I'm so sad.

katcarasella · 03-09-2008, 06:26 PM

I hired someone to drive all my Mom's stuff back from Calif and it came at 6:00pm
I knew this was gonna be rough, but I didn't expect all the emotions that are coming out. I now have the brass bed I used to sleep in and her favorite recliner.
Her car was towed here on the back of the truck, I was the only person that sat in the back seat of that car. Such sweet memories. I would've brought the whole house back if I could have. All her Waterford made it one piece, I'm gonna divy it up between my 3 daughters. I really can't part with anything else yet.
I now own 3 houses, one in Watertown, Wi where Pete and I spent his last year,
That's up for sale. Now my Mom's in Orange Hills, Ca. (for Sale) and mine here.
I swear it's feast of famine. I'd give all this up just to spend one day with them again. I'm sorry ladies, but this is too much to bare. I became a widow and an orphan in a 9 month period. I'm so very sad, I think I'd better seek some grief counseling, cuz I feel like I'm losing it, and all I wanna do is sleep. I'm so glad I have Maggie and Bailey to take care of cuz if it wasn't for them I'd never get out of bed. Thanks for being here for me, you've all been my thread to hang on to.

Kathy

03-09-2008, 07:32 PM

Oh wow Kat, I'm new to this forum but I'm so sorry for your loss and for what you have had to go through. I couldn't even imagine. Hold onto your babies tightly, because they will help you get through this. They need you so much, as you're all they have. They can help be your light at the end of the tunnel. I think talking to someone is a good idea. Even if just to get your thoughts out so you're not bottling them up. *hugs*

Chandra Amaya · 03-10-2008, 04:14 AM

I agree with Gwen. Kids can sometimes be the reason we make it through and counseling definitely is a good idea.

Janet · 03-10-2008, 06:54 AM

Kathy, I'm so sorry you're feeling so alone during this sad time. You do have your daughters, grandkids and your babies so please remember the joy that they bring you. Do you have a Pastor or someone that you can talk with? I do know it can be of tremendous help so I hope you seek it out. Of course we're here for you too, but sometimes it's just not the same as a physical hug where you can cry and release some of those feelings into someone's shoulder.

I will add you to my prayer list that you can find comfort.

AngieDoogles · 03-10-2008, 11:18 AM

Kathy, I'm so sorry things are so hard for you. I can't imagine the pain you must feel. Know that we are thinking of you and praying for you!

Ponyup · 03-11-2008, 04:57 AM

Kathy I'm so sorry you are going through this. I agree you need to find a shoulder to cry on. I recently joined my church choir & when I was going through my tough time & I would cry they would just hug. They wouldn't ask questions or prye, they would just hug, & it was exactly what i needed. Also you might be able to find some sort of support group for women who have lost their husbands or something. Try to stay strong....you will be in my prayers & if you need to talk feel free to PM me anytime.

judy · 03-11-2008, 06:53 AM

Dear Kathy,

You really do need someone to talk to, or a group. You deserve to be happy and it is sometimes too hard to go it alone!

We're all here for you. You are in my heart Kathy and in my prayers.

Love and hugs,

Judy

Marilyn · 03-11-2008, 08:24 AM

Oh, Kathy, you are going through such a tough time. Many of us can relate to losing a mother, but you have lost your husband, too, and don't know how I'd handle both so close together. Draw strength from your family and firends and do seek help if you believe you are in need.

Take care and know we are all her to listen and pray for you.

Tink · 03-11-2008, 08:39 AM

My prayers are with you Kathy. I'm so sorry for both your losses.

katcarasella · 03-11-2008, 09:03 AM

I really appreciate everyone being here for me, sometimes I just need to let it all out, and I can't with my daughters because I know it hurts them so much when I'm upset. I've always wanted to be strong for them and teach them to be strong independent women. I know I did a great job, they're the best.
I'm truly honored to call you Ladies, my friends!
Thank You

DianaB · 03-11-2008, 09:13 AM

Kathy, I'm so sorry that all of this has happened in such a short time. I think that grief counseling is a really good idea. There are so many things that we go through with grief, so many stages, physical and emotional.

Like the others have said, I too, wish that I was there to give you a hug and help you through this. If you need me for anything just pm me.

