My son's friend
 

My son passed hes scooter driving test last week, first time, he did very well, and we are proud of him. They can go for the scooter test when they turn 16, and drivers test (car) at 18, in this country, incase some of you didnt know.

We keep telling him to drive careful, dont go too fast, no racing with friends, my nervs have been shot about it, and it really takes getting used to, knowing he is out there riding a scooter, i had several of them, and know they are FUN to ride, i know how fast they go, heck i even did wheelies on them, but to think my own son is driving one, is about to drive me to drink.

Anyhow, hes friend, passed the test a few days ago, and was hit by a drunken driver late yesterday afternoon. The car caught him from the side going 120km per hour. Due to the impact, he flew off hes scooter, and landed a few meters futher on the pavement, broke hes leg, arm, but thank goodness, he had tied hes helmet under the chin, and was wearing a full helmet.


Lastnight my son drives into our street, and hes scooter breaks down, and to tell you, i honestly dont mind, hes dad told him to take it to the shop this am, and as far as i'm concerned, it can stay there!

Oh Mandy - I am so sorry about your son's friend. Thank goodness it wasn't worse, oh my goodness. :(

All 3 of my kids have gone through that "begginning" driver stage and it is frustrating/scary/nerve wracking, etc. It truly is enough to send a Mom over the edge. But....it's that part of their life just as we had gone through when we were their age.

Place that bottled up fear into an angel's hands and try to relax. Let your son experience the same as you did. You've been great sitting him down and explaining all the responsibilities that having a scooter has and that's important.

Wouldn't it be nice if we could wrap a plastic bubble around all those we love in hopes to protect from every danger out there? Let life's mishaps just bounce off them and never harm! In a perfect world I guess?

Anyway - try not to worry your heart too much. Before you know it he will give you something else to worry about, LOL (kidding) ;)

It's just what we mother's do....worry till we're sick, totally amazing isn't it?

Tell Collin I am glad his scooter broke down, LOL (kidding) but that when he get's back on and riding to thank his lucky stars for everything around him and to be safe. He's lucky he's only got one Mom, LOL cuz I am sure their are plenty of Mom's who could sit him down along with you and give him that list of do's and don'ts. OMG wouldn't he freak? hahahahha :p

Hugs!! :)

I'm glad to hear that your son's friend wasn't hurt too awful badly. Your son will learn to be even more cautious now that he's seen what can happen. There are so many things out in this world that are dangerous for our children and so we just have to place them in God's hands. But Mom's always worry about their children. It's what we do best!!!!

Oh Mandy I know your pain. My son got his drivers license last January and I'm still a nervous wreck when he takes off. I wish here in the states they would raise the age to 18, but it would 'cramp' too many parents lives, I guess.

Hope your son's friend heals quickly and will always be careful and watchful of others.

Aww Mandy, I'm so sorry about your son's friend. I'm glad he wasn't hurt badly though.

It must be such a scary time for mothers when their children start driving. I remember how scared my mom was because her brother was killed in an automobile accident. It was difficult to convince her to let me drive, but she did because she knew I would need to learn at some point...

We have friends with scooters here, too, but the traffic is so heavy I don't want our son to get one. They just aren't as expected I think. I am glad your son's friend survived - hope he is a quick healer. I am also glad that your son's scooter broke down at home and not on some main road while in transit - phew! Hang in there, Mom!

Thanks girls ~ i now remember what my mom told me years ago "small children, small problems - big children, big problems" .... a lot of those "reminders" from way back, are coming back to me now.

Hey Sheryl, thanks for the reminder!! LOL >>>> Anyway - try not to worry your heart too much. Before you know it he will give you something else to worry about, LOL (kidding)

Mandy I know what you are going through my son 18 has just passed last week his driveing test it took him 4 attemps, ashamed to say each time he failed I was glad but you mum's will understand that. He has been given a car but when he goes out I give him a list of do's and dont's and he smile's and say's yes mum and I can only hope he takes heed. But I cannot relax untill he is home safe and if out at night like this evening I will not be able to sleep untill he is home, hubby on the other hand is able to snore through all my worrying.

Highlans i understand completly. You lay awake, and wonder if he is ok, and will finally fall asleep when you hear the key open the door, and know hes home safe.

