I'm not married yet so I can't exactly contribute to this, but I do have a story. lol I was dating this guy for about 3 years and somewhere in those 3 years he told me I was chubby and told me that I should lose some weight.
I was about 145lbs at the time...that's not over weight OR chubby when you are 5'7. I didn't look chubby, I just ate a lot. I have a high metabolism. Things kinda got rough about that time and a while later we had broken up. I'll never be with someone that says stuff like that. It really hurt my self esteem and it took a while to get over. The current guy I'm dating would never say anything like that. When he heard that story he actually got mad about it. *sigh* i learned my lesson about dating jerks.