Good Day?

Janet · 03-13-2011, 04:45 AM

I am so excited that my younger brother is coming soon to take Mom for the day. He was going to take her to church, but for some reason changed his mind (probably afraid the roof would fall in on him) anyway.....he did say something about taking her to her house for awhile and then who knows what.

She has been a bit of a bear here lately. Very impatient, finally showing her true colors of wanting things done her way, when she wants them. So Brad coming to get her is a real treat.....for me!!!

My other brother's wife will be taking her to her Dr. appt on Monday for hip pain. I did four days of Dr. appts last week so finally someone is stepping up.

Today...I'm heading to Lafayette to get me an IPad...I'm so excited. Only bad thing...will have to listen to Mom tell me what a waste and make me feel guilty for charging it. TOO BAD....lolol

paula1961 · 03-13-2011, 06:53 AM

Oh Janet! I'm so happy to hear that your brother is helping out with your Mom today! It will give you a much needed break! Have a wonderful day! Happy "Ipad" shopping! Don't let anyone make you feel guilty about buying it! You work hard and you are a wonderful person! There comes a time once in a while when we need to do something special for ourselves! You deserve it!

judy · 03-13-2011, 07:34 AM

Wow!!! Go Janet! I can't wait to hear about your new iPad!!!

gja1000 · 03-13-2011, 08:17 AM

Janet, I'm so glad you are getting a day off. In caregiving terms it is called respite. All caregivers need respite, it is extremely important to prevent burnout. Your mom is staring to settle in and be more like herself. You'll need to work to keep the boundaries and keep your sanity. I hope your family continues to help you out.

lynne b · 03-13-2011, 03:30 PM

Janet, I am so glad that you are getting a break today, you really need it. I just wish you had called me earlier so i could have made other plans, i would have loved going to town with you.
I hope you were able to get your iPad today!!

Blueyes · 03-13-2011, 04:01 PM

Never feel bad about taking a break because it just makes you a better caregiver! I can't wait to hear all about your iPad!!

DianaB · 03-13-2011, 08:03 PM

I'm glad that your other family members are finally helping you out with your Mother!! You do need to have breaks away from her so you can have a breather!!! Make sure you use that time to relax and de-stress for awhile when she's gone!!!

I'm curious to hear how you like your i-pad!!! They sound interesting!!!

Janet · 03-14-2011, 06:20 AM

Yesterday was really a great day. My brother forgot to change his clock ahead (or so he says) so he was later getting here than we expected. He was going to come around 9 AM but didn't make it until about 10:30.

After they left I did a few odds and ends around here and straightened up the bedroom a bit...didn't realize my Mom is such a slob...lol.

Then.....I went to Lafayette to Best Buy and ................................they were out of the IPad 2. BUT...................I did put money down and I'm 2nd in line for the model I chose. It's the wi-fi, 3G, 16 GB trimmed in black. They have one trimmed in an off-white now, but I put the two side by side and I liked the black soooo much better. I asked the guy if he really thought I would need the 32 GB over the 16GB and he said no....for my needs...the 16 would most likely be more than I would need and if I decided I didn't want something on it...just delete it. So I bought the 16 GB. plus it's $100 cheaper than the 32....lol. It won't be here for a week or two, but he also said it could be sooner than that. I'm so excited I can' stand it. The guy was so nice and showed me so much about the IPad 2. I sure hope it comes in sooner than expected.

After I got home....my brother called and said Mom was tired and wanted to come back so I said bring her home....I was here. We both had a good day, but Mom is starting to feel like she is a burden. I told her the only time she is a burden is when she's not flexible. That she needs to try and not want things her way all the time....because it wasn't going to happen.

This morning.....the time change really got me. I was soooo tired driving the bus so I'm going to have to get more sleep.

gja1000 · 03-14-2011, 08:52 AM

Whoo Hooo Janet, sounds like you had a good day! I can't wait to see the new iPad. I won't be getting one, the one I have will have to do for me. But it will be interesting to see what new features it has.

Your mom may be starting a campaign to go home with the " I'm a burden" mantra. As hard as it is for both of you, I don't think she should be home alone. I think she would be right back in the hospital.