03-09-2008, 06:26 PM	#1
katcarasella KAT'S KRAZY KORNER Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Chicago Posts: 3,031	I'm so sad. I hired someone to drive all my Mom's stuff back from Calif and it came at 6:00pm I knew this was gonna be rough, but I didn't expect all the emotions that are coming out. I now have the brass bed I used to sleep in and her favorite recliner. Her car was towed here on the back of the truck, I was the only person that sat in the back seat of that car. Such sweet memories. I would've brought the whole house back if I could have. All her Waterford made it one piece, I'm gonna divy it up between my 3 daughters. I really can't part with anything else yet. I now own 3 houses, one in Watertown, Wi where Pete and I spent his last year, That's up for sale. Now my Mom's in Orange Hills, Ca. (for Sale) and mine here. I swear it's feast of famine. I'd give all this up just to spend one day with them again. I'm sorry ladies, but this is too much to bare. I became a widow and an orphan in a 9 month period. I'm so very sad, I think I'd better seek some grief counseling, cuz I feel like I'm losing it, and all I wanna do is sleep. I'm so glad I have Maggie and Bailey to take care of cuz if it wasn't for them I'd never get out of bed. Thanks for being here for me, you've all been my thread to hang on to. Kathy __________________ A friend accepts us as we are yet helps us to be what we should. Kat

03-10-2008, 04:14 AM	#3
Chandra Amaya 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Tn Posts: 1,646	I agree with Gwen. Kids can sometimes be the reason we make it through and counseling definitely is a good idea. __________________ Traci

03-10-2008, 06:54 AM	#4
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,624	Kathy, I'm so sorry you're feeling so alone during this sad time. You do have your daughters, grandkids and your babies so please remember the joy that they bring you. Do you have a Pastor or someone that you can talk with? I do know it can be of tremendous help so I hope you seek it out. Of course we're here for you too, but sometimes it's just not the same as a physical hug where you can cry and release some of those feelings into someone's shoulder. I will add you to my prayer list that you can find comfort. __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

03-10-2008, 11:18 AM	#5
AngieDoogles Donating 4WT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 6,509	Kathy, I'm so sorry things are so hard for you. I can't imagine the pain you must feel. Know that we are thinking of you and praying for you! __________________ "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." ~MT

03-11-2008, 06:53 AM	#7
judy Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Denver, NY Posts: 8,097	Dear Kathy, You really do need someone to talk to, or a group. You deserve to be happy and it is sometimes too hard to go it alone! We're all here for you. You are in my heart Kathy and in my prayers. Love and hugs, Judy __________________ *Judy*

03-09-2008, 07:32 PM	#2
Gwen Guest Posts: n/a	Oh wow Kat, I'm new to this forum but I'm so sorry for your loss and for what you have had to go through. I couldn't even imagine. Hold onto your babies tightly, because they will help you get through this. They need you so much, as you're all they have. They can help be your light at the end of the tunnel. I think talking to someone is a good idea. Even if just to get your thoughts out so you're not bottling them up. hugs

03-11-2008, 04:57 AM	#6
Ponyup Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 659	Kathy I'm so sorry you are going through this. I agree you need to find a shoulder to cry on. I recently joined my church choir & when I was going through my tough time & I would cry they would just hug. They wouldn't ask questions or prye, they would just hug, & it was exactly what i needed. Also you might be able to find some sort of support group for women who have lost their husbands or something. Try to stay strong....you will be in my prayers & if you need to talk feel free to PM me anytime.

03-11-2008, 08:24 AM	#8
Marilyn Donating 4WT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: South Texas Posts: 4,907	Oh, Kathy, you are going through such a tough time. Many of us can relate to losing a mother, but you have lost your husband, too, and don't know how I'd handle both so close together. Draw strength from your family and firends and do seek help if you believe you are in need. Take care and know we are all her to listen and pray for you. __________________ Marilyn If anyone would like a free Bible Study CD or book entitled "Searching for Truth", PM me with your mailing address and I'll send you one. "And you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free." John 8:32

03-11-2008, 08:39 AM	#9
Tink Donating 4WT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Rural Wisconsin Posts: 3,707	My prayers are with you Kathy. I'm so sorry for both your losses. __________________ 'A simple way to take measure of a country is to look at how many want in.. And how many want out.' England 's Prime Minister Tony Blair'

03-11-2008, 09:03 AM	#10
katcarasella KAT'S KRAZY KORNER Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Chicago Posts: 3,031	I really appreciate everyone being here for me, sometimes I just need to let it all out, and I can't with my daughters because I know it hurts them so much when I'm upset. I've always wanted to be strong for them and teach them to be strong independent women. I know I did a great job, they're the best. I'm truly honored to call you Ladies, my friends! Thank You __________________ A friend accepts us as we are yet helps us to be what we should. Kat

03-11-2008, 09:13 AM	#11
DianaB Moderator Donating 4WT 13K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Kansas Posts: 16,069	Kathy, I'm so sorry that all of this has happened in such a short time. I think that grief counseling is a really good idea. There are so many things that we go through with grief, so many stages, physical and emotional. Like the others have said, I too, wish that I was there to give you a hug and help you through this. If you need me for anything just pm me. __________________ ´¨) ¸.•´¸.•´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Diana Baker ✞ You and I are friends....... Always remember that if you fall I will pick you up...... After I stop laughing!!!

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