!!!

I don't think you were out of line at all. What you did was appropriate and I'm sure that girl and her parents appreciated it. That mother had no right to call you at home, period. She needed to address this through the school/your supervisor.

Hang in there and stick to your guns.

[Emmsmom]

wow! I am glad things worked out ok. You were not the one who was wrong here. She had no business calling you at all in my opinion. Way to go!!!

[khardy57]

I just read about what happened and I'm so glad things are looking better. Sounds like she's a troublemaker with a capital "B"!!

[Janet]

Well, it looks like I'm stuck with her and her sons (nobody else will take them). This is the email exchanged yesterday between myself and the Assist. Principal. I took the names out even though I'm sure you don't know them:

First one from me:

Good morning ------,

I just wanted to let you know that I did not receive a phone call telling me the -----boys were not riding this morning like ---------- told you she would. I stopped, honked and no one came out, so I went on. I have not heard as of yet (9:50 a.m., Tues.) if they will be riding a different bus. Unless she calls to tell me the boys need a ride in the morning, I will not go by their house, if that is alright with you. It takes me a little over 3 miles out of my way to pick them up.

Thanks again,

Janet
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From Assist. Principal:

Janet,

Mr.---- and I talked this morning about the bus situation. He and I both feel that you need to rectify the situation that occurred on the telephone conversation with Mrs.---- . That step needs to be done right away—call her if possible. If she won’t talk to you, then write a letter and give me a copy of it. The boys will remain on your route. I have sent Mrs. ---- an email requesting that she call you if the boys aren’t riding. However, if she doesn’t call, you are to go by the house anyway. If they don’t come out, you are still to go by the house every day unless she has called..-------
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My reply:

------,
I will do as you request and go by their house whether she calls or not. I will send her an apology in an e-mail so that I do not have to endure her wrath again, I'm sorry, but that is the best I can do as far as an apology. I will send you a copy of what I send to her. I am disappointed that they will remain on the my route, but will hold no grudge against Collin. He can be a great kid, just not with his own peers. Thank you very much for everything, I really appreciate it.

Janet
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This is the apology I sent to the mother:

-----

I would like to take this time to apologize for what you heard Sunday night on the phone. After I told you not to bring my husband into this, I heard a "click" and thought you had hung up on me as I had hung up on you earlier. I never meant for you to hear me say the "B" word, I truly thought I was just saying it to my husband in the privacy of our home. So, with that said, I apologize.

I don't believe any further communication is necessary concerning this matter. If you do feel the need to reply, please be aware that any and all correspondence will be saved for future reference if and when there is ever a need.

A phone call is still needed if the boys will not be riding. I will inform the office if no contact is made. I do understand that they do not ride on Thursday mornings, so a call is not needed for that day. If they start riding again on Thursday mornings let me know.

Thank you,
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Granted, it's not the most sincere apology, but I did what was requested of me. Did you notice I did NOT apologize for calling her a "B", just that she heard it...

[RLC12345678]

Janet, you could not have written a better apology letter!!!!!!!! It was great. I am so glad that you didn't apologize for calling her a "B" but just apologized that she heard you call her that. Has the principal said anything to you about your apology letter? I'm glad that everything has worked out. You are right....the apple does not fall far from the tree. You should just feel sorry for them, kill them with kindess, and go on with your merry way. You should feel especially sorry for that boy. He is obviously not being brought up in a good home environment. Maybe you could talk to him personally. You have to potential to have a major impact on him, and in a good and positive way. He obviously needs some sort of positive guidance from someone, as it is quite obvious he is not getting it from home.