Janet · 03-14-2011, 04:49 PM

I'm so excited to be getting the IPad 2, but it sure is hard waiting for it and it's only been 24 hours.....lol.

Mom does say she wants to go home so I'm wise to that. We talked a little today about it. She's doing so well right now and I told her I was worried she would start backsliding if left on her own. She did say she didn't want to go right now....I don't really think she wants to be alone. We'll see.

Anyway.....I want my IPad2 !!!!!!

DianaB · 03-15-2011, 09:08 AM

I know that you're excited about you new Ipad2.....I would be too!!! You're going to have to tell us all about it when you finally get it!!!

JJJ · 03-15-2011, 10:23 AM

You definitely deserve it

Janet · 03-15-2011, 01:14 PM

Can't believe I've had another great day!!!! Today my son and I had some banking to do so I asked Mom if she wanted to go and sit in the car or stay here, she said she'd like to go home. Since she had a Drs. appt. at 5:30 PM my sister-in-law was going to pick her up at 4:30 and take her to her appt. in Lafayette. It made it easier so she wouldn't have to drive all the way out here from town. They just live about 4 or 5 blocks from Mom.

So my son and dropped Mom off at her house, went to a great little diner and had breakfast with my older brother and then did our banking and then to Wal Mart. I was about to get on the computer a bit and then Ricky had to go to work so I had some ALONE time in my own house....I loved it!!!

Thank you God for this time....it is so appreciated.

gja1000 · 03-15-2011, 02:45 PM

LOL! Janet, I know exactly what you mean. My mom lived with us for 6 years and those times alone in your own home are so rare and so wonderful!

DianaB · 03-16-2011, 09:26 AM

I'm so glad that things worked out so well for you, Janet. I can understand wanting "alone" time.

03-13-2011, 04:45 AM	#1
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,624	Good Day? I am so excited that my younger brother is coming soon to take Mom for the day. He was going to take her to church, but for some reason changed his mind (probably afraid the roof would fall in on him) anyway.....he did say something about taking her to her house for awhile and then who knows what. She has been a bit of a bear here lately. Very impatient, finally showing her true colors of wanting things done her way, when she wants them. So Brad coming to get her is a real treat.....for me!!! My other brother's wife will be taking her to her Dr. appt on Monday for hip pain. I did four days of Dr. appts last week so finally someone is stepping up. Today...I'm heading to Lafayette to get me an IPad...I'm so excited. Only bad thing...will have to listen to Mom tell me what a waste and make me feel guilty for charging it. TOO BAD....lolol __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

03-13-2011, 07:34 AM	#3
judy Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Denver, NY Posts: 8,097	Wow!!! Go Janet! I can't wait to hear about your new iPad!!! __________________ *Judy*

03-13-2011, 08:17 AM	#4
gja1000 Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Central Texas Posts: 5,717	Janet, I'm so glad you are getting a day off. In caregiving terms it is called respite. All caregivers need respite, it is extremely important to prevent burnout. Your mom is staring to settle in and be more like herself. You'll need to work to keep the boundaries and keep your sanity. I hope your family continues to help you out. __________________ Gayle

03-13-2011, 03:30 PM	#5
lynne b Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 614	Janet, I am so glad that you are getting a break today, you really need it. I just wish you had called me earlier so i could have made other plans, i would have loved going to town with you. I hope you were able to get your iPad today!! __________________ 'I try to take one day at a time -- but sometimes several days attack me at once.'

03-13-2011, 04:01 PM	#6
Blueyes Donating 4WT Talker Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 2,119	Never feel bad about taking a break because it just makes you a better caregiver! I can't wait to hear all about your iPad!! __________________ Betsi

03-13-2011, 06:53 AM	#2
paula1961 Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Kentucky Posts: 3,383	Oh Janet! I'm so happy to hear that your brother is helping out with your Mom today! It will give you a much needed break! Have a wonderful day! Happy "Ipad" shopping! Don't let anyone make you feel guilty about buying it! You work hard and you are a wonderful person! There comes a time once in a while when we need to do something special for ourselves! You deserve it!

