What about porn?

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by rivermom

I respect everyone's opinion that has posted so far on this topic. I do have to say I feel differently though.

Porn is in my house. Not via the computer watched by myself or hubby but my hubby has Playboy and we do have video's. I have to admit, There are times when I will pick up the newest copy of his Playboy and read it before he even get's around to it. LOL Actually they really do have good articles in there and I feel the pictures of woman are tastefully done and are very beautiful.

Does it make me feel insecure or not sexy when he looks at his magazine's? Nope, not really. I can make my ownself feel these things with it by eating too much, feeling lazy and not wearing make-up, putting on shabby under garmets, etc. Him reading a magazine w/ beautiful woman is not going to make me feel insecure. He is a good husband and having him read Playboy doesn't interfere w/ any of our marriage, our lives, etc.

Now the movies....We both watch them together actually. What can I say? I am older, less hormones or whatever and it takes A LOT to get me excited. It is hard to "turn off the day's events, forget the dishes are not done, and BAM become all romantic feeling etc." So, not giving details, but us watching a movie, maybe taking out lotions and rubbing each other's backs or necks to relax etc, helps "turn it on" sorta say. I just don't see how this is "bad for our marriage".

Now hubby (nor I) get online to watch porn. He is too busy working hard so we can keep a roof over our head and well I just don't find it neccessary for such things.

There are different levels of porn and I of course have my limits. I and my hubby too feels it completely wrong to involve kids/porn, or S & M situations. Like I said, everyone has their limits or knows where to draw the line. Other's don't I guess??

I also don't feel that if another married man video's or read's porn he finds his wife less appealing. Nor does it mean he will cheat, etc. I think most men are attracted to a pretty female and are more visual in what "turns them on". It's how the "male" is built.

So there ya go. Those are my thoughts about all this stuff.

I think it all depends on how the wife or gf feels about it. If she feels cheated or not valued in any way, then it is a problem. If it causes arguments, I think the guy should stop out of respect for her. JMO.

[cindy0721]

i see your point,,, Like I said hubby and I have gone through this... to me honestly.... between us .. I think I can live with it... I would much rather deal with this whatever it's called than going out to strip clubs, staying out with the boys late, a drinking or drug problem.. however my arguement to him has always been the sneaking around to do it... to me when you sneak around it means you have something to be ashamed of or guilty for... I probably don;t help the situation by not being more understanding but it is a work in progress... I don't think there is a man out there that has not done it or is not doing it... like riversmom said ...it's the way they are built.. just like us woman we are built with the mother hen gene...lol

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by cindy0721

I don't think there is a man out there that has not done it or is not doing it...

I'm going to respectfully disagree...because I know that my husband doesn't.

I will be honest and tell you that I absolutely hate it! Especially if it is looked at or watched behind my back. It makes me feel so gross.... Its been an issue to me for a whlie. I could go on and on about the reasons I dont like it.