I respect everyone's opinion that has posted so far on this topic. I do have to say I feel differently though.
Porn is in my house. Not via the computer watched by myself or hubby but my hubby has Playboy and we do have video's. I have to admit, There are times when I will pick up the newest copy of his Playboy and read it before he even get's around to it. LOL
Actually they really do have good articles in there and I feel the pictures of woman are tastefully done and are very beautiful.
Does it make me feel insecure or not sexy when he looks at his magazine's? Nope, not really. I can make my ownself feel these things with it by eating too much, feeling lazy and not wearing make-up, putting on shabby under garmets, etc. Him reading a magazine w/ beautiful woman is not going to make me feel insecure. He is a good husband and having him read Playboy doesn't interfere w/ any of our marriage, our lives, etc.
Now the movies....We both watch them together actually. What can I say? I am older, less hormones or whatever and it takes A LOT to get me excited. It is hard to "turn off the day's events, forget the dishes are not done, and BAM become all romantic feeling etc." So, not giving details, but us watching a movie, maybe taking out lotions and rubbing each other's backs or necks to relax etc, helps "turn it on" sorta say. I just don't see how this is "bad for our marriage".
Now hubby (nor I) get online to watch porn. He is too busy working hard so we can keep a roof over our head and well I just don't find it neccessary for such things.
There are different levels of porn and I of course have my limits. I and my hubby too feels it completely wrong to involve kids/porn, or S & M situations. Like I said, everyone has their limits or knows where to draw the line. Other's don't I guess??
I also don't feel that if another married man video's or read's porn he finds his wife less appealing. Nor does it mean he will cheat, etc. I think most men are attracted to a pretty female and are more visual in what "turns them on". It's how the "male" is built.
So there ya go. Those are my thoughts about all this stuff.
