It sounds like it could, and IS a really big thing. You have every right to have a say in ALL of your money matters ALWAYS, no matter if you are working or not. That's what being a family is. People ARE more important than things. Period.
I have seen so many people practicing their religion, but they are so far away from living the way Jesus teaches us..it's not even funny.
I'm sure Scott just thinks he's doing what he should to save money. Do you think he would go out of his way to help somebody if he didn't have to spend any of his money doing it? Does he have a generous nature in general? Maybe giving money to a charity or relief fund is just beyond his comprehension, but he would stop on the side of the road to help a stranger change a flat tire. Sometimes people are generous in different ways.
The bottom line is how all of this makes YOU feel. I'm just trying to help you think things through
You have fantastic instincts Lindsey. Trust them.