I WANT TO SCREAM. I AM TO NICE OF A PERSON. WELL NOT NO MORE. My lovely
SIL finally found the straw that broke the camels back. dad was in the hospital again for pain. come to find out he did not fall at the NH. When he fell and broke his hip he fractured his pevis.......AGAIN. no wonder why he is in so much pain. i am trying to do my best. I'm sorry to vent. my sil called the VA today to see about getting him into the Va home. She told my brother that they would not take the house if he went there. SO at work this afternoon. I went to talk to the VA Adm in our building at work. He said they would take everything in assets that he has. SO I get to STRESS more and call the VA Adm down where he lives and see if i get the same story. IF she would Just Stay out of our business. My husband does not go around nosing into their crap. Sorry. I know right now I will not sleep tonight. I will be on the phone tomorrow at WORK. MAKE ME LOOK LIKE THE BAD GUY HERE.....I have already started the MEDICAID process.

Thanks Girls. The story continues.............................

You're doing everything right Linda. I had the same hassle with my brothers, not fun. Is there anyway you can move him up closer to you? That way it would be so much easier on you. Sell his assets here to be able to take care of him, but there should be someplace a lot closer to you. If there is anything I can help you with, let me know. I'm sorry you have to do all this and do it long distance too.

I'm so sorry all of this is so stressful. It's bad enough when our parents health fails and they are in pain, much less adding in a "not so helpful" sil! I hope you get some sleep tonight.

It's so very very hard. NH care is so expensive and it's so hard when there isn't enough money to pay for it. There is a way to protect the assets but it must be done 5 years prior to the need for a nursing home. It won't help you now, but you and your husband can plan for your care to help your children avoid this kind of problem in the future.

I'm sorry, Linda. I'm so late in reading this.....How is everything going?

Well i got all the paper work for Medicaid faxed in today. Now just have towait and see. it cost $1120. for 1 week at the nursinghome. so that broke the bank. thank you all for putting up with my additude. God Bless you all.

I'm glad you got the paperwork done - that is a pain I'm sure! $1140 for one week in the nursing home, unfortunately, is about average. The average nursing home cost is about $5000 per month. It is just so expensive, it's just sad.

I knew that nursing homes were expensive!! How can anyone be expected to pay for that? Crazy world!!!

I wonder if a nursing home makes very much profit? I know they have to put money back for building maintenance, staff, food, equipment, etc., but you'd think after such a time with so many people in them, they'd be able to lower prices some. I know my friend pays about $5000 a month for her mother.

Hello Ladies. Hope everyone is enjoying the Early Spring.
Update on my Dad. Medicaid denied him. So i get to file the paperwork
all over again. Got a call from the nursing home today. He has a UTI and so they
did testing. He now is being treated for Mrsa.........I have not been down there
in a month. I can't afford the Dam Gas. Sorry. Will be going down now to
check on things and find out what needs to be done. My brother lives right there
and does not go see him. I could write a book. Ha Ha. As I am sure everyone else
could too. When I find out more I will let you all know. Please keep him in your prayers.
Thanks so much everyone.

Did Medicaid say why they denied him? Doesn't seem right, if he needs nursing home care and doesn't have enough money to pay. I just don't understand the system these days. I'm sorry you have to do the paperwork again. I went through that when my husband became disabled and he had to file for Social Security disability and VA disability. I thought my hand would drop off and my eyeballs fall out before I got all that paperwork filled out multiple times! It's a royal pain.

Be sure you keep a copy of everything, it really helps, especially if you have to fill something out over again.

LOL I have so many copies of everything I could start a bon fire. Thanks girls.

Lol! I know what you mean Linda. I still have copies of everything i used 8 years ago to apply for Gary's disability. It's all in a big 4 drawer file cabinet.

4 drawers, Gayle? OMG!

I think they just charge whatever they can until the patient has no more capitol. He still owns the house doesn't he? They will then put him onto Medicaid. That's what happened to my MIL.