Both my husband, and i lay awake when our son goes out night-fishing with friends, we take our cell phones, and landline phone, and keep them on the side table next to the bed, waiting for one of them to ring lol - during the night my husband phones him a couple of times to ask him if "hes had a bait" but i know better lol - before he hangs up, he will tell him "if there is anything, U CALL"

It's hard to let go, i try not to show him, but i am clear to him of my worries. I have seen too many accidents happen, few friends, with kids hes age, it's just something that will never wipe off my mind.

And I am waiting for my 18 year old son to feel well enough to get his license and get out there. We all seem to worry over our kids no matter what they are doing. I look forward to worrying over him being out. So remind me that I said that when it happens! lol

My son is 16. I am probably going to let him start the process of getting his license in January. I am not ready for him to drive but I may need him to while I am going through treatments and especially after the surgery. There was a 17 year old girl in his school killed in a car wreck last week. I really hate when they grow up and we have to let go.

I am sure it will always mean a lot to him, that he was able to act as an adult and drive you to and from your treatments.

I'm 21 and she has only let me drive her once and that was because the doctor says she wasn't allowed to drive due to the anesthetics and pain medication. I have a stubborn Mom, that's for sure! :)

My father went back and forth with letting us help and needing to handle it on his own. I can relate to that - these days I have to accept any help that's offered but it almost always feels a bit off. I am so grateful for all that I am given.

I don't think we'll ever stop worrying. My 31 year old neice lives about 2 hours away and my brother still makes her call before she comes home and after she arrives back to her house. I guess in some way...they will always be our babies.

Thank God your son is okay. I'm so sorry about the others who were hurt and even killed.

It is, I have learned, as hard to let go and let them grow up as it is to raise them.
If my daughter and I were on good terms, I would be up her butt for sure now that she's sick! I probably would be living in the same town as her, worrying constantly.

I remember the first day she got her car and took it out alone. I was on the beach having a very quiet nervous breakdown since I was in public. Sheryl - you put it perfectly "Place that bottled up fear into an angel's hands and try to relax."

As I sat there, freaking out, I realized I better call in my angels. I gave it over to them, and I told my mother (who I had not gotten along with when she was alive at all), that if she made sure that Jessie was okay, I would forgive her.

So far, Jessie has never been in an accident!

Judy, so true. It IS as hard to let them grow up, as it is to raise them. Placing that bottled up fear in angels hands is something i am going to have to do.

He gave himself away yesterday, we were driving home when my husband asked him, wheres that shooting club you visited with school, lets go see if they open, so we can go, and have a look.
He showed us, from there he said "oh you dont need to go back to the main road, take the back road"
I asked him, how he knew hes way around there, because i would get lost there, he said, hes been there with Mark. Now those roads are used for races by these kids, and so dangerous, theres tractors coming/going all day long, pulling up from these little side roads, and there are many of those crossings, so i told him never ever to go there again ~ seriously, i dont think i even want to know where they all hang out.

Mandy,

That's another thing. My daughter and I were very close, and as she was becoming a young woman, she was comfortable telling me certain stories I really didn't want to hear. I finally just started laughing and told her, "Honey, I love you, and I'm glad you're spreading your wings, but I am your mother and really can't know about (you can fill in the rest)." I told her she would understand when she had her own children and to just take my word for it.

If a bit of denial and delusion helps get us through the day, then go for it.

If my own mother had any idea about what I really did, I wouldn't be here typing!

Judy ~ so true LOL... if our mom's knew everything :rolleyes:
Many times, my brother, and myself talk about "those days" ... i know things about him, i would never in a million years share with my mom - and he knows everything about me, most of those things he will take to hes grave one day, unshared with anyone.

My mother always listened to everything - poor thing!

Did you ever think that she really wasn't listening at all? I've very often had an entire "conversation" with my students, and certain adults, where I could never tell you what they had been talking about. Just tuned them right out and said mmhmm in appropriate places.

Unfortunately, she took it all in! Now that I am a parent, I know there are places I just don't want to go. But I do think my parents were going along with the parenting advice of the 60's. Hopefully, we've modified that into something that works better - social evolution.