Living Together Before Marriage?

What is your view on a couple living together before marriage?

[Ponyup]

I decided it wasn't something I wanted to do. I know my parents wouldn't of approved, but it was a personal choice & the best thing for our situation. I'm glad we didn't the first 18months we were married were pretty tough. My husband & I are both loner types & getting used to living with someone was very hard for us. Had we not been married we might have thrown in the towell. But being married we stuck it out & it has turned out for the best.

[rivermom]

I myself have done it and it worked out well. I am not saying that every couple should, but each to decide what is best for themself and their partner.

[Janet]

I didn't do it, but don't really like the idea. My personal opinion is why isn't the union worth being married. Too easy to walk away, although too many walk away in marriage also. I think a promise to God means something. To each their own, that's just how I feel.

[cindy0721]

Originally Posted by Ponyup

I decided it wasn't something I wanted to do. I know my parents wouldn't of approved, but it was a personal choice & the best thing for our situation. I'm glad we didn't the first 18months we were married were pretty tough. My husband & I are both loner types & getting used to living with someone was very hard for us. Had we not been married we might have thrown in the towell. But being married we stuck it out & it has turned out for the best.

gotta agree with the above post on this one.... I'm not saying "get married" or anything like that, but I too think if it had not been for us being married we too would have just walked out..... but I am glad we didn't and are still together... We married young and all the odds were against but we made it and now this June it will be 5 years married!

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by cindy0721

gotta agree with the above post on this one.... I'm not saying "get married" or anything like that, but I too think if it had not been for us being married we too would have just walked out..... but I am glad we didn't and are still together... We married young and all the odds were against but we made it and now this June it will be 5 years married!

We married young as well. I was 18, but I'm SO glad we did. As for living together before marriage, my mom would've killed me, lol! Hubby's mom, on the other hand, suggested that he go to seminary and that we live together without getting married. I don't think that would've gone over very well!! She was just concerned because she got married young to his father and it was a bad marriage. She didn't want that for her son. I personally wouldn't do it, but as others have said, to each his own.

[DianaB]

I don't think that it's a good idea to live together before getting married. I think that people jump into relationships without really knowing the person that they're involved with. It takes a lot of time to REALLY get to know someone. By living together it makes it difficult to leave a relationship that's not right for you and move on and find the relationship that IS right for you. I think that finding the one person who is right for you takes alot of time and shouldn't be a decision that you take lightly. It is one of the most important decisions in your life.

[Mandy]

I have done it, and for us it worked out great! When we got married we got the "butterfly's" again, that was 16 years ago, almost 3 years ago we renewd our vows, and did it all over again, fell in love, were on cloud 9, had a huge wedding Keeps life interesting LOL

[Chandra Amaya]

I think it is always different for different situations & different people. With my first hubby we didn't. We were very young & I wish I had known alittle more about him before I had married him. Living together might have helped. He was a drug addict. My second hubby & I did. We lived together for a month before getting married. I think it was exactly what I needed to show me all men are not the same.

[Marilyn]

My opinion on this question does not matter. God gave us his Word as our guide and His opinion is the only one that does matter. He said that man should leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife, not go live with his girlfriend. Sorry ladies, but if we are to be God's faithful children, we need to do what He says. He knows what is best for us and He loves us.

It's not my intention to offend anyone, but God is often very specific on issues, and if we are striving to be like His son, we need to be specific as well and speak when the Bible speaks and be silent when it is silent.

I lived with my now Husband for 11 years before we were married. I wouldnt do it again and I would be very disapointed if My Daughter lived with a guy

[judy]

I lived with my ex for about 5 years before we got married. I also had a bad first marriage and really didn't want to ever get married again. It took Joel a long time to talk me into marriage. When we got married, it was a very different commitment, which I took very seriously. It didn't work out, but we tried very hard to stay together. I don't think we would have done that if we weren't married.

My boyfriend and I own a townhouse together. Some people think that owning is so final, but I know if things don't work out (knock on wood) we can always sell the house, and my mom's assured me I'm always welcome back home. I love living with him, and were learning so much about each other each day. We've only been together for 2years, which yeah that is kinda quick, but sometimes things happen faster for some people, sometimes slower. I don't plan on getting married until afte, r school, and when I'm in my later 20's, and I don't want to stay at my parents until I'm that old. And there's no way I want to live by myself. Our living together works out perfect, plus it's not like we see eachother all the time, like you would think we do since we live together. We both have very busy schedules, so our only time together is usually a couple hours before we go to sleep at night. I think it just depends on the person.

i live with my partner but we are now engaged, i would never marry someone without living with them first as i think only when you live with someone do you really truely know them and when i marry i want it to be for life.
but as its been said each to there own.

Originally Posted by Rae

My boyfriend and I own a townhouse together. Some people think that owning is so final, but I know if things don't work out (knock on wood) we can always sell the house, and my mom's assured me I'm always welcome back home. I love living with him, and were learning so much about each other each day. We've only been together for 2years, which yeah that is kinda quick, but sometimes things happen faster for some people, sometimes slower. I don't plan on getting married until afte, r school, and when I'm in my later 20's, and I don't want to stay at my parents until I'm that old. And there's no way I want to live by myself. Our living together works out perfect, plus it's not like we see eachother all the time, like you would think we do since we live together. We both have very busy schedules, so our only time together is usually a couple hours before we go to sleep at night. I think it just depends on the person.

My BF Jody and I actually moved in together after only dating 8 months... Pretty quick but its been amazing!! He and I get along so well and I wouldn't change a thing.. Since we discuss marriage and I'll probably be engaged by next year (i am guessing) i think it was for the best.. He lived with an ex GF and it didn't work out and i think he was a bit nervous but we get along so well.. Its been the best descision i've ever made!!