I think I was bad!!!

[Janet]

Rmember yesterday I told you I was woke up by my husband snoring and Emilee having to potty? Well, my husband woke me up again this morning snoring, at 3:00 AM. I poked him a couple of times and told him to quit snoring. He yelled something like, I can't help it and something about 'beating him up.' All I did was poke him. Anyway, he went storming into the other room. Me....I just rolled over and went back to sleep. I don't have time for dramatics, plus I needed sleep after losing some the night before for the same reason.

I just don't understand....he has the sprays and the thingy that goes over his nose to help and it really does. SO WHY DOESN'T HE USE THEM? He can get mad all he wants, but I'm tired of being the one that has to go to the other room. This is exactly why we are getting separate bedrooms whether he likes it or not. I'm tired of this and he trying to make me feel like a bad person because I can't sleep because of his snoring.

Please don't say he should see a Dr. about it...he won't. The only reason he went to the Dr. about his back is because after 5 years of pain, he couldn't take it any longer.

I guess I should have put this in the VENT forum, but it's also about our relationship so I put it here.

[rivermom]

It's unfortunate that our men who snore can't help it. LOL ~ It's not like they go to bed each night thinking "I can't wait to start snoring and wake my wife up!"

I would think it's almost more harmful to them in the long run. Lack of oxygen, not sleeping as well, etc....

What's funny Janet you might notice. Is when you do both decide to sleep in sepearte bedrooms, you might find you still don't sleep well and wake up earlier than expected. Then again maybe not...LOL

My husband had those night snoring bands also that attach to the nose. Robert said it bugged him too much to wear it. Maybe your husband has found this out also?

I am sure the two of you will work out the sleeping arrangements and find what works best for the two of you.

"Sweet Dreams!!"

[Mandy]

The sound of snoring can be VERY annoying! The thing is, i find that my hubs snores more when he is stressed for some reason, i have kicked and poked him in the past, and awww - when i wake him up, he always says "sorry lovey" and turns around, so i can NOT get mad at him for snoring LOL

[Tink]

Janet, my hubby snores too, so I know how crazy it can drive you in the middle of the night; and MINE is only home one or 2 nights a week!

I think if you want to sleep in separate rooms, then go for it. It certainly isn't helping your relationship or your health to sleep (or NOT sleep) next to his snoring. You might find you like him better once you're rested up and not resenting him for destroying your rest.

HUGS

[Chandra Amaya]

Originally Posted by Tink

Janet, my hubby snores too, so I know how crazy it can drive you in the middle of the night; and MINE is only home one or 2 nights a week!

I think if you want to sleep in separate rooms, then go for it. It certainly isn't helping your relationship or your health to sleep (or NOT sleep) next to his snoring. You might find you like him better once you're rested up and not resenting him for destroying your rest.

HUGS

Very well said Tink.
I have a big problem remembering to use any treatments I've bought or take any meds I should. Maybe he has the same problem, he just forgets to use the things he has to help?

[Janet]

I'm sure he just forgets to use it. I don't think he'd be a jerk on purpose...at least I don't think he would.

I do sleep great when the boys are camping with scouts. I just sleep so much better and feel so refreshed in the morning. I'm not just going MOVE HIM OUT, we will discuss it (I'm still getting my way) LOL, but he'll at least think he agreed to it.

He has woke up before after I've started crying at being so tired and not able to go back to sleep. So he knows it's very important and how if affects me. I honestly do believe it will make things better in just everyday life, to have more restful sleep for the both of us.

[RLC12345678]

Oh, you haven't seen mad until you've seen me when I've been woken up. I don't know what it is, but this beast just comes out. Hubby knows not to mess with me when I'm sleeping. If he snored, he would have to nip that in the bud REAL quick. I am such a monster when I don't get enough sleep.

Janet, I don't blame you for getting upset about the snoring. For the sake of your marriage and your rest, he should get that under control or go sleep in another room.

[Janet]

Thank you so much Rebecca!!! You don't know how much I appreciate knowing I'm not the only one. I was beginning to feel like a real b****, ya know? I don't mean to, but when my sleep is interrupted like that, it's horrible.

[DianaB]

I don't like for my sleep to be interupted either. There's nothing wrong with having him sleep in a different room as long as it's not out of anger. I have an aunt and uncle who each have their own room because he is very active while he sleeps. They don't seem to have any problems with it and even joke about it quite often. Just have a nice talk and explain it to him and I bet he'll move into the other bedroom with no problem.

[Janet]

No, I would not make him move into another room over anger. We have never that I know of, gone to bed mad at each other in all these years. His grandparents slept in different rooms most of their married life because of his snoring. I'll just have to remind him of that. I really don't think he'll mind that much. He likes to be able to sleep without me poking him to quit snoring..

[RLC12345678]

My grandparents sleep in separate rooms bc of snoring. My dad used to snore and my mom told him to get it fixed or sleep in another room. My dad and went and got a sleep test done, got on a C-pap machine, and now my mom and dad both sleep in peace.

Janet, if he really doesn't want to sleep in separate bedrooms, tell him that it's fine, but he needs to get the snoring fixed. He should understand that you shouldn't have to suffer night after night.

[Janet]

I'll suggest it again for the sleep test, but I know in my heart of hearts it will do no good. He may not have a choice though, when I have a chance to talk with the Dr. myself, Rick may need a firmer mattress after the surgery than what we have. So we still have a bed frame, will just need a mattress and box springs.

[rivermom]

I remember being younger and visiting my Grandparents home. They also slept in seperate bedrooms. I never did understand why until I became married. LOL

I've headed into the other bedroom many a times to get some sleep due to Robert snoring. It's like I sleep walk there because I wake up in the morning not realizing I had even done it; but clearly understanding why.

From what I can tell it seems there are more amount of men who snore than don't. And....more women who clearly lose sleep over it than don't.

[Shada]

Have you thought about taping him so he can hear exactly how bad it is?

That might be what he needs to understand how bad it can be.
Understanding a problem makes it much easier to fix.

Until then.. keep on nudging him! Or... out he goes.. good luck!

[rivermom]

Originally Posted by Shada

Have you thought about taping him so he can hear exactly how bad it is?

That might be what he needs to understand how bad it can be.
Understanding a problem makes it much easier to fix.

Until then.. keep on nudging him! Or... out he goes.. good luck!

Great idea about the tape recorder! Don't forget to turn the volume up.