If you could go back, would you marry your husband again?

[magnolia]

That's a good question and a tough one at the same time. I grew up in a home where my parents were married at age 18 and still together until the day my dad died. Oh, they had their arguments but they also had their wonderful times together. And they loved each other immensely and taught my brothers and sisters about love and commitment. My sisters both married before they were 20 years old and I swore I would not get married until I had a chance to live on my own, away from home, and enjoy me I got to do that but when Mr. Right walks up and smacks ya in the face, no matter how old you are, you take the "jump" which is what I did. My hubby came from a broken home - parents divorced when he was 9 months old, 2nd married ended in divorce in under 10 years, and 3rd marriage ended in under 10 years (both his mother and father have been married 3 times). He didn't know what it was like to live in a home with both his parents. So, our first couple of years together were "rocky" - he still felt he could go and do with the guys just like he always had, without calling me to let me know! After calling the cops to help look for him (he was a deputy sheriff where we lived) because he was supposed to be home at 9:30 and here it was 4:00 in the morning and no word from him (I had to be at work at 8:00 and I had NO sleep), he began calling me after that. I told him common courtesy dictates he pick up the freaking phone and call when he's gonna be late - otherwise, I expect the worst (considering his occupation at the time). We've still had our ups and downs but we are still together and can't imagine our lives without each other in it But, as others have said, our relationship would not be a healthy one if we didn't "sprinkle" it with an argument every now and then. So, yes, I would marry him all over again knowing what I know - but there'd be some ground rules before hand written into the marriage vows

[BabyNicole]

Originally Posted by Cribal

Well, I wasn't going to post until I saw Janets post. I didn't want to be the only one to say no. Last month was our first year anniversary and it was the longest year. If I could turn back time then I wouldn't marry my husband. I feel really bad for saying that but I wish I would have stuck with what I had said most of my life and never gotten married. I guess it's too late now so I have to suck it up and deal with it. I'm pretty good with rolling with th punches so I'll be alright.

Oh Crystal, I didn't know that.

[BabyNicole]

Originally Posted by Kimberley

If I knew then what I know now? I would have NOT married this husband or the previous one, either. Hell, I would never get married.

Girl you are so funny!!! Wish you were happy!! But you are still a hoot!

[Janet]

You ladies sure don't have to worry about people like Cribal and myself. I think, or at least know for myself, that if I was absolutely miserable, I'd be gone. We still have great times, doesn't mean I don't care for him.....I just would not do it again knowing what I know now!

[RLC12345678]

Originally Posted by magnolia

That's a good question and a tough one at the same time. I grew up in a home where my parents were married at age 18 and still together until the day my dad died. Oh, they had their arguments but they also had their wonderful times together. And they loved each other immensely and taught my brothers and sisters about love and commitment. My sisters both married before they were 20 years old and I swore I would not get married until I had a chance to live on my own, away from home, and enjoy me I got to do that but when Mr. Right walks up and smacks ya in the face, no matter how old you are, you take the "jump" which is what I did. My hubby came from a broken home - parents divorced when he was 9 months old, 2nd married ended in divorce in under 10 years, and 3rd marriage ended in under 10 years (both his mother and father have been married 3 times). He didn't know what it was like to live in a home with both his parents. So, our first couple of years together were "rocky" - he still felt he could go and do with the guys just like he always had, without calling me to let me know! After calling the cops to help look for him (he was a deputy sheriff where we lived) because he was supposed to be home at 9:30 and here it was 4:00 in the morning and no word from him (I had to be at work at 8:00 and I had NO sleep), he began calling me after that. I told him common courtesy dictates he pick up the freaking phone and call when he's gonna be late - otherwise, I expect the worst (considering his occupation at the time). We've still had our ups and downs but we are still together and can't imagine our lives without each other in it But, as others have said, our relationship would not be a healthy one if we didn't "sprinkle" it with an argument every now and then. So, yes, I would marry him all over again knowing what I know - but there'd be some ground rules before hand written into the marriage vows

Don't we all wish we could go back and do this!!!!! hehehehe

Originally Posted by RLC12345678

Don't we all wish we could go back and do this!!!!! hehehehe

Hunny i'm with you 100% on that one!!! I would marry him again but i would have waited until we were more financially stable...he gets bored with his job so easy it was like he would have new one every three months but i am proud of him for staying in the national guard-he has been in since he got out of the navy-he just signed up for another six years for the insurance and other benefits plus he said he's only got a few more years till he can retire and get his army pension. But he has been working offshore for the past year-with the exception of when he got sent to n.o. for hurrican katrina-he was down there for a long time. i wish he would have started working offshore when we first got married- alot of our major arguements were about finances. We get along fine as long as I am not stressing over money all the time. But i love him with all my heart and soul. One time we were in a horrendous fight and i told him i was leaving him and he broke down and cried and told me that he couldn't imagine life without me and the girls. Somedays it's a hard row to hoe but when he holds me in his arms i have never felt more safe and secure and loved. My mom has been married and divorced three times and I always told myself that I never wanted to get married because I couldn't handle losing someone i loved like she has. I really believe that he is the only man for me. Plus he told me we were both too damn stubborn to ever get a divorce-that we would stay together just for spite!!!