Anybody want a brother in law?????

[khardy57]

As background, my husband died in Oct '05. Because of his brother, I got screwed out of 47 acres that I helped pay for!! I put my house up for sale and bought another one and moved to get away from my inlaws. They have made every step of adjusting to widowhood extremely painful.

Well, I have a buyer for my house and at the last minute my brother in law claims that MY well is on his property. According to the law, I must have a well on the property - and it is, just outside the fence, so to satisty the buyer I'm now going to have to pay around $1,500 for a survey. I'm so sick of his crap I don't know what to do! I can't call and discuss this with him because we can't talk without arguing - he's an asshole!

There's nothing anyone can do, I just needed to get it off my chest. BTW - pray for me because it's not going to take much for me to wring his neck!


Thanks, all

he sounds like an damn ol turkey-ass to me!!! sometimes men are such selfish jerks!! i don't know what to tell you to do except pay for the survey or better yet tell him if he wants the well so damn bad HE can pay for the survey!!!

[rivermom]

Try to think of it this way. Once all the issues with the well/survey, etc are done, he wont be able to continue to hound you. It will be his own living hell he lives in knowing he can't torment you anymore. And YOU will be happy that his b.s is behind you. You will win in this entire situation. The good guys always do!

[Mandy]

YUK! He does sound like a right ********!!!! It won't be long anymore now, just think when it's all behind you, he can't do anything to you anymore!
Hang in there girl, we are here for you.

[Janet]

I am so sorry you are having to deal with this on top of everything else. Why would a man want to treat his brothers wife in such a fashion. As much as I would hate to get it done, I would do what is needed to get him out of your life.

I am puzzled why a survey would cost $1500. We had to have a property line survey done and it was only around $250 or $350. I would check with your local surveyor and make sure that the well isn't on YOUR property. He may already have it on file when the property was divided up. Most times a fence is erected INSIDE the property line, not right on the line itself. I hope for all he's putting you through that he ends up in the wrong. I'm wishing you all the best in this situation.

[khardy57]

Originally Posted by Janet

I am so sorry you are having to deal with this on top of everything else. Why would a man want to treat his brothers wife in such a fashion. As much as I would hate to get it done, I would do what is needed to get him out of your life.

I am puzzled why a survey would cost $1500. We had to have a property line survey done and it was only around $250 or $350. I would check with your local surveyor and make sure that the well isn't on YOUR property. He may already have it on file when the property was divided up. Most times a fence is erected INSIDE the property line, not right on the line itself. I hope for all he's putting you through that he ends up in the wrong. I'm wishing you all the best in this situation.

There hasn't been a survey on this property since the early 60's and all the metal pins are gone (2 guesses who pulled them up). Because my husband's estate still isn't settled, there has to be a "full" survey which costs more.


Thanks everyone for all your kind words. I'll be OK in the long run, I'm just really stressed out right now because every time I try to settle something, my husband's brother comes up with some BS why it can't be done.