I am sorry you are going through this. As many have said, a large portion of your problems stem from his drinking and I also noticed the fact that you all had conflicting schedules never gave you guys enough time to spend together as a family. My father is an alcoholic and he was physically abusive to my mother. She divorced him when I was 4. You have stated that your husband has never been physically abusive but verbally abusive to some degree. Personally, IMO I don't think it is healthy for your children to see their father constantly drunk and making negative comments towards their mom. If you are unhappy, your children are unhappy and that is never healthy for them. Family counseling is the best way to go, as well as individual counseling for yourself and your husband. Only you can decide if you want to try to work things out or throw in the towel. Follow your heart because I strongly believe in the power of a woman's intuition. Best of luck to you and if you ever feel like you need to unload or get anything off your chest, you can always find a friend on here.
