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Old 06-28-2007, 09:55 AM   #1
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Ever blown over the top at your SO?

So yesterday I totally lost it with my sweet, gentle bf. I was so mean to him, and yelled at him because I was/am upset with something that doesn't have anything to do with him. I felt like the biggest idiot after I blew up at him.
I wrote him a sorry card and gave it to him later in the night, and told him how much he meant to me all throughout the day.
Anyone ever do this? It's so horrible and pointless...I still feel like a goof. Poor guy...can we blame our hormones on this???
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Old 06-28-2007, 10:03 AM   #2
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I've done this a lot to every guy I've dated! When I apologize I always get told "It's okay, you're a girl and I expect it. All women are crazy!"
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Old 06-28-2007, 12:33 PM   #3
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Hannah, I think in relationships we all do things we regret, but it's wonderful that you've apologized and told him how you really feel. Sometimes pride can prevent this and then things only get worse. It sounds like you have a very healthy relationship.
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Old 06-29-2007, 05:50 AM   #4
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(sorry it's been a while since I've posted!!!)

Luckily I'm a rather calm person so I don't yell too often and I lucked out that I found myself a guy that's got a similar temperment. He just gets the occational sobbing phone calls when something's not going right or I'm just being hormonal.
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Old 06-29-2007, 06:02 AM   #5
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As long as you talked it out and it's okay now, then it sure sounds like a good relationship. It might be hormones, or maybe you're stressed.

If you're concerned about why you blew up when you're not like that, maybe you need to give yourself a day off to reflect on what's going on inside of you. You probably shouldn't approach it that there's there's anything wrong with you,
just see what's going on.

I always felt that "the truth shall set you free." Whenever I figure out what's really
going on, then I can do what needs to be done about it. Often, there's nothing that can be done about it, but just to know and accept, and maybe talk to someone about it, makes me feel better.
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Old 07-02-2007, 06:34 PM   #6
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Oh, I blow up at my hubby alot it seems. I'm the type that doesn't hold anything back so when someone is bothering me, I let him know...it usually happens at the same time every month!!! My hubby shrugs it off and blames it on me being on my period. I always feel bad afterwards and I always apologize, but that's just who I am. I am very passionate and very dramatic sometimes.
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Old 07-04-2007, 05:52 AM   #7
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I think we are ALL guilty of doing this. We are around them everyday so if we are upset we need to vent to someone....If I have had a stressfull day, hubby can tell right away. He will ASK me what's wrong...I will then let it out but, first I tell him...I'm not yelling AT you....I am yelling TO you! This way they will know right away that it isn't anything they have done and that you just need to vent!
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Old 07-04-2007, 12:22 PM   #8
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I think we are ALL guilty of doing this. We are around them everyday so if we are upset we need to vent to someone....If I have had a stressfull day, hubby can tell right away. He will ASK me what's wrong...I will then let it out but, first I tell him...I'm not yelling AT you....I am yelling TO you! This way they will know right away that it isn't anything they have done and that you just need to vent!
Yeah, I do this same thing. I'm not yelling AT you, I'm yelling TO you. I like that one!
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Old 07-05-2007, 11:06 AM   #9
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I think we are ALL guilty of doing this. We are around them everyday so if we are upset we need to vent to someone....If I have had a stressfull day, hubby can tell right away. He will ASK me what's wrong...I will then let it out but, first I tell him...I'm not yelling AT you....I am yelling TO you! This way they will know right away that it isn't anything they have done and that you just need to vent!
Wow, I need to remember that!!!

We had a preacher friend tell us that the way he and his wife have survived fights is when they see one coming on one of them will ask "Is the roof on fire?" and the other replies "No cause there's a burn ban." Kinda cheesy, but it brings them back to earth and calms them down.
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Old 07-09-2007, 10:34 AM   #10
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I do that and so does my fiance. We'll get heated or passionate about something, get really mean to each other and apologize 10 minutes later and we make up which is always fun I think that happens a lot when you're hungry, thinking about other things or have a lot on your place. I've just learned to thnk about what I'm going to say before it comes shooting out of my mouth and starts world war 3...lol
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