03-13-2011, 08:03 PM	#7
DianaB Moderator Donating 4WT 13K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Kansas Posts: 16,069	I'm glad that your other family members are finally helping you out with your Mother!! You do need to have breaks away from her so you can have a breather!!! Make sure you use that time to relax and de-stress for awhile when she's gone!!! I'm curious to hear how you like your i-pad!!! They sound interesting!!!

03-14-2011, 06:20 AM	#8
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,624	Yesterday was really a great day. My brother forgot to change his clock ahead (or so he says) so he was later getting here than we expected. He was going to come around 9 AM but didn't make it until about 10:30. After they left I did a few odds and ends around here and straightened up the bedroom a bit...didn't realize my Mom is such a slob...lol. Then.....I went to Lafayette to Best Buy and ................................they were out of the IPad 2. BUT...................I did put money down and I'm 2nd in line for the model I chose. It's the wi-fi, 3G, 16 GB trimmed in black. They have one trimmed in an off-white now, but I put the two side by side and I liked the black soooo much better. I asked the guy if he really thought I would need the 32 GB over the 16GB and he said no....for my needs...the 16 would most likely be more than I would need and if I decided I didn't want something on it...just delete it. So I bought the 16 GB. plus it's $100 cheaper than the 32....lol. It won't be here for a week or two, but he also said it could be sooner than that. I'm so excited I can' stand it. The guy was so nice and showed me so much about the IPad 2. I sure hope it comes in sooner than expected. After I got home....my brother called and said Mom was tired and wanted to come back so I said bring her home....I was here. We both had a good day, but Mom is starting to feel like she is a burden. I told her the only time she is a burden is when she's not flexible. That she needs to try and not want things her way all the time....because it wasn't going to happen. This morning.....the time change really got me. I was soooo tired driving the bus so I'm going to have to get more sleep. __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

03-14-2011, 08:52 AM	#9
gja1000 Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Central Texas Posts: 5,717	Whoo Hooo Janet, sounds like you had a good day! I can't wait to see the new iPad. I won't be getting one, the one I have will have to do for me. But it will be interesting to see what new features it has. Your mom may be starting a campaign to go home with the " I'm a burden" mantra. As hard as it is for both of you, I don't think she should be home alone. I think she would be right back in the hospital. __________________ Gayle

03-14-2011, 04:49 PM	#10
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,624	I'm so excited to be getting the IPad 2, but it sure is hard waiting for it and it's only been 24 hours.....lol. Mom does say she wants to go home so I'm wise to that. We talked a little today about it. She's doing so well right now and I told her I was worried she would start backsliding if left on her own. She did say she didn't want to go right now....I don't really think she wants to be alone. We'll see. Anyway.....I want my IPad2 !!!!!! __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

03-15-2011, 09:08 AM	#11
DianaB Moderator Donating 4WT 13K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Kansas Posts: 16,069	I know that you're excited about you new Ipad2.....I would be too!!! You're going to have to tell us all about it when you finally get it!!!

03-15-2011, 10:23 AM	#12
JJJ Donating 4WT Addict Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 1,073	You definitely deserve it

03-15-2011, 01:14 PM	#13
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,624	Can't believe I've had another great day!!!! Today my son and I had some banking to do so I asked Mom if she wanted to go and sit in the car or stay here, she said she'd like to go home. Since she had a Drs. appt. at 5:30 PM my sister-in-law was going to pick her up at 4:30 and take her to her appt. in Lafayette. It made it easier so she wouldn't have to drive all the way out here from town. They just live about 4 or 5 blocks from Mom. So my son and dropped Mom off at her house, went to a great little diner and had breakfast with my older brother and then did our banking and then to Wal Mart. I was about to get on the computer a bit and then Ricky had to go to work so I had some ALONE time in my own house....I loved it!!! Thank you God for this time....it is so appreciated. __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

03-15-2011, 02:45 PM	#14
gja1000 Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Central Texas Posts: 5,717	LOL! Janet, I know exactly what you mean. My mom lived with us for 6 years and those times alone in your own home are so rare and so wonderful! __________________ Gayle

03-16-2011, 09:26 AM	#15
DianaB Moderator Donating 4WT 13K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Kansas Posts: 16,069	I'm so glad that things worked out so well for you, Janet. I can understand wanting "alone" time.

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